Should women wait till they are married to have children?
☆ElenaDiamond☆
2012/08/16 03:58:46
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Kat 2012/08/16 03:59:54
Why isolate the female gender when it takes (a) healthy individual(s) (or any gender combo thereof) to create a positive environment for the child?
Should every couple conceiving a child regardless of mental -- oops, I mean marital status be REQUIRED to take an EXHAUSTIVE psych eval including the type of childhood they had, and if they intentionally decided to do better any any idiot who has treated them wrongfully before being given permission to breed? I'll say YES.
What's with the implication a making the woman a villain if she doesn't. Generally one can't isolate one issue without including the other.
How about this...
What if a woman who is not heterosexual wants to adopt? Are you calling her a whore/slut/skank/prostitute?
Is the person who posted this question from a very repressive religious background?
Dysfunctional societies encourage males to sow their wild oats with impunity before tying the noose (oops I mean, KNOT), It's no better than forcing female genital mutilation.
What's up with repressing a woman's sexuality? What's so threatening about woman's sexuality? IS it it too intense? The...
Why isolate the female gender when it takes (a) healthy individual(s) (or any gender combo thereof) to create a positive environment for the child?
Should every couple conceiving a child regardless of mental -- oops, I mean marital status be REQUIRED to take an EXHAUSTIVE psych eval including the type of childhood they had, and if they intentionally decided to do better any any idiot who has treated them wrongfully before being given permission to breed? I'll say YES.
What's with the implication a making the woman a villain if she doesn't. Generally one can't isolate one issue without including the other.
How about this...
What if a woman who is not heterosexual wants to adopt? Are you calling her a whore/slut/skank/prostitute?
Is the person who posted this question from a very repressive religious background?
Dysfunctional societies encourage males to sow their wild oats with impunity before tying the noose (oops I mean, KNOT), It's no better than forcing female genital mutilation.
What's up with repressing a woman's sexuality? What's so threatening about woman's sexuality? IS it it too intense? There's a lot of wonderful energy there when a woman is satisfied ALL the time. Even better when the guy is NOT in a hurry!
What's the point of calling a woman a slut / whore because SHE OWNS her sexuality, not her BF, spouse, the media or religion or any dysfunctional institutional representative of this brainwashed society?
As a woman I'm really tired of these jacked-up questions about what a woman should and should not do...A woman must be encouraged to do whatever her heart pleases with impunity (ie not causing harm to anyone or herself) and be left alone. If the female wants to explore her sexuality, she'll do it responsibly without guilt shame or repercussions.
It's HER BODY, not just to make a baby or please a man, but to get pleasure for herself as much as possible!
(In my honest opinion the sex workers got it good on a certain level. I'm just looking at it from the outside due to my limited experience and perspective, I think they've taken the SHAME out of sexuality, as well as people who are in alternative lifestyles.)
Lots of religious circles make both genders repress their sexuality until marriage, this is the real sacrilige, this is the real sin, to repress something that the Creator gave to everyone,making people guilty and ashamed for something SO natural.
People who embrace shame and guilt in sexuality really need to rethink it over.
Why do people cheat, rape, and have religious guilt? It's not worth it for anyone.
I've come to the conclusion that the main causes of divorce in the USA are cumulative abuses and religious/societal repression/oppression. Look around you and take note in your own lives and others.
Marriage is OVERRATED, unrealistic and tainted. Two pieces of paper, a vow and metal ring does not stop anyone from cheating. It's the mutually equal decision based on LOVE, (not fighting for power or control) for two people who agree to be together, which binds probably better than paper, glue or galvanized metals. Why do you think contracts like this are so BINDING; so easy to get into it but hard to get out?
Marriage probably predates the history of JAILS!
Who the hell says that marriage is a guarantee for anything? People change their minds, people stop communicating, people have ulterior motives to prevent further harassment if one is not married as expected by friends, family or religion. Imagine those pressures on top of people who do not know who they are, what they want and what makes them satisfied as a sexual being, that's the BIGGEST problem ever.
