Stop it with the body shaming.
The Potato Princess
2012/06/11 11:45:12
Hey guys, guess what?
You actually can say that you like one body type without shaming another.
Wait, what do I mean by that?
You can say, 'I prefer someone with a little meat on them,' without adding that, 'only dogs like bones'!
You can say, 'I like to look slender' without also saying, 'no one wants a whale'!
You actually don't need to be assholes!
Revolutionary stuff; I know.
For those of you going, 'but it's about their health!one!';
1.) You actually can't see how healthy someone is based on their weight unless it's very extreme. No really. I know a girl who's inner organs are in top condition because she plays a lot of sports. She's also very fat and she's okay with that.
2.) It's actually not your business if someone is healthy unless you're their doctor or parent. I mean, it's a wonderful thing for you to pursue, but it's not your business to go and tell other people how they should look and what they should eat because they need to be healthy goddammit.
Besides that, going back to '1.)', you don't know how healthy they are anyway. I cannot tell you how many well-meaning ladies have come up to me in restaurants and been all, 'oh honey, you need to eat more than that. Look at how thin you are,' when the truth is that this is just my metabolism; I can't help it. Besides that, I don't think stuffing more food in me when I'm already full is going to help my health.
You actually can say that you like one body type without shaming another.
Wait, what do I mean by that?
You can say, 'I prefer someone with a little meat on them,' without adding that, 'only dogs like bones'!
You can say, 'I like to look slender' without also saying, 'no one wants a whale'!
You actually don't need to be assholes!
Revolutionary stuff; I know.
For those of you going, 'but it's about their health!one!';
1.) You actually can't see how healthy someone is based on their weight unless it's very extreme. No really. I know a girl who's inner organs are in top condition because she plays a lot of sports. She's also very fat and she's okay with that.
2.) It's actually not your business if someone is healthy unless you're their doctor or parent. I mean, it's a wonderful thing for you to pursue, but it's not your business to go and tell other people how they should look and what they should eat because they need to be healthy goddammit.
Besides that, going back to '1.)', you don't know how healthy they are anyway. I cannot tell you how many well-meaning ladies have come up to me in restaurants and been all, 'oh honey, you need to eat more than that. Look at how thin you are,' when the truth is that this is just my metabolism; I can't help it. Besides that, I don't think stuffing more food in me when I'm already full is going to help my health.
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Deliciously Melicious 2012/06/11 16:47:38
Person A can weigh 130 lbs and be a ballet dancer.
Person B can weigh 120 lbs with hyperthyroidism and stuggle to gain/maintain weight.
Person C can weigh 115 lbs, be bulimic, and struggle with body dysmorphic disorder.
Person D can weigh 135 lbs and struggle with diabetes.
Here's a shocker: They all have the SAME height and figure!
Who's the healthiest person?
Very nice post. This needed to be said.
Men have seemingly been conditioned to think they are "very confident", enough to make these remarks, that they are "okay the way they are", where females have been conditioned to make themselves "perfect looking" to be appealing. I don't know why nothing has been done to change this and seems to have worsened in recent years with everything being superficially-based.
It's the fault of a lot of influences. I recall realizing that in many Sitcoms and even commercials, the man will be depicted as a regular joe-blow, where the "wife" is more attractive. Subliminally, this sends this message, I think, "that this is how life should be". Except for "Roseanne" and "Mike and Molly", where the characters are equally heavy (and probably more realistic to life). I'm not saying that people in real life who are "less attractive" don't find love, it is just not reflected by what we see. Mostly, the focus is on endless images of youthful women - FOR men.
Then, there is the older man / younger woman thing, which is common.
We would be much better off if the focus would h...
Men have seemingly been conditioned to think they are "very confident", enough to make these remarks, that they are "okay the way they are", where females have been conditioned to make themselves "perfect looking" to be appealing. I don't know why nothing has been done to change this and seems to have worsened in recent years with everything being superficially-based.
It's the fault of a lot of influences. I recall realizing that in many Sitcoms and even commercials, the man will be depicted as a regular joe-blow, where the "wife" is more attractive. Subliminally, this sends this message, I think, "that this is how life should be". Except for "Roseanne" and "Mike and Molly", where the characters are equally heavy (and probably more realistic to life). I'm not saying that people in real life who are "less attractive" don't find love, it is just not reflected by what we see. Mostly, the focus is on endless images of youthful women - FOR men.
Then, there is the older man / younger woman thing, which is common.
We would be much better off if the focus would have been to develop more as human beings from the inside out and were attracted by qualities of a person instead of primarily superficial factors.
Takes after me own heart. <3
is a personal thing.Yes, there are "fat" athletes and skinny ones.People are too into looks.