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What are your thoughts on hitting kids?

GiovanniArmani 2011/05/07 20:26:34
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I am against spanking because
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I just got off the phone with my grandmother and she was talking about how she was raised.

She said that her grandmother used to get three tree brances and braid them together to beat her senseless. One of the times it was because she went to school in a powder blue skirt that her grandmother didnt like because of the shade of blue that it was in. She also laughed about how her grandmother would smack her face so hard that she broke her jawbone onetime and my grandmother was laughing about it like it was a big joke.

She said that the reason why kids are into gangs and drugs these days is because they never get a good "Ass whooping" from their parents. My father hit me so hard when I was a child that I had bruises up and down my arms and butt and backside and she said that he needed to discipline us even though I couldn't sit down for two weeks because of the immense pain and I was bleeding for 3 days afterwards. I was in 4th grade. She also thought it was ok when my youngest brother in 2nd grade got thrown against the wall and his face literally beat into the wall where his cheek was shattered and his face was bruised and my father broke his nose by my father.

With her children she would grab an electrical cord and would have their father beat them until they were black and blue. For example my father was the oldest and his two younger brothers were at lunch in high school and the middle son told my youngest uncle to pull the fire alarm so he did. They got suspended and my father was in one of his classes NOT even at lunch and he got beaten senseless because he wasn't "There to stop his brothers." So if he ditched class to babysit them during lunch he wouldve gotten beaten or if he stayed in class he wouldve gotten beaten.

My father also recently stepped to one of my brothers with a baseball bat and said he was going to beat his face in because my father wanted my youngest brother to get drug tested because my oldest said he was smoking pot. So he wanted my brother to who btw is Going to UC Santa Cruz and is a straight A student to get drug tested and he was mad because he gave no reason as to why my father didn't trust him so he walked out of Kaiser. Then my father came home and stepped to him with a Louisville Slugger. So he had to move to N California from Los Angeles.

Where do you draw the line?
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  • Ari 2011/05/07 20:31:04
    I am for spanking because
    Ari
    +3
    I am not into hitting kids, I am for punishing when it is absolutly necesary, which if you are firm but respectful with your kids I believe spanking is not needed often.

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  • Alexis 2012/10/08 22:51:31
    I am against spanking because
    Alexis
    There is a difference from abuse and punishment, and you guys were clearly abused. Children are into doing stupid things because of the people around them, and most likely idiotic parents who let their kids run all over them. Strict parents are actually probably worse, then children act out as soon as they get the chance. My mom never hit me unless it was for SERIOUS punishment. She was very strict though, and even that being said I still went out and lost my virginity at 13, smoked pot and drank. Having a parent at home who is strict and beats you is no indication to what you're going to do your teenage years. Off track a little, but punishment is completely different than abuse. You spank your child's butt when he seriously misbehaves. Not get the crap kicked out of you for wearing a shade of blue that wasn't liked. Don't do that to your kids because 1 you'll most likely get them taken away, and 2 it does nothing but mess that up physiologically and teach them to abuse there kids.
  • Kidasha 2012/10/08 21:12:04
    I am against spanking because
    Kidasha
    I'm sorry for what happened to your family, no one should ever go through that. no one. And I hate it so much when people say that kids these days need to get whacked! Kids are bad these days because the parents got some screws loose. Most of the kids I know who do drugs have parents who don't care about them or what happens to them. One of the most common situations is the parents are getting divorced and they're in a custody battle. It's awful what kids have to go through nowadays. Next time you see a kid who looks like he's on drugs, ask how his life at home is, the answer will surprise you.
  • Hamilton 2012/02/11 23:10:40
    I am for spanking because
    Hamilton
    Asian parents are obviously on to something....
  • Anonymouse BN-0 ~bibbityboo~ 2011/07/01 21:20:23
    I am against spanking because
    Anonymouse BN-0 ~bibbityboo~
    +1
    It's a horrible thing to do, What kind of parent would hit their child. There are better ways of disciplining children that doesn't involve making them hate you...
    I think in schools though, the naughtiest children should be sent to a unit that does allow corporal punishment as an incentive to be good, or you go the punishment area...
  • Παναγιώτης 2011/06/15 06:43:47
    I am against spanking because
    Παναγιώτης
    +1
    there are other ways to punish a kid if he/she is not good
  • santa6642 2011/05/08 02:39:37
    I am for spanking because
    santa6642
    +1
    It works......
  • kay 2011/05/08 02:07:56
    I am against spanking because
    kay
    +1
    one violent act can lend to another and it mite not stop at spanking
  • readdean 2011/05/07 21:41:16
    I am against spanking because
    readdean
    +1
    I was spanked with a leather belt when I was a child. I remember being as young as 3. It hurt and it was humiliating. Many times I was spanked for no good reason. I decided that the family tradition of spanking was going to stop with me!
  • joe59 2011/05/07 21:35:29
    I am against spanking because
    joe59
    +1
    I was abused by my dad bad as a kid and it's over 35 years later and I still recall it, if I ever see someone harm a child, I will harm them.
  • The polite zombie 2011/05/07 21:34:17
    I am against spanking because
    The polite zombie
    +1
    But that's just for me. I think that it is effective, but not needed.
  • moonchild 2011/05/07 21:07:53 (edited)
    I am for spanking because
    moonchild
    +1
    I don't believing in beating or smacking or punching kids. A swap on the behind for something serious is sometimes called for.