Children are another story. they do not think of gender at all.
I repeat, (especially to those who think in black n white and delusional of the grey areas)... Children do not think about gender at all. All they care about is who's going to feed/ love/clothe/love/nurture/love /pay attention to me/ encourage me/ love/shelter/play with me/protect/love me/ teach/ be kind to me?
If you are reading this and happen to be a parent, coupled or not avoid teaching them gender differences that make the child ashamed and repressed. don't do what the other crazy psycho adults in this world when it doesn't go according to what they think (ie males stick with fems only, no exceptions)
Yeah, that about covers it.
...or just don't want to deal with the drama and karma of it, period.
...or, understand that this world is not perfect and situations and PEOPLE can change at any time
...or, like the idea of having more disposable income and free time
...or, it's just not on the flippin' radar.
...or because the PLANET HAS SEVEN BILLION FLIPPIN' PEOPLE on it and needs a BREAK!
I think the 'biological clock' is a myth, compared to that 'atomic clock'. see the correlation of that? The threat of 'doomsday' for a woman who doesn't have a kid by a certain age being unvalued/unproductive or something. Why is that geared towards women, anyway? No one's put it on a man yet.
I never even heard of anything ticking inside me as if it were a bomb or something. Don't you see how SICK that is?
Look, having children is NOT A REQUIREMENT. A person can preach fire/brimstone/stoning/shaming/ ostracsing/ belittling people who consciously choose not to have children all they want, it's not working anymore.
Just beca...
...or just don't want to deal with the drama and karma of it, period.
...or, understand that this world is not perfect and situations and PEOPLE can change at any time
...or, like the idea of having more disposable income and free time
...or, it's just not on the flippin' radar.
...or because the PLANET HAS SEVEN BILLION FLIPPIN' PEOPLE on it and needs a BREAK!
I think the 'biological clock' is a myth, compared to that 'atomic clock'. see the correlation of that? The threat of 'doomsday' for a woman who doesn't have a kid by a certain age being unvalued/unproductive or something. Why is that geared towards women, anyway? No one's put it on a man yet.
I never even heard of anything ticking inside me as if it were a bomb or something. Don't you see how SICK that is?
Look, having children is NOT A REQUIREMENT. A person can preach fire/brimstone/stoning/shaming/ ostracsing/ belittling people who consciously choose not to have children all they want, it's not working anymore.
Just because someone has a womb or an external sac doesn't obligate someone to procreate. Unfortunately, the parental duties have been piled upon a woman whether she's coupled or not.
Why do women even want to deal with a man like that (with the way they have been taught to be priviledged) and there's always special plastic to play with. Problem solved, unless there's a guy who's broke out of that nasty mold. *shrugs*
Actually, I'm glad my parents never married and aren't together. They were a case of opposites attract I think. Just because they attract doesn't mean they create a good environment. Also, as much as I love my father, I wouldn't be able to spend so much time with him. Visiting for two weeks is about my limit before I find my breaking point, and that is only if it's a GOOD two weeks. Besides, if they had been married I never would have gotten my Step mom, and I can't imagine growing up half as well without her.
Also, that "contract" two people sign when they get married simply explains that they're entering a legal union, and how to divide up their shared possessions should they leave that union. It can't prove that two people love each other, or that they love their kids, and how can it prove that they're even fit to have kids to begin with?
It doesn't.
So to anyone born under these circumstances, I did not mean any offence, but, gee, I didn't invent the term.
I understand your point of view though.
Get ready with the vomit bucket.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?...
"Oh, my parents aren't married."
"I'm sorry, when did they divorce?"
"Oh, they didn't, I'm a bastard child."
I've never found it all that awkward. If that's the most socially awkward thing you've ever heard then you either live in a very polite bubble or have some odd priorities.
I have never heard anyone describe themselves this way. How socially awkward.