What do you think? Could 14 year old date a 20 year old?

by SaltAndBurn ★ Posted 2012/04/13 21:48:44

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	Yes, because...	106 votes	37%
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Ruadon to Jackie ... 2012/04/14 01:35:22

part of that depends on where the relationship happens. In some states (with parental consent) the legal age for a person to have date, have sex, or even marry can be as young as 12. and its only been in the last 100 yrs or so that any laws of this sort applied. 100 yrs ago, girl was considered an old maid if she wasn't married by the time she was 19 or 20

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Jackie ... to Ruadon 2012/04/14 01:38:16

But we live now and it is illegal in most every state and it should be

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Ruadon to Jackie ... 2012/04/14 01:47:33

maybe so, but personally I think it would do some of these kids good to have responsiblity forced on them a little, where they have to go out into the big bad world and finally realize the world isn't going to hand them anything

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7leads 2012/04/13 23:28:50

No, because...

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If they want to go to prison....go for it....

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Classical Liberal 2012/04/13 23:28:36

No, because...

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the law calls that rape. I wouldn't. Most 14 year olds still look kinda like kids anyway...

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wildcat 2012/04/13 23:28:12

Yes, because...

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but only if the 20 year-old- wants to end up in jail

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Yosyp 2012/04/13 23:26:40

No, because...

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a 14 year old is not mature enough and a 20 year old should know better

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3003573 2012/04/13 23:26:17
cate 2012/04/13 23:24:41

No, because...

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Even though many 14 year olds consider themselves grown, they are not. Best to wait and date someone who is not 20 years old.

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LukeC 2012/04/13 23:23:52

No, because...

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Any 20 year old knows how to keep a 14 year old whipped, completely vulnerable to being taken advantage of.

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POWERSHAKER 2012/04/13 23:22:55

No, because...

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It's illegal! Hello!? A fourteen year old is a minor. They shouldn't be dating anyone.

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Anthony... to POWERSH... 2012/04/14 00:10:16 (edited)

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Since I like your responses, I will play devil's advocate again, and propose this: How is it illegal if their relationship is asexual? How would age of consent laws apply to such a relationship?

Take care,

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POWERSH... to Anthony... 2012/04/14 00:12:01

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A twenty year old shouldn't have anything to do with a fourteen year old. You're just asking for trouble and playing with fire. Why would they want to hang out anyway? Also, a twenty year old is much too mature to be hanging out with a fourteen year old. Sure. It's not a illegal if its asexual, but thinking that's the case is just wishful thinking.

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Anthony... to POWERSH... 2012/04/14 00:16:18

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Since you asked, since I am playing devils advocate, he could be hanging out with her because he loves her personality: is asexual love for another immoral, even if it's with a minor?

Take care,

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Queen B 2012/04/13 23:22:38

No, because...

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A 14 year old is a child and a 20 year old is an adult. That would make it illegal and the 20 year old could go to jail. Children and adults do not need to be involved in a dating relationship.

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sjalan 2012/04/13 23:21:28

Yes, because...

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They could, but they shouldn't.

Your question would have been better worded as such. "What do you think? SHOULD a 14 year old date a 20 year old?"

You would have gotten the real answers to your poll that way.

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toxic_phantom 2012/04/13 23:21:12

No, because...

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a 14 year old is way too immature and naive to date somebody that old. especially if the 20 year old is untrustworthy.

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7leads to toxic_p... 2012/04/13 23:47:03

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are any 20 year olds trustworthy with a hardon?? None I know of.

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toxic_p... to 7leads 2012/04/13 23:54:19

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well i believe there are the good few (EXTREME few) that are trustworthy. but they probably wouldnt be dumb enough to date a minor.

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7leads to toxic_p... 2012/04/14 00:04:52

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I hate to surprise you...but my daughter begs to differ....many could care less...lol

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dylan b... to 7leads 2012/12/12 23:09:10

The question didnt say 20yr old male. There are cases where its a 20yr old woman

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lonewolf 2012/04/13 23:16:53 (edited)

No, because...

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no way. he can go to jail for that and he is taking advange of you

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Kat 2012/04/13 23:10:34

No, because...

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A 14 year old is too immature to date a 20 year old. Besides that a 20 year old has no business dating someone so young. He could be in big time trouble.

