What do women desire the most sexually from men? To be desired.
Heisenberg
2011/02/02 00:19:31
Men's obsession with pornography has driven women into a sexual arm's race with the pornography industry.
"Davy Rothbart writes about his struggle to get off with a real, live woman -- and he blames it on porn: "For a lot of guys, switching gears from porn's fireworks and whiz-bangs to the comparatively mundane calm of ordinary sex is like leaving halfway through an Imax 3-D movie to check out a flipbook." Women end up "willingly play[ing] along by a new set of rules in order to keep their men interested."
As women compete with the porn industry to keep men's attention, they reveal much about the differences between male and female desire.
Men (generally) desire more sex.
Whether it's from one woman or many women, men want sex on-demand.
Women (generally) desire to be desired by a man.
Women specifically want to be desired by the man whom they have chosen as the object of their affection. Their love interest and all the benefits that accompany being desired namely bonding with a man to promote a feeling of acceptance, belonging and a sense of being cherished.
Take for example how teenage girls have taken to 'sexting' mostly because they want the attention of the boys:
"Reporter Alex Morris bravely embeds with a group of teenage girls and finds that they are flaunting sexy photos of themselves on Facebook and relishing the response it gets out of boys. A sampling of comments: "VERY SEXY... . I LIKEY" and "OMG OMG OMG OMG CAN WE PLEASE GET MARRIED!!!" (Ah, the poetry of youth.) As Morris puts it, this is "the secondhand sexual validation Facebook allows," and it's just one way that girls today are feeling out their "sexual potential online." One of the article's subjects takes delight not only in the responses her photos garner from the masses but also her boyfriend's jealous reaction to all the fawning. Naturally, there is also jealousy and competition between girls: Morris writes that one of her teen subjects feels betrayed when a female friend sends around a topless photo of herself "because she knows that the stakes have been raised, that she'll now have to do more to draw the male gaze her way."
The sexual natures of men and women seem like a necessary evil for our species to survive. If it didn't exist and work this way, we would not survive but I can't help being disgusted by men's piggish predatory sexual nature and I am simultaneously filled with contempt of women's pathetic yearning for acceptance.
Shall we just accept this as part of the human condition?
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Bozette 2011/02/02 00:23:30
Few teenage,guys myself included, feel appreciated as who they are. we all feel a little less than we should. self esteem is a contributing factor in that but sex is one way a woman can show that appreciation and try to get that extra confidence from the male figure in the relationship.
I figured that out!
1. Vacuuming the living room
2. Playing with the baby
3. Changing diapers
4. Mowing the lawn
5. Doing the dishes
6. Making dinner
Of course there's more and I do these things and I'm sure if my wife wasn't pregnant and having "all-day" sickness, she would definitely pounce me at the end of the evening :-)
LIKE ME
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This is all good in fun, have a great day everyone....
Peace & Love
Which women have those desires too but not as much.
I ONLY TURN THE CAPS LOCK OFF WHEN I TALK TO FRIENDS I AM NOT YELLING
We rely more on how we feel emotionally. Men seem to be just in rut or a second away from it.. all the time. We're more like.. oh I haven't shared my legs. Men are like.. you don't need legs!!
I have studied the differences in men and women. Here's a little scenario...
Man and woman get home from work. He's feeling feisty. His wife notes this. Then the wife finishes cleaning the kitchen, does a last load of laundry for the night, checks the children's homework, makes sure they children have everything ready for school tomorrow, wife decides what she will wear tomorrow and finishes up everything in the house. Wife feels good as she evaluates everything, her house is in order, her children are cared for, she had a good day at work, got compliments on her new outfit, had a good hair day and just generally feels good about herself.
After everything is done, the wife goes into the living room feeling amorous, finds her husband asleep in the front of the TV.
Wife takes off his glasses and covers him up and goes to bed thinking that tomorrow.. both children will be spending the night with friends and she and husband will be home alone.
Wife plans a little sexual encounter and the next day the husband has no idea why he "got lucky".
And I assure you I would if he chose trash over me. If you don't believe me, ask the ex-husband... who now can't find anyone to save his life, lol. :)
LOL
If a guy would rather have a video or magazine than the real thing, then I'm going to assume he isn't' much of a lay to begin with.