What do women desire the most sexually from men? To be desired.
Heisenberg 2011/02/02 00:19:31
Men's obsession with pornography has driven women into a sexual arm's race with the pornography industry.
"Davy Rothbart writes about his struggle to get off with a real, live woman -- and he blames it on porn: "For a lot of guys, switching gears from porn's fireworks and whiz-bangs to the comparatively mundane calm of ordinary sex is like leaving halfway through an Imax 3-D movie to check out a flipbook." Women end up "willingly play[ing] along by a new set of rules in order to keep their men interested."
As women compete with the porn industry to keep men's attention, they reveal much about the differences between male and female desire.
Men (generally) desire more sex.
Whether it's from one woman or many women, men want sex on-demand.
Women (generally) desire to be desired by a man.
Women specifically want to be desired by the man whom they have chosen as the object of their affection. Their love interest and all the benefits that accompany being desired namely bonding with a man to promote a feeling of acceptance, belonging and a sense of being cherished.
Take for example how teenage girls have taken to 'sexting' mostly because they want the attention of the boys:
"Reporter Alex Morris bravely embeds with a group of teenage girls and finds that they are flaunting sexy photos of themselves on Facebook and relishing the response it gets out of boys. A sampling of comments: "VERY SEXY... . I LIKEY" and "OMG OMG OMG OMG CAN WE PLEASE GET MARRIED!!!" (Ah, the poetry of youth.) As Morris puts it, this is "the secondhand sexual validation Facebook allows," and it's just one way that girls today are feeling out their "sexual potential online." One of the article's subjects takes delight not only in the responses her photos garner from the masses but also her boyfriend's jealous reaction to all the fawning. Naturally, there is also jealousy and competition between girls: Morris writes that one of her teen subjects feels betrayed when a female friend sends around a topless photo of herself "because she knows that the stakes have been raised, that she'll now have to do more to draw the male gaze her way."
The sexual natures of men and women seem like a necessary evil for our species to survive. If it didn't exist and work this way, we would not survive but I can't help being disgusted by men's piggish predatory sexual nature and I am simultaneously filled with contempt of women's pathetic yearning for acceptance.
Shall we just accept this as part of the human condition?
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