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HiYa 2012/07/08 19:37:11
Anytime, Anyplace... All Welcomed
No drop in's... Puhleeze!
None of the above
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I grew up in a home with a open door policy.

As an adult, this is not the way I choose to live. Many of my family resent the fact that I am not running a 24 hour bed, breakfast and gathering place. I cringe at the thought of my neighbors just seeing my car and invite themselves over to "sit a spell." Is it wrong to expect someone to call if they'd like to visit?
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  • BabyDollDream 2012/11/14 18:05:57
    No drop in's... Puhleeze!
    BabyDollDream
    +1
    Unless it's my best friend.
  • HiYa BabyDol... 2012/11/15 02:01:14
    HiYa
    +1
    I agree, with you. If anyone expects me to entertain them... I need to know they're coming over. I don't have to do anything for my best friend.
  • Gone Away 2012/11/14 18:04:31
    None of the above
    Gone Away
    +1
    It all depends!
  • HiYa Gone Away 2012/11/15 02:01:43
    HiYa
    +1
    Thanks for the comment. I agree. It does depend on who they are and what they expect from a visit.
  • Gone Away HiYa 2012/11/15 02:04:46 (edited)
    Gone Away
    Or what kinda day I'm having...I'm more receptive during good times! Not so much after a say, a spat w/hubby!
    Cheers `*>~[
  • HiYa Gone Away 2012/11/15 04:22:10
    HiYa
    +1
    I agree completely! What if someone comes in the midst of a spat. Just call before you come over. It isn't that hard.
  • Swan Eshdeh 2012/07/09 14:51:20
    Anytime, Anyplace... All Welcomed
    Swan Eshdeh
    +1
    this is the same policy here
    but we don't have much visitors ...most of the times

    i can imagine your situation..." you always beside the door goodby others"
  • HiYa Swan Es... 2012/07/09 20:25:09
    HiYa
    Thanks for your comment. Thanks for your comment gif
  • Nika 2012/07/09 12:37:11
    No drop in's... Puhleeze!
    Nika
    +2
    Me and my family like to know when we have visitors. My mum gets quite upset when we don't, she runs frantically around the place cleaning everything.
  • HiYa Nika 2012/07/09 20:28:50
    HiYa
    +1
    I am like your mom. I like to be prepared for company. Thanks for your comment gif
  • Nika HiYa 2012/07/10 05:26:50
    Nika
    +1
    aren't most people like that?
  • HiYa Nika 2012/07/10 21:15:27
    HiYa
    +1
    Most older ppl. are more into company. I think younger folks are more like me.
  • Nika HiYa 2012/07/11 05:06:15
    Nika
    +1
    Mmmm... probably. My grandma doesn't care if she isn't ready for guests, she always invites them in. She sometimes starts conversations with complete strangers XD.
  • Metaldane 2012/07/08 20:47:30
    Anytime, Anyplace... All Welcomed
    Metaldane
    +1
    I'm cool with friends showing up I prefer some notice but I don't mind much I do value privacy though and if somebody is planning on staying overnight I'll need notice or it probably won't happen.
  • HiYa Metaldane 2012/07/08 20:56:35
    HiYa
    That seems reasonable.
    Gone fishin  thx 4 ur Comment
  • Selketskiss 2012/07/08 20:46:50
    Anytime, Anyplace... All Welcomed
    Selketskiss
    +2
    I don't care if someone drops over that I know. One day I will be dead and gone then I will not have any visitors...
  • HiYa Selkets... 2012/07/08 20:50:56 (edited)
    HiYa
    +1
    Great perspective. Hiya thanks for your comment
  • Revkae 2012/07/08 20:22:10
    No drop in's... Puhleeze!
    Revkae
    +1
    I have weird sleeping hours, So I always appreciate a little notice. It's a little thing called boundaries. But, If someone is in crying-type-of -trouble, the door, my shoulder is open at any time. Drama queens that cry all the time, are another story altogether, they get off on vamping energy from others.
  • HiYa Revkae 2012/07/08 20:46:39
    HiYa
    +1
    Those are great points all of which I agree with. For a friend in need my door is absolutely 100% open anytime day or night, but not to pop in to whine about your electricity bill or mother-in-law.