    ETA: The situations you are describing in your story are not what I'd consider spanking. I draw the line with an openhanded swat on the behind, no pulling down pants, no spoons, sticks, paddles or anything else. Swift, to make a point without harming the child. Anything above that is abuse.
  • Imperious Is Not PC 2011/05/07 20:50:42
  • moonchild Imperio... 2011/05/07 21:14:01
    moonchild
    +2
    "Actually, don't hit the kids. Really. don't hit the kids. They have guns now."

    LOL- I love this quote.
  • Imperio... moonchild 2011/05/07 21:56:26
  • GoodEncounter 2011/05/07 20:45:41
    I am against spanking because
    GoodEncounter
    +1
    If spanking is child is designed to teach them something, I don't think spanking is an effective way to go about it. Age appropriate discipline - time outs, taking a privilege away etc accompanied by an age appropriate explanation is more affective. I think that spanking sends the message that the way to deal with something you don't like is by hitting- accompanied age explanation affective spanking sends message deal hitting- effective discipline
  • moonchild GoodEnc... 2011/05/07 21:17:04
    moonchild
    +1
    I think it's sometimes appropriate if you need to get a message across at that very moment or the opportunity will be lost. For example, you're walking to the car with your toddler and he or she runs out into the street. How is time out, redirecting, or anything else but a smack on the well padded behind going to get their attention and get the message across that running out in the street is dangerous?
  • GoodEnc... moonchild 2011/05/07 22:46:51
    GoodEncounter
    You're right on all counts.
  • Junior-BN-0 2011/05/07 20:37:01
    I am for spanking because
    Junior-BN-0
    +2
    To a certain extent it works well, for instance my mother paddled me because I would whine because I didn't get my way and afterward I couldn't sit down for awhile or go to sleep that much but through the pain it taught me a lesson, don't do that again or she'll do it again. However, while in Colorado, my foster parents took beating to an extreme. If I got one little detail wrong on a project that they gave me, they would beat me till I was black and blue and didn't stop till the tears flowed. If done properly, it is perfectly fine to spank, but if not done correctly as the father did in your example, it can lead to all sorts of bad things for the children. Drugs, Gangs, Alcoholism are just a few examples.
  • Surgeon ~The Egalitarianist~ 2011/05/07 20:33:43
  • Ari 2011/05/07 20:31:04
    I am for spanking because
    Ari
    +3
    I am not into hitting kids, I am for punishing when it is absolutly necesary, which if you are firm but respectful with your kids I believe spanking is not needed often.
  • misterz 2011/05/07 20:28:22
    I am for spanking because
    misterz
    +3
    Have to look at the situation.

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