Teens Making Out: Is Public And Excessive Display Of Affection OK In Schools?

As the mother of a teen/high school student, I gotta say that public display of affection in school hallways kinda grosses me out. I am not usually IN the school building, preferring to wait in the car if she needs a ride home. But I've been inside the high school between classes enough to know that EWWW, just EW!

The other day I asked my teen what kinds of stories I should write for Sodahead, and she suggested I "just write about whatever's playing at Hot Topic and girls making out with their boyfriends."


Ok, well here we are. I have absolutely no idea what is playing at Hot Topic, though I will say it is totally cool when they have Pac Man and Ms. Pac Man shirts, which I happen to collect.

But the making out with the boyfriends? I mean, where? At SCHOOL?! Gah!

I am going to make the assumption that most schools in the nation have rules against extreme public displays of affection in their hallways. One school,
reported by the New York Times, even went so far as to ban HUGGING, which does seem a bit extreme. The Times reported "schools from Hillsdale, N.J., to Bend, Ore., wary in a litigious era about sexual harassment or improper touching — or citing hallway clogging and late arrivals to class — have banned hugging or imposed a three-second rule."

Some schools are imposing a "three-second hug rule"?! This idea sort of sounds, as the teens say,
ridonkulous. I mean, is there an administrator standing there with a stopwatch making sure no one gets into that 4th second, where everything really goes to hell in a hand basket? Ha!

In the Times article,
sociologist Amy L. Best of George Mason University reported that "the teenage embrace is more a reflection of the overall evolution of the American greeting, which has become less formal since the 1970s. Without question, the boundaries of touch have changed in American culture. We display bodies more readily, there are fewer rules governing body touch and a lot more permissible access to other people’s bodies.”

What do you think? Should teens be allowed to kiss in the school hallway, or does it just serve to make other kids jealous and/or uncomfortable? What about hugging? Is it appropriate or harmless in a school setting, or does it potentially lead to groping and sleazy behavior?

Read more: http://www.nytimes.com/2009/05/28/style/28hugs.htm...

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  • runningintriangles 2010/03/17 03:33:06
    You know, I'm okay with the hand-holding, the hugging, and even CHASTE kisses (ie. NOT eating each other's faces, thanks) in public... but going beyond that, generally (with few exceptions), is just ridiculous. For both teenagers and adults.

    Hugging is fab, and HARMLESS.

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  • Stella Isabella Wolfy 2010/03/17 18:30:29
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    teens will do as they wish rule or not.
  • Frank 2010/03/17 18:09:22
    When I went to high school in the 70's pda's (public displays of affection) were not uncommon. It was kind of like some kids were trying to show that they are adult enough to grope each other- or maybe they just couldn't control their raging hormones. Not all kids did it- but one kind of became desensitized to it. I think that, to a point, it is a harmless rite of passage for some Although when it becomes all out tonsil hockey- the grope police need to move in. It's got to be a judgement call- the 3 second rule is a little ridiculous. The nature of teen behavior would have some kids trying to see how close they can get to the 3 seconds or over, before someone breaks them up. Ignoring it, for the most part- and putting a stop to it when it becomes obviously obsessive is the best course of action. By making rules- the school will mike the kids more conscious of it and lead to them wanting to challenge it.
  • fullmoon 2010/03/17 17:24:57
    within reason
  • Kurbdog 2010/03/17 17:20:46
    There are FAR too many people forcing their opinions on other people these days.Intrusions on peoples lives by the government and other "busybodies" has to STOP. All this "It's for your own good" posturing sets a VERY dangerous precedent.Will you be happy when they come and put cameras in your house to make sure you are not doing anything illegal? As long as you arent doing anything WRONG thats ok, RIGHT!? government busybodies posturing dangerous precedent happy cameras house illegal wrong
  • Kitty 2010/03/17 16:51:05
    I think they should at least have a little peck and a hug but like nothing far as making out cuz like its school you wanna do that, go home why you at school than? I see it as harmless to a certain extent.
  • Barfly 2010/03/17 16:19:42
    Hugging and hand holding is cool, frenching should be in privacy!
  • susanmom 2010/03/17 16:06:20
    Anything beyond holding hands while in school is inappropriate behavior. Public shows of affection, although it could go a step or two beyond, holding hands also should be limited to "sweet" and inoffensive gestures. It' really just a matter of being considerate to others as well as your partner.
  • Knot_RIch 2010/03/17 15:56:53
    Public displays of affection for teens (future adults you know) should follow the same standards of adult public behavior. We are supposed to be teaching these kids to become adults. As we all know, teens will always push the envelope, teach them no limits to what is considered acceptable social behavior now, pay the price later.
  • susanmom Knot_RIch 2010/03/17 16:07:15
    I agree entirely.
  • TheNightFly 2010/03/17 15:29:00
    There has always been a lot of pressure for teens to be sexy. And the logically intuitive expectation of that is not just to have sex but to do it with skill. And, since most parents of teens are unwilling to even discuss the subject of sex, music videos and internet porn are the only examples teens have to follow. If I were a school administrator or principle, I wouldn't allow any physical contact between boys and girls whatsoever, I would send them home and suspend them for the next school day.
  • mzemma 2010/03/17 15:07:32
    I thought we were trying to discourage pregnancy! You want to raise another kid after you're teenagers has one and doesn't want to live up to the responsibilities.. or is off to college having a blast.. while you lose out of your freedom. Why do parents give such liberal leaways to their ignorant, inexperienced hormone charging teens when it only costs you dollars and lack of freedom in the end.. Personnally I'm a lesbian and I certainly don't want to see hetero's allowed to be kissing and carrying on all over the place. Please!
  • wpsark 2010/03/17 14:53:26
    Holding hands, hugs and peck kissing is all that should be allowed, and not to much of that anyway. When I was in school, you'd get detention for what they called PDA, public display of affection, that pretty much kept it to a minimum with the student couples. Kids caught dry humping at school should be suspended, no questions asked.
  • jackolantyrn356 2010/03/17 14:51:42
    no these are one problem, but it is the unprotected sex in the kinks and crawl spaces hidden within the old school buildings.
  • BRADY969 2010/03/17 14:50:49
    Affection in public is ok with me but not when it gets excessive in high school and it's a given that it can make people uncomfortable and when Americans are uncomfortable...you know what that means.....LAW SUIT!
  • Unnamed 2010/03/17 14:47:25
    Doesn't bother me.....just don't look people have a bad habit of staring that's really the problem
  • Nimara 2010/03/17 14:26:05
    Tongue kissing is disgusting to witness at school or anywhere in public. WHy not have sex in front of me too? No seriously, for a couple to do that is public is very disrespectful to themselves and others. Hugging, holding hands, and a peck on the cheek is classy. That is very nice to do but like I said, french-kissing or tongue kissing is nasty.
  • Stephan... Nimara 2010/04/16 03:12:51
    your lucy us teens DONT have sex in front of you so stop complaining about the small stuff and thin about what we COULD be doing instead
  • Nimara Stephan... 2010/04/16 14:02:38
    I am a teen too so shut up! You are lucky I am not an adult, I'd cuss you out right now!
  • boomer 2010/03/17 14:06:56
    as long as no clothes are coming off, the teachers should leave people alone.
  • susanmom boomer 2010/03/17 14:46:48
    That's a very broad statement.

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