Things you learned from your first real relationship?

that you should not try to force something that just isn't there. Sometimes two people are better at being friends.

I learned what not to put up with in my second real relationship.

love is fiction; something we create to be happy. We basically found our love on the physical pleasure we get from someone.

dont trust him quickly becuz u love him now that was a lesson i never and will never forget this lesson really helped for the others

I agree.

communicate more

That sometimes people just plain old suck, no matter how hard you try to be good to them. And you can't let that get you too down or turn you bitter.

Very, very true.

I haven't had a relationship yet. I'm a teenage girl, so I still have time and it's not the end of the world for me. Seeing some of these comments, I do get glad that I'm single. I can bask in my independence. But if a relationship appears in my life then I'm sure it'll be a learning experience.

Good on you! Keep the positive outlook.

Thank you. :)

You cannot change the other person and that if you "don't sweat the small stuff", it adds up over time to become a huge problem.

Very true.

To be who I am, instead of trying to be what someone else expects me to be.

Same here.

That I had a lot to learn about women.

That its called a "first relationship" for a reason. There will be others and life goes on. Otherwise it would be called the "only relationship". Life doesnt end just because the relationship did. Also, my friend told her first real boy friend she loved him and he ran like hell. I learned from HER not to do that..

My first real relationship was a long time ago, but I learned that just because a relationship is important to me doesn't mean it is important to her. I also learned that sometimes it is best to just move on; trying to make something unworkable work is a lot of wasted effort.

Ahh, I can relate.

THAT JERKS/PLAYERS COME IN ALL SHAPES AND SIZES......I LEARNED TO LOVE MYSELF FIRST BEFORE TRUSTING ANYONE ELSE.

To always be respectful and courteous.

That it is far better to NOT repeat that mistake ..
that Restraining orders are there for a REASON ..
and it is far more PEACEFUL .. Wonderful .. QUIET ..
to be a Confident SINGLE living independently on my own!

i'm not a punching bag and i don't have to take anyones sh&#

That loving someone and being loyal to them is sometimes not enough....

So true. :/

that thier have to be trust in both the people not just one

Love sometimes hurts more than you think, communication is key, being with someone changes you

A diamond ring has to be really big to get your money back.

Great sex and love doesn't make the crazy more endurable. The sad tragic truth is that some relationships are more trouble than their worth.

Being female doesn't automatically guarantee clean and couth. (I had a good mother) I mean I saw the examples of disgusting whores on T.V. and such but it didn't sink in until I actually shared space with one how far from a lady women are capable of being. I no longer ignore warning signs...lol

Communication is really important. You have to be open about things. Compromise is important too, but you shouldn't have to change who you are for someone else. Don't go to bed unhappy or ignore arguments/problems. Always strive to make your partner happy.
Since I'm in my first real relationship now, that is what I've learned and been continuing to try and grow upon. It's been working for almost 8 months (:
And then there are given things that I've found to be common sense when you're in a relationship... Honesty is the best policy. You have to give trust and respect in order to get it back from your partner. A bit of jealousy is healthy, but not too much. Never allow them to force you into something. No cheating. Don't work yourself up over nothing. Keep things simple. Don't be clingy, but don't ignore your partner, etc...

That life deals the hands you must play. Some hands simply can not be played or need to be folded... Others? The possibilities are endless...

I learned that a jealous girlfriend is a turn off. Jealousy is the fastest way to chase me away.

Never say " I Do "

Hmmm...But... Sometimes... You do!

Then i found myself in divorce court

My first marriage was grand! My first divorce was $25 grand...

LMAO ! I fully understand that.