Should you be able to sue the person your spouse cheated on you with?

no...YOUR spouse is the one who is married to you..sue them

I can't say I've ever had it happen,I know myself well enough to never even acknowledge their existence I wasn't married to them.I do believe at one time there were alienation of affections clauses,but having gone through divorce twice it's emotionally tough enough without adding to it.Let it go -be happy.

I can see suing the cheating spouse, but not whoever they cheated with. It takes two, plus the other may not have known there was a marriage involved.

If he/she was aware that he/she was in a relationship, than yes she/he is just as guilty as the married party. Their hands are not clean, they contributed. Don't understand why they often get dubbed as victims as well as the cheated. They know what they are doing when they decide to take up with someone who is married.

The Cheater is the one whom should be sued for Divorce, by the Cheated. The other party, may or may not known that the Cheater was married. Not that it's not hard to figure out sooner or later, by the Cheaters actions.

you can sue anyone. Whether i is founded is another story.

Sue the spouse for divorce, the other person might not even have known.

i prefer the old school way...kick his/her ass

Sometimes the husband/wife doesn't say that he/she is married.

No, how asinine.

I don't know. How asinine is it?

Really asinine.

They didn't force your no-good spouse to cheat, and they might not have even known they were married. It's the married person's responsibility to be faithful.

The spouse is the one that made the promise to you. He is the one who should be sued for violating it. The trash that he was being unfaithful with is inconsequential. And how could you be sure that you were suing all of them? If he's unfaithful with one person he probably did it with others as well. It wouldn't be fair not to sue all of his partners in adultery.

you should be able to ask the third party if he needs a good beating ?

why?

would give him a Mickey D's gift certificate for taking her away!!!

and he needs it because she cant cook!!!!! LOL

Cheeez!

Get rid of the bum and his bumtress.

if one spouse can't retain the undivided attention of the other, that is not the fault of the third party who meets up with that other spouse. law can't change the natural order of things.

True, but it could help offset losing half your stuff. Ha!

not so ... in a marriage (in MY state anyway) the two parties to the marriage own all the stuff equally ...

That's my point, Mark.

so the divorcing party gets half ... 50/50 ...

NO IT'S NOT A CRIME IT WAS THE SPOUSE'S POOR CHOISE

Absolutely. NM still has the alienation of affection law.
If he wants to go, let him go.....fine....but be a man about it. No sliding around, and sneaking and lying and comforting yourself with another woman. Look your spouse in the eye and say i don't love you, we need to find a way for us to get out....leave FOR another person? There are plenty of desparate, manipulating females out there. I don't feel sorry for them. They need to stand up and be a woman and tell him if he really wants her, do things the right way and leave her out of it till its over. If she had any dignity, she would tell him to go WORK on his marriage and if it doesn't work out...give her a call but to be part and parcel of the breakup of a family is wrong.

Relationships are so complicated sometimes and its noone else's business but the partys involved to deal with things. Yeah, other ppl that want to stick their noses in and make matters even worse........... should be able to sue them.

I 100% agree with this. Your reasoning is tops.

TY, Pan..

What a wonderful idea. Sue the one that broke up your marriage. And then hope they marry your spouse so they can experience it all while you, the injured one, goes to the bank. If your spouse was worth stealing, they must be worth paying for.

i like it.

Isn't that what the charge of "Alienation of Affection" is all about... but 9mm's work better.

I do think you should be able to sue the cheating spouse for divorce purposes to take legitimacy from their claims to your property.

No. Isn't there enough litigation in the world? The only difference between a lawyer and a scum sucking bottom dweller is that one of them is a fish.

one of them is a fish or homewrecker.

If anything you should sue your spouce due to breaking the marriage contract. That generally is called divorce.

I wonder how many cases have come from this law and were they successful?

Sue the cheating spouse. They are the one that is supposed to be in a commitment to you.

sure but the spouse had help cheating. some women are actually ATTRACTED to a guy with a wedding ring. they consider a power play and just want to win.

I agree to an extent. If a spouse wants to cheat he/she will find somebody to do cheat with.
NOBODY "forces" a spouse to cheat. If my husband cheated on me I would be mad at him. The woman would be irrevelant. She would have just received my "leftovers"....

You would be mad at her as well. Was he wearing his ring? Did he sucker her in? Or was she willing to play with a married man? Everyone has problems...and single women know that. SOMETIMES men are vulnerable and sometimes they are just pricks. But when the woman knows he is married and inviting a relationship irregardless of another woman's feelings or circumstance, she is just as much to blame.

Believe me when I say that cheaters are not worth me getting upset with. I have gained a lot of self-esteem in my many years.
At one point I would have been mad at the woman, but I have learned it is not worth being mad or upset.
The only thing I would feel for the woman is pity, for SHE was the fool.

And so was he.

I agree, if the situation was real, but it isn't. I have no sympathy for fools, only pity.
I surely hope you don't think I'm speaking from a personal experience when I'm speaking of cheaters. I'm just giving my opinion on what "if" type of situation.
On that note seems we can agree to disagree........