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What do you do if you HATE your mom's boyfriend?

Dollfaceā¤ 2010/08/27 16:49:03
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I absolutley HATE my moms "boyfriend" theyve been " engaged" for 7 or 8 freaking years and ive delt with him for that long! And honestly i cant take it anymore. We fight constantly because hes a big baby, complains all the time, talks rudley about me, and gets into my business. My mom is getting tired of it also and he always ALWAYS says hes going to move but he NEVER does and i asked my mom when he was going to and she said " Probably never. Sorry" And i mean id rather go live with my mean father but then i wouldnt be able to have any contact with my boyfriend and honestly id ont know what to do!!!????

Please any suggestions???
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  • Haley Zapata 2014/09/01 13:28:16
    Haley Zapata
    +2
    I hate my mommy boyfriend i hate him so bad because my mom say sorry for nothing he gets what he wants i don't want them toghter i just hate him
  • Kallieghtillery 2014/08/09 02:37:52
    Kallieghtillery
    +1
    I HATE my moms "boy toy" he's always at my house. And never let's me talk to my mom it makes me so mad I told my mom that and she told me I'm being selfish. I told her I don't know why she wants a relationship so fast BC she just got out of a relationship 1 week ago I need help and fast!!! Any suggestions please
  • Janette 2014/06/14 22:11:14
    Janette
    +2
    Guess I'm not alone when I say my moms boyfriend is the most intolerable person to be around. Not only does he slap my moms butt which is disgusting and I've asked him not to do (in response he kept doing it and I'm about ready to take a baseball bat to his head.) He will force my mother to keep drinking something even if she doesn't want it anymore. When he's play video games he'll yell at her to get him a beer or me to get him one. He yells at me which he should have no authority over me since he isn't my father and he's a complete baby. He'll bother me to no ends like one time my mom was fixing my hair for me since I missed a spot straightening that I couldn't reach and antagonized me till I was yelling. I want my mom to be happy but if it means constantly being bossed around and annoyed by a man who obviously doesn't care about any of us than why should I care. If I bring this up to her she will defend him and get angry like he isn't the antagonist and he isn't a horrible person. At first I liked him but now he's yelling at everyone and talking crap about my family behind their back.
  • Genesis... Janette 2014/07/07 05:31:13
  • destini 2014/06/04 06:39:08
    destini
    +1
    can you guys help me i don't like my moms boyfriends cause he trys to act like a dad or something and boss us around she dosent do anything I I don't like him cause he ask my mom for nudes but not to be mean im very overprotect about her i don want her to get hurt but he slap her butt in front of me and he already trying to ask my mom to marry him I don want that and I think she pregnant and I don't want that sometime I think she would pick him over us
  • TheBradyator 2014/06/01 12:19:02
    TheBradyator
    +3
    my mum's fiance sucks, he favourites my other siblings and hates me. He hits and smacks my brother and sister and dragged me head first down the stairs. ive constantly though about running away and i just want to kill him, if i move to live with my dad i wont see any of my friends or get my GCSEs.... what to do...?
  • swany TheBrad... 2014/06/26 14:24:51
    swany
    +1
    not sure what GCSEs are but id move out im guessing your in highschool so as far as freinds go youll make new ones and if hes that bad a guy you dont need to b around him
  • peaceloveno 2014/05/28 20:25:45
    peaceloveno
    +1
    Wow this is seriously amazing. I had no idea how many other people HATE their mom's boyfriends. Here's my story.

    So they've been together for almost 2 years now and it is an actual hell. He bought me a brand new cellphone but I never fricken have it because he always fricken grounds me from it??? He literally sits on that damn chair and watches tv and sits on his phone all day. He is a fireman so he goes to work every third day which is AMAZING but for about 6-8 months, his "back hurt" soooooooo bad so he couldn't go to work so he was home all day. He stalks all of my social media accounts and has gotten me in trouble for countless things because he's "always watching." He loves my two youngest siblings but hates me and my 11 year old brother. But mostly me. He acts like he is my dad but my real dad has never been around so I basically have no dad. But that a-hole is DEFINITELY not my dad. I understand that I have been mean/sassy in the past but he is a horrible person. He beat my mom up and went to jail and then my mom TOOK HIM BACK when she got out of jail which I still cannot believe she did that. He always takes my computer which he did not buy for me. He recently just "bugged it." He kicked me out in the snow once but not before taking my shoes and coat because "he paid ...