    In any event, I thank you for your comment. HiYa thanks for your comment
  • Kyra 2012/07/08 19:48:00
    None of the above
    Kyra
    +2
    I really like to be prepared for guest. But you are welcome in my home anytime.
  • HiYa Kyra 2012/07/08 19:55:13
    HiYa
    +1
    Agreed! I like to be prepared for guests as well. I treat them great once they're there, but I am not happy for people to just SHOW up. Have the common decency to call. Thanks for your comment. Thanks for your comment
  • tobe 2012/07/08 19:46:55 (edited)
    No drop in's... Puhleeze!
    tobe
    +1
    just plain rude and i don't answer. also giving someone your phone number without your consent. I'm a pretty private person.
  • HiYa tobe 2012/07/08 19:53:22
    HiYa
    See that is how I feel. Exactly!!!
    I don't like the sound of "I am private person," but I am. I'm glad to see that I am not the only one out there :-)

    Thanks for your comment. Thanks for your comment
  • tobe HiYa 2012/07/08 20:00:05
    tobe
    +1
    I'm one of those people who doesn't give out their phone number and doesn't tell people where i live because I've ran into too many crazy people in my life to not think their out there. Someone gave my number to their cousin (who i don't know) against my wishes the other day and i thought i was gonna go through the roof. Im a pretty private person.
    where i use to live i had people banging on my door at all hours of the night and coming over trying to start drama and being that i lived there i couldn't get out of it. bad spot to be in.
  • HiYa tobe 2012/07/08 20:08:30
    HiYa
    Tobe, I think we were separated at birth because I have had those exact experiences as well as worse.

    I've had ppl. coming for a visit, and then not leaving for days... It often turned into something ugly when I needed to tell them they can't stay on. I am a single, professional young woman... And I need to hide the fact that I have a "guest" room from ppl. I don't know. To many a guest room and no children translates into "a place to stay."
  • tobe HiYa 2012/07/08 20:12:47
    tobe
    +1
    i know exactly what you mean
  • tobe HiYa 2012/07/08 20:16:20
    tobe
    +1
    or i have a pool (which i don't anymore) doesn't translate to everyone can come over to my house (even if i wasn't even gonna be there). i had a above the ground pool (a nice one with a deck and all) and i got asked late at night if a friend could through a birthday party for someone i didn't know in my back yard at my pool.
  • HiYa tobe 2012/07/08 20:24:36 (edited)
    HiYa
    Are you kidding me????? What absolute gall! I hope you gave him a big no! Now your home is a public pool and party place? If someone had gotten hurt, they may have tried to take legal action against you.

    I had one of my uncles come over when I was younger, uninvited, blow up our oven and sue my parents. It all depends on the type of ppl. you know, and the type of people I know, I think it's safer for me to have a "call before you come policy."
  • tobe HiYa 2012/07/08 20:33:45
    tobe
    +1
    exactly... it takes a while to know what kind of people you have on your hands too.
  • tobe HiYa 2012/07/08 20:36:12
    tobe
    +1
    oh yeah i told her there was no way it was gonna happen. i kept that pool area cleaned up and nice, not so a bunch of couples could come get condoms hung up in the water filter and loosen the ladder jumping off it.
  • HiYa tobe 2012/07/08 20:48:41
    HiYa
    Ewwww that's gross! I hear you T.
  • tobe HiYa 2012/07/08 20:55:52
    tobe
    +1
    yes it would be... and I'm pretty sure thats what'd happen. that and alot of cigarette butts
  • tobe HiYa 2012/07/08 21:04:54 (edited)
    tobe
    +1
    I've had the same friends since i was in college and i was wild hooligan lol. A number of them still are but now they have little wild hooligans of their own. Still the same crazy bunch tho. Those weren't the ones who banged on my door at all hours though. they know me better than that.
  • Sister Jean 2012/07/08 19:43:37
    Anytime, Anyplace... All Welcomed
    Sister Jean
  • HiYa Sister ... 2012/07/08 19:47:14
    HiYa
    +1
    What a nice sentiment, thanks for your comment. Thanks
  • Pele Emerging 2012/07/08 19:39:38
    Anytime, Anyplace... All Welcomed
    Pele Emerging
    +1
    I like visitors. Welcome!
    welcome friends
  • HiYa Pele Em... 2012/07/08 19:48:43
    HiYa
    +1
    S, I wish I could be more that way, but I am mortified when people just drop in. Thanks for your comment
  • Pele Em... HiYa 2012/07/08 21:52:23
    Pele Emerging
    Hey, if they don't like my messy house, too bad for them. ;)

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