Study Says Recipe for Happiness Is an Affair with Lots of Sex: Time to Redefine Marriage?
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2012/08/20 20:00:00
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A recent study (yeah, I know, another study stating the obvious) concludes that men want more sex than their wives. Catherine Hakim writes in The Telegraph, "...wisdom about men wanting more sex than their wives is not an unfair stereotype but a fact."
She continues to refer to studies that show the internet allows men (and women) to have affairs, which keep everyone happy. Ms. Hakim concludes, "The time has come, alongside the technology, to redraw the rules of marriage for the 21st century."
TELEGRAPH.CO.UK reports:
She continues to refer to studies that show the internet allows men (and women) to have affairs, which keep everyone happy. Ms. Hakim concludes, "The time has come, alongside the technology, to redraw the rules of marriage for the 21st century."
TELEGRAPH.CO.UK reports:
In an extract from her new book, the controversial sociologist says it is time to redraw marital rules -- with a radical rethink on fidelity.
Read More: http://www.telegraph.co.uk/relationships/9486351/T...
Top Opinion
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TasselLady 2012/08/20 18:21:40
#Justdontgetit.
I've done the Married thing most of my life. Been there, done that - so to speak.
Sex with different partners keeps life most interesting, especially at my age.
Some cultures allow men to have multiple wives or mistresses, for exactly that reason.
I won't say it is time to redefine Marriage, but I will say it will redefine itself as time passes.
Marriage was meant to be one thing. If you can't accept what marriage is about then don't get married. It ain't rocket science people.
I do not subscribe to that line of thinking.
Damn straight I am following through on them until I die.
Just because you or others choose not accept the vows made... doesn't mean others do not live up to their vows.
Last I knew women could choose who their partner is.
I can tell you this it is not the church forcing themselves into peoples live. People decide if they want the church in their lives.
The government forces itself into religion and other aspects of people lives. That is the problem.. the government.
Me: "Honey can we light some candles and make love tonight?"
Wife: "No! Cause look who's in our bed! It's Obama and Biden!"
Obama: "Hi"
Biden: "Hi there... do you have any chips? Hey! Jeopardy's on!"
Me: Good Lord, Biden, are you going 'commando' under there?
Biden: "Reporting for Duty. SIR!"
ALL "Hahahahaha"
Personally, I'm in a monogamous relationship but I will say this.
Ethics, ethics, ethics. Discussion of different types of marriage should leap right into ethics. Polyfidelity still has the rules, commitment, boundaries, and other concerns that all long-term relationships demand. "Multiple" does not translate into an anything goes philosophy for those truly practicing polyfidelity and honesty is still in fashion.
"What Psychology Professionals Should Know About Polyamor" was written by a psychologist (woman) who practices polyamory. She explains about the different types of polyamory. http://ego.thechicagoschool.e...
The following page discusses Dr. Emmens stuff. http://old.nationalreview.com...
I didn't hear a fierce focus on ethics and did not see the term polyfidelity as a focus in the given article. That makes me suspicious that it's rather inferior coverage as well as myopically outdated as far as redefining marriage goes. The 'men are tom cats' and women are into 'erotic capitol' reality filter I think I'm hearing from the article covering Hakim's work is fantastically outdated, sexist (abusive) and avoids an uncomfortable topic many will go through any variety of mental gymnastics to avoid -- the timing of women's sexual peak and the extent...
Personally, I'm in a monogamous relationship but I will say this.
Ethics, ethics, ethics. Discussion of different types of marriage should leap right into ethics. Polyfidelity still has the rules, commitment, boundaries, and other concerns that all long-term relationships demand. "Multiple" does not translate into an anything goes philosophy for those truly practicing polyfidelity and honesty is still in fashion.
"What Psychology Professionals Should Know About Polyamor" was written by a psychologist (woman) who practices polyamory. She explains about the different types of polyamory. http://ego.thechicagoschool.e...
The following page discusses Dr. Emmens stuff. http://old.nationalreview.com...
I didn't hear a fierce focus on ethics and did not see the term polyfidelity as a focus in the given article. That makes me suspicious that it's rather inferior coverage as well as myopically outdated as far as redefining marriage goes. The 'men are tom cats' and women are into 'erotic capitol' reality filter I think I'm hearing from the article covering Hakim's work is fantastically outdated, sexist (abusive) and avoids an uncomfortable topic many will go through any variety of mental gymnastics to avoid -- the timing of women's sexual peak and the extent of their multi-orgasmic nature, as compared to men's.
It's still taboo and old stereotypes are still sold as "the facts." Because people still tell each other, polls and authors what they think is permissible. It makes sense that cheaters just might not be totally honest even about their cheating.
Again, I'm into fidelity and I'm in a monogamous relationship. But I still recognize that the dialog on the involved topics is not yet really open dialog and much is still choked off and shut away from the light of day. The flow of conversation on the matter is ... strangulated and missing a lot of better more informed ground, between ethics and sexuality.
Our ancestors ... the ones who didn't cheat as much didn't pass that non-cheating trait as much (wonder why)... Go figure. The whole idea is to make more babies. Men can make more babies if they spread the love around more. That's all there is to it. Women on the other hand have more of a complicated problem to deal with so they're going to handle cheating differently.