    Wow this is seriously amazing. I had no idea how many other people HATE their mom's boyfriends. Here's my story.

    So they've been together for almost 2 years now and it is an actual hell. He bought me a brand new cellphone but I never fricken have it because he always fricken grounds me from it??? He literally sits on that damn chair and watches tv and sits on his phone all day. He is a fireman so he goes to work every third day which is AMAZING but for about 6-8 months, his "back hurt" soooooooo bad so he couldn't go to work so he was home all day. He stalks all of my social media accounts and has gotten me in trouble for countless things because he's "always watching." He loves my two youngest siblings but hates me and my 11 year old brother. But mostly me. He acts like he is my dad but my real dad has never been around so I basically have no dad. But that a-hole is DEFINITELY not my dad. I understand that I have been mean/sassy in the past but he is a horrible person. He beat my mom up and went to jail and then my mom TOOK HIM BACK when she got out of jail which I still cannot believe she did that. He always takes my computer which he did not buy for me. He recently just "bugged it." He kicked me out in the snow once but not before taking my shoes and coat because "he paid for them." Him and my mom fight all of the time and they blame me for the fighting. I have to see therapy because of him and he thinks I'm faking it to get attention. He tells my mom what a terrible parent she is and he should get to do all of the discipline when he has NEVER had kids before in his life. I try to be a good person and not hate people but i hate him so much. I want to set him on fire and throw him off a cliff into a pit of boiling lava but of course when I told my friend that, and he read my texts and made it out to my mom that I am the evil one and he has turned my mom against me. He is "allergic" to cats (he isn't really) so we had to leave our cats with my mom's ex and I only get to see 2/3 of my siblings every few days because of him. He lied to my mom so now my mom hates my best friend and her mom. He won't let me go on my mission trip that I have been saving up for. I want to move out but none of my family lives in the school district and I still have 2 more years of high school. He has driven me to the point where I don't even want to live anymore just because I don't want to see his ugly face anymore. I can't deal with this piece of crap anymore.
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  • hali ba... peacelo... 2014/06/12 01:41:24
    hali bartholomew
    +3
    Ya know, I understand. My mom and this guy have been dating for about 3 years. She is like 36 and he's 23. I hate him so much! He's so immature. He has cheated on her so much. I tell her all the time how much I hate him and how he's not good for me, her and my 2 brothers. He is so mean to me.. He hits my mom and he has major anger issues. When I tell my mom I don't like him she just takes up for him and tells me im being a drama queen. Just recently they broke up and now they are talking again!!! She says they aren't but she posts stuff on Instagram about him and then she tells me they are just "friends" I sit here and cry every night because I don't feel safe around him. I honestly hate him. I'm sitting in bed right now and he's about to come over and my mom is forcing me to talk to him. Even though he has hurt us and her so much!! She always picks him over us.. And she puts him before us. She said she doesn't care if I don't like him. Even though it's my life too... I hate this... So many good guys want to date my mom and I try and talk her into it but she won't... I am so upset.. I hate him and I don't know what to do.
  • Rysheed Jones 2014/05/19 03:45:51
  • Rebecca 2014/04/08 20:16:23
    Rebecca
    +1
    I HATE my moms "Boyfriend. It annoys me because my mom doesn't do anything about her boyfriend calling my brother fat and yelling at him. He also yells at me and both my brother and I stand our ground but e defend each other all the time. I try to stay in my room as much as possible or go out as much as possible, but when I stay in my room all day because no one can hang out with me he yells at me for not doing anything when he's the one who sits on his ass all day watching t.v while playing on his laptop (Which he buys a new one every year yet he says he's broke and can't buy anything)and he passes out after he eats and sometimes he drinks too much wine or beer and passes out from that! He makes us (my brother and I) do everything for him, whether it's put the dog out or go to the store and buy stuff for HIM that he won't even share with EVERYONE. Plus, he has yelled at my brother for eating a bowl of "HIS" spaghetti when he didn't give us anything to eat that day (We were in a hotel so we couldn't leave without him knowing). He moved in with us a few years ago and he doesn't even pay half of the months payments for the house! And then, my brother said that he wasn't in charge of him and he yelled that the house we live in was HIS HOUSE AND NOT OURS! I'm pretty sure that we w...
