I will. Spare the rod spoil the child. I got spankings (the rare few times I needed them) and I am fine. I am a college student, going back this year...I don't think I am crazy. Oh and I recall the singer P!nk saying she was a bad child and is grateful for the spanking discipline she got, otherwise she'd have gone down another path. Not every study is accurate.
There was a study about weed damaging brain cells (not that I smoke it) and one about classical music making you smarter...both were proven to be myths. I am sick of all these parents now, being too lenient. Do you think that is good? They let their kids smoke, have sex, disrespect them, HIT them, scream and holler in public, etc. Teach them that YOU are in charge and as a parent, you have every God given right to be. You have more life experience than them of course they may not understand every form of discipline or restriction you put on them even upon an explanation. Look at it this way, say you have tried every form of discipline/help there is, except spanking and if all else failed, what would you do? Try what works and if it does, (and it isn't illegal) use it. We need to stop confusing necessary discipline for abuse.
DISCIPLINE THEM EFFECTIVELY SOME HOW! We don't need anymore criminals than we have now, be a parent. Thank you.
Study Links Spanking to Later Mental Disorders: Is Spanking Ever OK?
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A study from the American Academy of Pediatrics shows that physical punishment to discipline children, has a strong association with "...increased risks of mental and personality disorders, as well as drug and alcohol abuse."
Though the article points out that spanking does not cause mental health disorders, researchers claim there is a strong correction. The results "send a strong message that spanking should never be used on a child," states Abel Ickowicz, psychiatrist-in-chief at the Hospital for Sick Children in Toronto.
THEGLOBEANDMAIL.COM reports:
Though the article points out that spanking does not cause mental health disorders, researchers claim there is a strong correction. The results "send a strong message that spanking should never be used on a child," states Abel Ickowicz, psychiatrist-in-chief at the Hospital for Sick Children in Toronto.
THEGLOBEANDMAIL.COM reports:
Data doesn’t show that it causes mental disorders, but it does present a statistically significant correlation
Read More: http://www.theglobeandmail.com/life/parenting/stud...
I think people confuse spanking in with violence because of the way the older generation did so. Like I mentioned, they used switches, belts and were over the top in my opinion. That was not the case for me. My spankings did not leave a mark. I never cried from the pain, I cried from my bruised prude because being punished does that and it is a reminder of the unpleasant consequences of our actions. When my parents spanked me, I knew it wasn't them being violent. I was smart enough and old enough to understand that it was my PUNISHMENT. Children are not as dumb as we'd like to think. Even a baby who drop objects on the floor just t...
I think people confuse spanking in with violence because of the way the older generation did so. Like I mentioned, they used switches, belts and were over the top in my opinion. That was not the case for me. My spankings did not leave a mark. I never cried from the pain, I cried from my bruised prude because being punished does that and it is a reminder of the unpleasant consequences of our actions. When my parents spanked me, I knew it wasn't them being violent. I was smart enough and old enough to understand that it was my PUNISHMENT. Children are not as dumb as we'd like to think. Even a baby who drop objects on the floor just to watch you pick it up again knows what they are doing because of repetition.
A child often times knows what they do is wrong and they know their are consequences, also based on repetition. They also realize spanking is one of them. You say children perceive spankings as violence? Do they perceive time out as isolation from others because no one wants them? Do they perceive getting things taking away as having things stolen from them wrongfully? Some children, though not all, can perceive different punishments as something negative and unfair, just as a teenager sees being denied alcohol as their parent just trying to ruin their fun. Still, some form of correction must be made, regardless of how their childish, undeveloped and naive minds may view it. The best we can and should do for every punishment, is explain our reasoning for doing so.
Time outs, don't always work for every child. I don't see how just because spanking is the only method that may work for some, means that the child and parent don't have a good relationship? I know a 16 year old girl who has a mother that seems to use a more passive parenting tactic. I found recently, that she attempted to beat up her own grandmother. You know what her grandma did? She didn't talk to her, she didn't ask her to stop....She spanked her as she had every right to. She also had the right to defend herself from being beaten.
If the child acts out often and let's say they have a good parent still, does that mean the relationship is bad all of the time. Some kids are just mischievous by their own nature. Just as you reward them pleasantly for their rightful decisions so they repeat them, you do the same with punishment for wrong behavior so they don't repeat it. Violence (with the exception of self defense) serves no positive purpose and is only meant to hurt, not help. If I had a child who was out of control and I tried every possible method known to man besides spanking and nothing worked, what would I do?
"If an adult cannot get his/her message over to the child without violence(which incorporates fear) then there is something wrong with that adult" The same could be said by some, for if a parent has to yell at the child or take some other form of strict disciplinary action but the truth is, some strict discipline must be taken as a last resort. First a warning, if that fails, time out. I that also fails along with other similar punishments, then tough correction must be given because such behavior is unacceptable. I have never known anyone who has gotten spanked as a child, to grow up to be violent. I have observed quite the opposite in every scenario.
Proverbs 22:15 - Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child; The rod of correction will drive it far from him.
