Should you stop texting someone who never texts first?

by bamabelle13✝❤ Posted 2012/06/18 21:50:17

Related Topics: Text, Texting, Forget, Fall, In Touch, Whatever, Without

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I want to keep in touch with someone, but I always have to text first. If I don't text him first, he'll literally go days and weeks without talking to me. But when I do text first, we text for a while about whatever and sometimes he'll call me. But he never texts or calls first. Ever. Why? Should I just stop trying? Cause he doesn't seem to be making an effort to stay in touch with me. But it sucks to just forget about someone and fall out of touch with them.

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Amy.[: 2012/06/18 21:59:12

No.

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some people don't want to text first cause they feel they annoy the other person
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LiamPayneismybabe 2013/04/28 04:01:24

Yes.

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Yes because this is happening to me now my friends haven't texted me in like forever! Then whenever I text them and what they're doing they say nothing u? I would say just doing this bla bla bla then they say cool and that's it then right now they're having a party and didnt even bother to invite me they never invite me to stuff..

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stephen.runnels.1 2013/03/16 20:34:08

Yes.

Time is too short for jerks. Find someone who can't stop thinking about you. You deserve no less.

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kirsty 2013/01/14 12:49:05

No.

i really like a guy but he doesnt seem that interested in me, we used to work togerther once, he got laid of because we was always together talking and not much work would be done. when he got laid of he would message first and even ask to go out for a drink. but now he doesnt message unless i message first but he does reply and will chat for hours, but he doesnt ask to meet unless i ask him but he will meet when he as time

should i give up on him??? i really like him but dont know if he is interested at all

i wonder if i dont message for a week or so would he even notice and even care or would he be happy????

please help

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dougiehitter 2013/01/03 16:45:46

Yes.

Because if he can go days and weeks without texting you or even calling then he isn't worth it. I am dealing with this too. He takes hours to text me back so its like when hr does I'm like "whatever" .

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Sara 2012/09/13 02:00:51

Yes.

I have a friend that I text but she dont answer right away but then again she a busy person and sometimes I go overboard how do I stop texten the person so many times in one day?

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TheWildOne 2012/06/20 18:54:12

No.

you knw once i had this problem i used to text tht smeone 1st all the time but eventually i stopped talkin to tht person but after a while tht person started to talk to me daily ... so then i understood tht it was just a misunderstood idea

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Staind_wolf94 2012/06/20 16:44:39

No.

You shouldn't, but I do. I never have a reason to text people like that.

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Vision of Verve 2012/06/20 14:22:35
Piwan 2012/06/20 14:09:32

Yes.

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I don't think you are asking for much for him to text you first...let him wonder for a while!

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bamabel... to Piwan 2012/06/20 16:34:52

I think I will.

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BBCoach 2012/06/19 20:24:16

No.

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It sounds like he wants to talk, just needs an extra push in the right direction.

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wisecracker 2012/06/19 12:49:17

No.

Don't think so? Shoot..could he your kid!

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Cochise 2012/06/19 12:13:19

Yes.

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Yes, see if they will text you first for a change. If they don't, then they aren't that interested in talking to you. They'll text you, when they want to hear from you.

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D D 2012/06/19 10:37:02

Yes.

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I do not text men first.

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Luke 2012/06/19 10:30:13

Yes.

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If they care they will come look for you....don't chase them.....

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Mardoch... to Luke 2013/01/10 23:10:50

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What if they text you first once, but then after you guys talk for a while, it goes back to the way it was before? And you guys stop talking for months, and you know the perosn wont apologize again?

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Luke to Mardoch... 2013/01/11 10:41:48

Months? Seems like the interest is lost.... move on....

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★earthbound_misfit★ 2012/06/19 04:03:47

No.

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Some people simply don't feel comfortable texting or calling first. I'm one of those people. It's not that I don't like the other person, I'm just afraid of picking a bad time and bothering them. You can tell him that it's okay to text you whenever he wants. THEN if he still never texts, perhaps you should stop or do it less frequently.

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Wild Dog 2012/06/19 02:25:41

No.

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Dang it ,should have a maybe. It's a hard call,and being with out a reply does leave you hanging. I would say in my case ,it's because the other person lost intrest ,or had better things to do.You're right that it does suck, and all I can say ,you may have to reavaluate the relationship.

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wisecra... to Wild Dog 2012/06/19 12:52:07

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Agree with maybe!

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Wild Dog to wisecra... 2012/06/19 13:00:48

Well ,yes it's hard ,and I like to text ,although talking is better sometimes.I don't know, for a guy things are different sometimes ,but even we get a sense of being dropped when we get no reply, and experience has shown me sometimes the relationship fades, and ther's not much you can do about it .I don't really push myself on people who may have lost intrest in me.

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wisecra... to Wild Dog 2012/06/19 13:07:01

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I just think as long as when you text, even first...the important thing is they jump into it, even by calling!

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greicy to Wild Dog 2013/03/05 06:58:34

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I have the same prob xcept none of my friiends text me first unles they need something I wish I had a friends who'd text me Lyk I text them

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Wonder Woman 2012/06/19 02:02:59
Soot Th... to Wonder ... 2012/06/19 03:47:23

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Thier are exceptions and I consider myself such an example. I just chose not to show it.

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Wonder ... to Soot Th... 2012/06/19 04:15:26
Soot Th... to Wonder ... 2012/06/19 17:10:30

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Alright i wont deny it men are cold, but im just not lucky either i tried it that way. The results are kind of obvious with my stating im not so lucky.

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bamabel... to Wonder ... 2012/06/19 04:10:23

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lol :p

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beach bum 2012/06/19 02:01:56

Yes.

yes

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Maria 2012/06/19 01:42:16

Yes.

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you're waste your time and miss out the fun so let someone text you first and remember you're not slave to him...and don't try to chase boys...boys like that...just stop till he'll wondering what happen he will ask you haven't heard from you ..what's up...just say oh I'm gone out a lot busy gone beach, hang out with my friends and working and help my parents do the yard work etc...

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RobHom 2012/06/19 01:38:15

Yes.

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He's already trained you to be "needy"....

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bamabel... to RobHom 2012/06/19 04:11:12

What? How is it being "needy"?

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Soup Man 2012/06/19 01:36:40

Yes.

But it Depends on way

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Dweezle 2012/06/19 00:29:24

Yes.

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try calling! I only text when necessary. and if a person cannot text in English, screw em, I won't bother to reply to jibberish such as rubzy

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olshaw 2012/06/19 00:25:43

Yes.

So annoying :(

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oldlady 2012/06/19 00:23:00
bamabel... to oldlady 2012/06/19 04:14:07

I do call him. He just never calls or text me first. :/

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jackie 2012/06/19 00:15:00 (edited)

Yes.

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That shows they are not interested in you. but just incase it isnt, talk to him first. my ex boyfriend was like that, when I confronted him he was like "ehhh whatever". it seems like he just really didnt want to. if you talk to him and he is like "wow really? ok" then he was probably scared to text you first. Im a shy person and I never had a lot of friends, so when I did text him I felt uncomfortable.

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La 2012/06/18 23:58:24

No.

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If you have good conversations, keep talking to him.

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brutusin~ Proud Apetheist 2012/06/18 23:42:28

No.

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Damn it I meant Yes.

They're probably not that into you.

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