    I HATE my moms "Boyfriend. It annoys me because my mom doesn't do anything about her boyfriend calling my brother fat and yelling at him. He also yells at me and both my brother and I stand our ground but e defend each other all the time. I try to stay in my room as much as possible or go out as much as possible, but when I stay in my room all day because no one can hang out with me he yells at me for not doing anything when he's the one who sits on his ass all day watching t.v while playing on his laptop (Which he buys a new one every year yet he says he's broke and can't buy anything)and he passes out after he eats and sometimes he drinks too much wine or beer and passes out from that! He makes us (my brother and I) do everything for him, whether it's put the dog out or go to the store and buy stuff for HIM that he won't even share with EVERYONE. Plus, he has yelled at my brother for eating a bowl of "HIS" spaghetti when he didn't give us anything to eat that day (We were in a hotel so we couldn't leave without him knowing). He moved in with us a few years ago and he doesn't even pay half of the months payments for the house! And then, my brother said that he wasn't in charge of him and he yelled that the house we live in was HIS HOUSE AND NOT OURS! I'm pretty sure that we were here before you and you don't even pay a fair share to be here! He has even pushed my brother and threatened to kick me out because we stood up for ourselves! My mom needs to do something about this because I can NOT stand living in the same house with him for 4 more years! My brother's going to be moving out soon, so I'm gonna be getting it twice as bad! I NEED HIM TO GET OUT OF MY LIFE!
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  • taylorp... Rebecca 2014/04/30 23:27:06
    taylorpolson
    +3
    My mom and my boyfriend have been together for about a year and half now. At first, i didnt really mind him, i liked him alittle because my mom was happy after the divorse when she startes to date him. But whem we started to move in, he started to act like he was our dad or something. He started to acts like the boss of us. Everytime he is doing something like, not helping clean or do something small, my mom would ask him nicely if he could do dishes tonight because she did then all this week. Je would complain that hr workd all day and was tired. Even tho, we only cooks and my moms job is way more physical. Now he is always complaining about my brother being lazy and he would yell at them for little reasons. He also has this nasty dog that has a skin problem and always licks and chews on her body which makes this nasty noise. When she would be on my moms couch she would stain it with her salivia. And when my mom would ask jason to keep the dog of he would freak out and have her come on anyways. And there is so much more but that would take FOREVER to explain. but i hate HIM so much! I want him to leave. He is not good enough for my mom
  • peacelo... taylorp... 2014/05/28 20:09:04
    peaceloveno
    +3
    ahh omg this sounds just like my situation! i feel you girl
  • Rysheed... Rebecca 2014/05/19 03:39:21
    Rysheed Jones
    +2
    yeah ik what you mean my moms boyfriend got us robbed and my mom still went back to him because she said he saved our life because he killed one of the guys that tried to rob us when he's the one that got us robbed and then we had to pack up and move to california lik wtf none of my likes him and he always has to put his 2 cents in something like sometimes i just want to tell him to shut up and go away and stay away but i know my mom would send my head through a brick wall so i just ignore him and he dosent say anything to me and plus i dont like him because hes a snitch and ive heard him call my mama a b*&^% before and thats f'ed up like real talk
  • Nat Turner 2014/03/31 15:00:49
    Nat Turner
    Nothing! mom has a life too !
  • tanaynay 2014/02/28 02:21:33
    tanaynay
    +3
    SAME!! i totally despise my moms boyfriend. hes rude annoying a marine so he thinks that that he knows every damn thing. he took my phone hacked into it and read all of my txt messages and read them aloud to my family. which was awful because im almost always pissed off at my family especially my mom so i put all my feelings and thoughts into my txt messages which are not the greatest. he ruined everything. he always has to know everything. one morning i was sleeping and he woke me up asking me what i was doing (sleeping obviously) then he asked if i was dreaming i said yes and then he asked me what i was dreaming about so i told him then he asked meWHY iwas thinking about it and im like WHAT THE F***. another time i was cleaning my room and he called me but i didnt hear him so he came in and almost broke the door and screamed at me and told my mom Shut the f*** up, and not to disrespect him.hes an ass*****. HES ALWAYS MAKING MY MOM CRY. I HATE HIM. I thought it was just me.
