Sometimes people are not what you think they are.

Ever meet someone who completely blows your mind and right away you know you want to count that person among your friends. Someone who you can talk to, relate to, learn with, laugh with and be totally comfortable with? Someone who you feel was MEANT to be in your life in some capacity?

Ever have that someone completely change, do a 180 on you, turn into someone you didn't think they had the capacity to be? Ever have that someone disregard your feelings and piss your friendhsip away without so much as a word of explanation? Ever have that someone treat you like you don't matter?

Well I have and it sucks. I had a friend who I thought was such a teriffic person; genuine, kind, funny, intelligent, compassionate. Turns out this friend is flawed just like the rest of us. Lonely, afraid, insecure. Turns out this friend doesn't value the friendship of someone who really cared about them. Turns out this friend has a lot of learning and growing to do.

Sometimes we think we know someone but really we only know the parts of them they have chosen to share with us. We assume that they are being open with us about their feelings, their beliefs, their character and we are then blindisded by the part of them they have kept hidden from us. Well you know what they say happens when you assume......you make an ASS out of U and ME.

I won't say that this experience has made me not want to become friends with other people. I know that there are good people out there who would make fantastic friends. But it HAS made me rethink how open and trusting I am, and that's a shame. It's a shame that I will now be hesitant when meeting new people, wondering if her or she is sincere. What a shame.
Maybe the next person will have the GUTS to work on a relationship instead of sticking their tail between their legs and hiding.
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  • Jammin' 2010/06/22 06:12:22
    Not everyone can fully understand the true weight of a relationship until they are sinking in stormy seas. . . sometimes a person can be unexpectedly drawn to another and be overwhelmed beyond control. It has happened to me before and its a scary and very very difficult reality to finally face. . .I'm SURE that you are NOT the ASS in assume. . . .that person maybe but doubtful that it is you. Hopefully you can find your trust again and go with your heart to the farthest reaches of your imagination
  • clapton... Jammin' 2010/07/08 16:58:05
    Thanks for that! Glad to see you back here!!!!
  • Todd~AFCL 2010/05/10 15:07:54
    God knows I will do everything I can to prevent you from ever being hurt like this again!!! god prevent hurt
    You know how I got burned; I will NOT do the same to you!
  • menopausin~Praying For America 2010/04/16 00:36:13
    menopausin~Praying For America
    Sometimes people have a lot on their plate or just get scared. I know I don't talk on the phone much because I can't hear very well, and people think it's because I don't want to. It's the opposite, actually. I get frustrated at not hearing well and being misunderstood or making the wrong comment back.. I look like an absolute fool. I'm not saying your case is the same, but maybe this person got burned before and was scared. It's happened to me.
  • clapton... menopau... 2010/04/16 01:51:31
    I see what you're saying but this person is extremely confident and self assured. They just showed their true colors when things got hard.
  • menopau... clapton... 2010/04/19 05:35:29
    menopausin~Praying For America
    Sounds like they don't deserve your friendship. I've been burned a few times and it not only hurts, it makes you feel like a fool. I'm sorry it happened to you.
  • Kalamazoo 2010/04/13 02:25:53
    I think just about anyone who has offered their hand in friendship and trusted someone has been burned. It happens, but the thing is, it will either make you or break you. Don't let it break you.
  • R.P. Bliss.::ρнαɛт::.►Ѳиɛ Ħιт Яαɢɛ Ǫʋιт◄
    I have a friend whom you just perfectly described. This girl was the most beautiful, sweetest, intelligent person I ever knew, and she up and changes into something she isn't and should never have been. It's not a good feeling.
  • BlondieBrownEyes 2010/04/13 00:10:23
  • clapton... Blondie... 2010/04/13 02:11:56
    Thank you. I know you of all people understand how it feels. We'll talk in an email and I'll tell you more.
  • Blondie... clapton... 2010/04/13 02:13:20
  • clapton... Blondie... 2010/04/13 02:39:39
    Thanks, love ya!!
  • Blondie... clapton... 2010/04/13 02:43:13
  • TinCanSailor 2010/04/12 23:32:31 (edited)
    Yes, I have had friends like you talk about here. Fair weather friends I call them.

    Yes, I have a friend that has been close to me since we were in grade school. We have always been there for each other since 1948. We were together morning noon and night for many years. We double dated through high school for the important events, Prom, Formal Dances, House Parties and Haning Out at the Drug Store. I was the Best Man in his wedding and he was the Best Man in my wedding.

    We now live 1,500 miles apart and still get together about 5 times per year. There is never a day goes by that we don't send each other 3 to 5 e-mails.
  • clapton... TinCanS... 2010/04/13 00:04:45
    That's fantastic, we should all have friends like that. Thanks for your comment!
  • Tiffany 2010/04/12 14:26:53
    I have many friends but I learned a long time ago to NEVER trust someone 100%. If I don't get my hopes up.....I wont get let down.
  • clapton... Tiffany 2010/04/12 21:21:55
    I hear you, but I don't want to live like that. I have a couple of people in my life who I trust completely and that won't change, but I know I will be less open to new people now and that sucks
  • Tiffany clapton... 2010/04/13 00:41:14
    Sorry for what you went through.....
  • BornToBeWild 2010/04/12 07:18:31
    YEP...I have had three best friends that stabbed me in the back and used sex to steal my boyfriends, (I don't give it out so easily), of course the boyfriends would come back claiming they were stupid and I agreed with them and told them to continue being stupid because they would never touch or be with me ever. Since then it is really hard to trust female friends unless they were already happily married!
  • perks-a real PATRIOT 2010/04/12 04:31:34
    perks-a real PATRIOT
    It's better to have lived and loved than never to have loved at all!!

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