As a form of punishment for children, no. I always got punished with words, physical pain fades in minutes, the emotional and psychological torture of well chosen lasts a lifetime.
Please define the level of spanking the kids in this study were subjected to?
Im suspecting you should replace spanking with the word bashing. That's where some parent's don't understand the difference, and just make it hard for the rest of us.
The study is likely about abuse but has been manipulated to achieve the anti-discipline agenda that is going around in order to tell parents how to raise their kids.
I wonder what will happen when they realize telling parents how to discipline (or not discipline, as the case often is) their kids has failed? We've got kids and teens that have received the "talking to" discipline and are now walking all over their parents, have no respect for anyone or anything, and are out of control.
There is NOTHING wrong with spanking. The kids we see today that are out of control could have used a few hands on the backside...or are they out of control because they did get the hands on the backside? See how it just doesn't work?
“How a child interprets spanking is what really matters,” [Alyson Schafer] said. “What kind of mixed message are we sending them when we say ‘hands are for hugging, not hitting’ and ask them to tell us if anyone hits, but then use force as parents?”
Children need discipline. Look at the little animals that are running the streets today that were never disciplined. You really think rainbows and hugs are the best way to train a child?
A lot of people say "I was spanked and I turn out fine", but when you look at them they really didn't. If for no other reason than they condone the use of violence on children.
Sure you weren't.
"there was nothing in your comment that said people who were spanked are quick to anger"
Use your brain, that fall under "they really didn't". Or must everything be spelled out for you?
"You say people who are spanked don't turn out okay"
Never said that. I was talking about the people that were spanked and advocate it. There is a difference.
"yes you do have to spell it out"
I already said why.
"If for no other reason than they condone the use of violence on children."
"A lot of people say "I was spanked and I turn out fine", but when you look at them they really didn't."
I know that you believe spanking condones the use of violence on children. I'm talking about your reasons for thinking that people who are spanked don't turn out okay, that's what I want to discuss.
Finally I'd like to say that your jests towards my disposition and my intelligence don't make you look smarter they just make you look petty.
What part of "I was talking about the people that were spanked and advocate it." do you not understand. I'm talking about those that were spanked AND advocate it.
"Finally I'd like to say that your jests towards my disposition and my intelligence don't make you look smarter they just make you look petty."
It may make me look petty, but you advocate the use of violence on children. That makes you far worse.
modern society.We know since decades that kids who were hit as kids grow up to be hitters,its as simple as that.My guess is that most of those who are answering here with"yes"were hit as kids by their parents.Wouldn't surprise me at least.
I suspect that in the Trayvon Martin case,this is what in part drove Zimmerman-to experience the ultimate power and authority over another he suspected and felt was inferior to him.Joining the Neighborhood Watch was a kind metamorphosis from his childhood primal experience at the hands of his authoritarian and violent parents,to then feeling and replacing that parental authority and power over to himself as a member of the Neighborhood Watch.It gave him the personal jurisdiction and freedom within potentially the law to"Play"not the Cop,but the"Parent".No degree of violence towards kids is healthy and especially by parents who a Child loves because it uses fear.Fear will corrode the soul and cause psychological damage which kids then take with them into adult life..
But guess what,you fall into the well known fact that kids that got hit grow up to be hitters.You accepted it as a kid,so now you accept to hit your kids.Not your fault tho,but you will never realize that it was wrong to hit you and its wrong to hit kids.We cant tell the "little ones" that its wrong to put over their arguments with violence when we put over our arguments onto them with violence.Would you hit an adult if you believed he/she was wrong and or bad?.Then how can you hit someone smaller than you?.Right..because you are bigger and your child cant hit you back and wont hit you back because he/she is to fr...
But guess what,you fall into the well known fact that kids that got hit grow up to be hitters.You accepted it as a kid,so now you accept to hit your kids.Not your fault tho,but you will never realize that it was wrong to hit you and its wrong to hit kids.We cant tell the "little ones" that its wrong to put over their arguments with violence when we put over our arguments onto them with violence.Would you hit an adult if you believed he/she was wrong and or bad?.Then how can you hit someone smaller than you?.Right..because you are bigger and your child cant hit you back and wont hit you back because he/she is to frightened.That makes you a Fkn bully and a lousy parent!.And your kids will grow up and hit their children.
But what is even worse is that the neurosis settles down in a persons general character as an adult, which means that such disturbed people who seem quite normal on the surface(and will claim they are)will lash out when they feel their authority is being challenged,because as kids they were taught that authority has the right to act violent when in the right!.Thats what you were taught and that's why you believe"A good swat,sit down and shut up".Your parents misused your blind and innocent acceptance of their authority and you believed therefore that they were justified when hitting you.You loved your parents,so you accepted their punishment and now you are convinced that you can hit your kids and they will still love you.That may also backfire!.Your "a kid needs it"moral value is because you as a kid believed you needed it because you loved your parents and therefore in your eyes they couldnt be bad or be wrong to you!.Think about it although obviously you will go on the defense after being told this,but maybe i got to your subconscious and you cant tell that to sit down and shut up!.lol.