  • Rysheed... tanaynay 2014/05/19 03:42:03
    Rysheed Jones
    +2
    i am with you i hate my moms boyfriend hes a dope selling criminal who thinks he knows everything
  • kennylee 2014/01/06 06:28:19 (edited)
    kennylee
    +3
    U am so happy to know I am not the only one too I hate him he's always cheating on my mom talking crap about her making her cry but to be honest my mom is really desperate i have know idea why no one in my family likes him but her; everyone when we go to see distant family make fun if him and my mother still does not understand he doesn't like her and she has to move on with her life he uses her for her body because sometimes I hear their conversations and he is always hooking up with girls and doing that but my mom is that annoying one he hates but otherwise their is this really rich guy who likes her with his on plane successfully made it through life nice and everything but yet she cheats in him with a low life I'm 14 moving with my grandparents because we have agreed she is getting out of hand. And a way to ignore it is to play video games and play football with friends because it a rough sport so everyone I tackle I pretend is my moms dick boyfriend and in the plus side I lost 3 lbs and have string legs and getting abs now really helps !
  • ashleigh 2013/12/15 18:27:50
    ashleigh
    +2
    My mum and her boyfriend have been dating for about 4 years now, and I absolutely HATE him! I'm 17 and want to move out but am scared to. I try to get out the house as much as I can to avoid him but everytime I go back home I just feel depressed! I feel glad I'm not the only one in this situation
  • kiara means 2013/12/14 17:25:24
    kiara means
    I hate my moms boyfriend too!! Gosh I thought I was the only one!!! But I stay in my room like all day with my headphones on and just ignore because I cannot stand him he so mean and annoying
  • lulu 2013/12/08 02:52:48 (edited)
    lulu
    +1
    I know what your going through my moms boyfriend is a douche bag. He's always rude to her an constantly making digs about how we don't pic up after ourselves and that we don't have manners. He has even gotten violent a few times. The best thing to do is ignore him. I spend most of my time in my room, with my headphones in so I don't have to hear them fight. Angry music works and so does beautiful cartoons of him getting hit by buses. :-)
  • kennylee lulu 2014/01/06 06:31:20
    kennylee
    +2
    I feel ur pain
  • IHATEMOMSBOYFRIEND 2013/11/30 07:30:26 (edited)
    IHATEMOMSBOYFRIEND
    +2
    I absolutely HATE when people say there is nothing the children can do!! I need a sure plan to get rid of this low life, he is literally ruining my life!! I'm sorry I can't help, I am literally in the middle of trying to break my mom and this douche up. Hopefully you can find a way to break them up! Best of luck!!
  • Calissa 2013/11/28 22:54:58
    Calissa
    Okay we'll I'm dealing with the same problem so don't worry what I do honey is I ignore him the best I can dont pay attention to anything he's says don't even look at him and you know my moms boyfriend ruined my thanksgiving because he's an ass but just do what I do and 18 is not that far away what I also do is go to friends house as long as you can I hate livingrwith my mom I'm only 15 and I feel like the rest of my childhood is ruined but just do those things k wish us both good luck
  • Anahi 2013/11/28 04:19:32
    Anahi
    +3
    OMG!!!!!! I hate my mommys bf,he's always around and gives me a cold eye.I lost my special bond with my mommy.She didn't tell me till last month and they have been together since February!!!!!! I hate the guy.Im 10.im working on a plan to Separate those 2!!!!!!! I can't picture my mum with anyone else but my dad! They split up when I was 3,when my daddy was dating and married to like what? 10 women!!!!!! We'll bye I just wanted to share that.I just need my mommy!