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7leads to Kat 2012/04/13 23:48:51
Kat to 7leads 2012/04/14 00:38:49

+1
sick is right!

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Roblem BN-0 2012/04/13 23:08:26

No, because...

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#1. 14 y.o. is under the limit for adults to date. #2 at that age in life the difference is pretty huge. There would most likely be one reason and one reason alone that a 20 yo would date a 14 yo.

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sally 2012/04/13 22:58:09

No, because...

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For one, that's not good for some barely teen to be dating a 20 year old. I doubt they're mature enough to handle the situation. Secondly, there's no way a parent should allow that kind of thing, for all they know their kid could be manipulated into a sexual relationship and that is illegal.

The 20 year old idiot who does that should be in jail.

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Anthony... to sally 2012/04/13 23:02:31

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However, to play devils advocate, is it immoral or illegal to be in a asexual relationship with a minor of 14? Age of consent pertains to being sexually active with a minor. Is there any law to preclude it from being a relationship without sex? And what would make such a relationship wrong?

Take care,

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Muskoka to Anthony... 2012/04/13 23:36:01

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The potential is always there. Even is sex is not part of the relationship, the 20 yr old is putting themself in a position to be taken advantage of as well. They could at any time be charged with a crime of rape whether or not it happened.

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Andy Fl... to Muskoka 2012/04/13 23:50:17

Now that is a sensible and accurate response.

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Anthony... to Andy Fl... 2012/04/13 23:58:39

It's sensible to charge someone with a crime that they never perpetrated? :P

Take care,

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Andy Fl... to Anthony... 2012/04/14 00:09:49

No, what Muskoka said in that response is highly accurate. Even in my state where the technical age of consent for females to have sex with males is 16, the parents could still call for prosecution under statuatory rape laws. In most places sex is not a required action for statuatory rape.

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Anthony... to Andy Fl... 2012/04/14 00:14:01

Then that law is flawed and exists only to create an illegal context for people who are in asexual relationships with minors: I would even go as far as to call it an abuse of law; this is because statutory rape is sex with a minor: it can't be applied to asexual relationships as it wouldn't make sense; they should make alternate laws to forbid asexual relationships, as changing the purpose and intent of statutory rape to fit is unjust.

Take care,

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Anthony... to Muskoka 2012/04/13 23:58:08

You can't be charged with the possibility of a crime that you might commit, and if they haven't done any criminal action, than by all means charge him: if they are following their own legal standards, it would be impossible to find him guilty if he hadn't done it unless they aren't being just; how would a legal system be just if it finds innocent people guilty of crimes all of the time who committed no crime? And if it's unjust, than why follow it to begin with?

If it's perfectly valid to date a 14 year old on moral and legal grounds, than the possibility of a crime doesn't negate that reality.

Take care,

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7leads to Anthony... 2012/04/13 23:57:46

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Your answer leads me to onie conclusion...you're either a pervert or you don't understand how 20 yr olds think...What, do you think a 14 and 20 yr old are going to walk in the park...Come on, get real...

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Anthony... to 7leads 2012/04/14 00:02:42

Your conclusion is based on a false assessment based on conjecture and assumptions: How am I a pervert if I can perceive of a circumstance that would be legally valid and without sex? The probability of a 20 year old wanting sex from a 14 year old and doing it is mute, it doesn't negate the reality that there might be a 20 year old out there that would date a 14 year old on an asexual basis. and by him doing so, he wouldn't be doing anything immoral or illegal by today's standards. Furthermore, he could get the consent to marry her from her parents, and bypass any such age of consent laws: as their marriage would invalidate them.

Take care,

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Anthony Souls 2012/04/13 22:57:18

Yes, because...

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If the 14 year old's parents approve of the relationship, than they could legally become married. Also, the age of consent pertains to a sexually active relationship, therefore, is it illegal or immoral to engage in a sexless relationship with a minor of 14? However, I believe that 14 is too young to maturely be aware of what she/he wants, and in that context it should be avoided.

Take care,

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200% 2012/04/13 22:56:33

Yes, because...

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If they want to.

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Muskoka to 200% 2012/04/13 23:36:36

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idiot response.

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Andy Fl... to Muskoka 2012/04/13 23:50:40

agreed

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