Study Says Recipe for Happiness Is an Affair with Lots of Sex: Time to Redefine Marriage?

I was kinda wondering that myself.. . I think he meant he never slept with anyone else until after the divorce.

Probably, but that's not cheating. o_O

"... the internet allows men (and women) to have affairs, which keep everyone happy.". Hmm. Yeah, no. I dnt know anyone where an affair made them happier, at least not longterm. It has always brought more pain and misery to both partners when I've seen or heard of it.

This world is going down the toilet. I am having a hard enough time finding a date with a good looking woman much less getting married.

Shut the heck up Catherine Hakim. Maybe it's time for the wives to start losing the pounds and taking care of themselves again. Maybe husbands need to start jacking off more.
Marriage is between two consenting adults, not three or four. You have commitment issues if you need another person.

Polygamy should never be legally allowed. It spells out legal trouble for everyone involved. Who gets power of attorney? Who gets custody of the children? Also, the emotional implications are heavy too. Can you love all 9 of your wives equally?

If you wanna have your own exceptions that's fine, but the basic outline of it should still be for love, wanting to spend the rest of your life with them and don't betray them.

that's awful. it may make the person cheating happy, but what about the person they're cheating on?? I havn't seen anybody who is cheated on say "I'm so glad my trusted spouse slept with another woman/man behind my back :) "

If you need to sleep with multiple partners to be happy, you either aren't ready for marriage or you are not the marrying type.

There are countless monogamous couples out there that are plenty happy without infidelity, and countless more people out there that want that.

but we may need to rethink if some are ready for marirage.When I look at marriage I look at that person and ask is this who I want to wake up to each and every mornning if its no I would marry her,if yes be prepaired to be faithfull

I think marriage itself is stupid. If love isn't enough then marriage is pointless.

everyone has their own opinions of this but I do belive in marriage weather in a church or by civil means

My point is (and my girlfriend agrees) that if we love each other then marriage is only going to cause problems, adding in a legal factor to our relationship that we do not want. Does that make any sense?

it make sense and I see your point.For some that works but for me I want the commitment that goes with the paper saying so

And i just did a poll asking why monogamy is dying, and some asked if I had proof of that. Hmmm hope they see this.

It's not dying many still prefer monogamous relationships that's just merely not for everyone and now in today's society encourages people to be their real selves and not what others think they should be, so people who monogamy doesn't work for are now more comfortable in forming open and semi- open relationships. Your way isn't being "attacked" or left behind it just isn't being forced on anybody anymore that's all.

I usually really respect your comments but I am confused. What do you mean by "my way"? I never said anything about attacked, left behind, nor forcing anything. Not sure where this came from.

Sry let me clear it up: by "your way" I meant monogamy by "not being attacked and left behind" I was referring to your polls wording on monogamy "dying" I was saying it's not, and by "forcing it" I didn't mean you but the way society used to force the idea of monogamy being the only "good" way which it isn't. Sry for any misunderstanding no offense was intended I was merely trying to assure you monogamy isn't dying out just other ways are now also being practiced by those who the other ways work better for.

My polls wording was "Why do you think there's such a decline in monogamous relationships?" which earlier I wasn't in the mood to go track down. You're right I didn't say "dying" in my poll and I knew that at the time I typed the above.

I of course am for monogamy but have been around other lifestyles so I do respect them, although it's not for me. But it truly does seem to be the norm now a days. Either way, thank you for taking the time to clear that up.

It's not dying where I live, that's for sure. I just went to a wedding last night where the groom was 20 years old, and the bride was 21. Great wedding, by the way, overlooking Jericho in the Judean Desert.

Great :-)

If you're married, and having an affair, your marriage is effectively over!

That is b.s,I have been with my wife 17 yrs the sex is great.The men who answered these questions probably like new cars because they are to damn lazy to change the oil n keep the one they have running good.The same gos for womenEven in the bedroom our country has become lazy.

How about lots of sex with your SPOUSE!

The definition is not the problem.
If you want to sleep around, instead of being a cheat, just do not get married.

Study written by men who want to justify cheating no doubt...

By nature humans were never made to be paired up with one person for the rest of their lives. They are social creatures who desire to be with more people and in more relationships than just a spouse. Why can't 1 person love 2 people? Love shouldn't be so reserved. Humans are also creatures who change for the sake of change. They don't like things staying the same for a long time and that includes a relationship, being with the same person for years or even decades get get both boring and tiring. Humans are beings who can't resist and say "Let's try something new."

No one is saying that people should be with one person for their whole life. Typically, people sleep with plenty of people well before they feel like marrying and settling down.

This Question is another typical SodaHead Loaded Question . . . To some Marriage-minded Dictionary Definition-Changers, MARRIAGE; could possibly even mean "One Man Dilly-dallying around in another man's feces" and having that act lead-up to a whole Chapel over-runneth with Rice-Throwers, and bouquets . . . . So, anyway, just leave MARRIAGE alone. It has nothing to do with hating anyone, bigotry, or whatever.

Not marriage, necessarily, but relationships.

Fact is, not everyone is happy with monogamy, but they still want semi-limited or exclusive partners. This is where we toss cheating aside, and be open and honest about our needs. You can like someone, and want to *be* with them, and put them first, but also want it to be an open/semi-open relationship, where the boundaries are agreed upon by both partners.

Some people have a marriage like this. Others just don't get married. It really doesn't matter-- it's up to the two (or more) people involved.

I personally don't believe that humans are built for lifelong monogamy. I don't believe in lying to your partner, but cheating implies dishonesty. If you find someone who is compatible, understands your needs, and is willing to accept them or also wants to be allowed to explore with other partners, then you're set. The key is communication.

At least not the cheating part, but gays should be allowed to marry each other.

Time for people to start respecting marriage and its vows.

Time for you and your staff to fix the site glitches.

Please.

Amen.

And pay more attention to the lot of perverted pedophiles on here & get rid of them. Tired of seeing all of these grown men hitting on teen girls! It's disturbing & sickening!

Report them as you encounter/see them.

I have been. There's the poll where the 15 yr old girl said "I need a bf" I am amazed at the men that came out of the woodwork on there. If I just flag them it does no good. Thank you!

Sometimes it does; it depends on what they say...