  • Cheyann... Anahi 2013/11/28 23:16:17
    Cheyanne Forever
    I'm 9
  • alicia.... Anahi 2014/01/04 21:21:15 (edited)
    alicia.shamp.1
    +3
    I'm dealing with the same thing I'm ur age to and I hate my moms bf
  • josh.baskey 2013/11/24 14:51:10
    josh.baskey
    +3
    i got nothing but to try and be nice to him when your around him but just not be ok when he leaves its what i do but he wants to be my father after 6 months i cant stand him he doesnt like playing video games but likes guns and outdoor activites plus he just talks to my mom i also think he is trying to buy me because he always buys comics and music i wish he was never around if you get what i mean
  • Liv 2013/11/16 17:10:58
    Liv
    I flipping HATE my mums boyfriend and they have just got engaged!! I want to go and live with my nan but my mum said I have to cope til I am 17!! And seriously I can't wait that long otherwise I will probably selfharm myself!! I have done before and trust DONT do it!! Take my advice and just persuade your mum to dump his sorry ass!! I love my mum more than you could imagen but I seriously want to move out and I am 11!! She said I have to cope with it!!

    Any suggestions on what I can do??
  • Elly Watson 2013/11/10 20:35:51
  • kennylee Elly Wa... 2014/01/06 06:34:02
    kennylee
    Tell ur mom negative crap and say next time he comes ull take a basball bat and bash his head then he never comes to the housr
  • Cesar 2013/08/29 07:06:15
  • Cesar Cesar 2013/08/29 13:38:01
    Cesar
    +1
    I just hate this guy so much
  • brianom... Cesar 2013/11/03 17:08:49
    brianomarion
    +2
    My dad left when I was 3 for education and job purposes, but he kept in touch all through but my mom had this guy but he was not that bad, my dad offered her the chance for us all to go and live with him but she declined, she then had other different men in our lives which were just bruts to me, one of this guys actually was molesting me and my bro but atleast my gramps always had our back, they broke up and another guy out of the blues comes on, obviously for the first days weeks months he is this good man, then turns out he has another family with 8 kids, my mom doesn't care then this is after 16 years my dad tries to becomes a part of our lives although he also had another family abroad, and I still love him like I've known him all my life, and I get the greatest 2 weeks of my life before he could go back to work but he promises to keep tabs, we do that for around 2-3 months and suddenly my life was Damn PERFECT, then he just went all silent, I try asking my mom and turns out she made him mad although I really don't know what it was about , now am stuck with this guy who looks like he doesn't care about his other family and we argue about everything we talk about and this makes me miss my dad even more and at the same time hate, this guy the more ,I am 20 years and I don't know what to do with all this hatred forming within me.
  • Taniyah... Cesar 2013/11/27 00:47:13 (edited)
    Taniyah Jones
    +2
    My moms boufriend is such a loser.he smoke weed nobody that lives with us hate him my cousin/little brother/ big sister and me.and i really dont care about moms boyfriends except for thos one.he hits my little brother and mom keep telling him" keep your hsnds off my kids"he really dont listen.i wish he would fall off a cliff and DIE
  • Joshua Davis 2013/08/11 08:28:08 (edited)
    Joshua Davis
    +3
    Hey Iam Joshua Iam 10 years old and my dad passed away last year and now It's a friend of my uncle and that friend likes my mom and now they talk to each other on the phone my mom is thinking about invite him to my house and maybe fix him breakfast WTH she don't barely know him like that I don't know him like that he can be up to NO good. It's bothering me so BAD. I wish this just STOP! Iam not ready for my mom to be with someone else Iam NOT.
  • Jessica.Hewit 2013/08/08 18:56:38
    Jessica.Hewit
    +5
    I'm in the same possession as you just that she's only been with him for two weeks I've told her I dont want him in my life but she just ignores me! I'm also worried that she wants to spend more time with him than me and loves him more than me. Even though shes only been dating him for two weeks she has knew him for about twelve, thirteen year. Sorry I unforgettably dont have any suggestions, I just wanted to let my feelings free.
  • ashley 2013/07/17 01:30:05
    ashley
    +2
    talk to your mom about it me and my mom get in big fights because I hate her boyfriend...My mom and him get in fights all the time and I ask her how u put up with that she says because I dought with ur father for 11 years since my parents are divorced I HATE him with all my gut I would cry if they got married and call my dad to have him pick me up soooo just keep in touch with ur mom about it and talk to her about ur feelings...
  • Carol 2013/07/10 00:25:57
    Carol
    +3
    I have the EXACT same situation, it isn't even funny. Just ignore him at times, talk to your mom and express your feelings too. I hate my mother's boyfriend too, but you don't want your mom to get upset... or even depressed! Try our best because you'll be leaving soon. : )
  • Kailey Doyle 2013/07/04 04:31:05

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