As a toddler, I once had a temper tantrum in a local store, my mother set down her basket on the spot, picked me up, marched me out of the store and to her car. She drove me home, dropped me off with my maternal gran, and then went back out to finish her shopping by herself. I was so shocked that I stopped crying the minute she began taking me out of the store, begging her that I would be good and not to take me home. My mother refused. I never bawled like that in public with her again because I knew what would happen.
So the way I see it is like this, if your child is behaving, take them to a restaurant, let them come out with you on your errand runs, and to family dinners out and about.
But if that child starts acting bratty and unruly, screaming, whining, and crying, it should be a parent's responsibility to take that child out of the restaurant until they have calmed down. A parent should do this out of respect for the other patrons in the restaurant, a restaurant should not have to take these measures. A parent should be teaching their children that this is negative behavior and will not be tolerated, not restaurant staff.
And if the child does not calm down before orders have been taken and placed, I honestly believe that the child should be taken home to learn that the be...
So the way I see it is like this, if your child is behaving, take them to a restaurant, let them come out with you on your errand runs, and to family dinners out and about.
But if that child starts acting bratty and unruly, screaming, whining, and crying, it should be a parent's responsibility to take that child out of the restaurant until they have calmed down. A parent should do this out of respect for the other patrons in the restaurant, a restaurant should not have to take these measures. A parent should be teaching their children that this is negative behavior and will not be tolerated, not restaurant staff.
And if the child does not calm down before orders have been taken and placed, I honestly believe that the child should be taken home to learn that the be...
As a toddler, I once had a temper tantrum in a local store, my mother set down her basket on the spot, picked me up, marched me out of the store and to her car. She drove me home, dropped me off with my maternal gran, and then went back out to finish her shopping by herself. I was so shocked that I stopped crying the minute she began taking me out of the store, begging her that I would be good and not to take me home. My mother refused. I never bawled like that in public with her again because I knew what would happen.
So the way I see it is like this, if your child is behaving, take them to a restaurant, let them come out with you on your errand runs, and to family dinners out and about.
But if that child starts acting bratty and unruly, screaming, whining, and crying, it should be a parent's responsibility to take that child out of the restaurant until they have calmed down. A parent should do this out of respect for the other patrons in the restaurant, a restaurant should not have to take these measures. A parent should be teaching their children that this is negative behavior and will not be tolerated, not restaurant staff.
And if the child does not calm down before orders have been taken and placed, I honestly believe that the child should be taken home to learn that the behavior will not be tolerated in public, just the way I was. A parent shouldn't be sitting there making empty threats like I've seen them do in the restaurant I work at or when I'm out on a quiet date with my boyfriend. I find the fact that their children are disrupting the entire restaurant with noise or running rampant and trashing multiple tables to be rude and disrespectful not only to that restaurant's staff but to everyone around them.
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(more)So the way I see it is like this, if your child is behaving, take them to a restaurant, let them come out with you on your errand runs, and to family dinners out and about.
But if that child starts acting bratty and unruly, screaming, whining, and crying, it should be a parent's responsibility to take that child out of the restaurant until they have calmed down. A parent should do this out of respect for the other patrons in the restaurant, a restaurant should not have to take these measures. A parent should be teaching their children that this is negative behavior and will not be tolerated, not restaurant staff.
And if the child does not calm down before orders have been taken and placed, I honestly believe that the child should be taken home to learn that the behavior will not be tolerated in public, just the way I was. A parent shouldn't be sitting there making empty threats like I've seen them do in the restaurant I work at or when I'm out on a quiet date with my boyfriend. I find the fact that their children are disrupting the entire restaurant with noise or running rampant and trashing multiple tables to be rude and disrespectful not only to that restaurant's staff but to everyone around them.
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If any of these kids ever go inot the service Guaranteed You Would have screaming Drill Instuctors Getting in your face in boot camp One thing I learned Your Mean sprited Drill Instructors pick up where Your parenst left off
and whn they say "Jump!" Your NExt Question is "How HIgh?"
What Conditions Allow a Restaurant to Refuse Service?
There a number of legitimate reasons for a restaurant to refuse service, some of which include:
■Patrons who are unreasonably rowdy or causing trouble
■Patrons that may overfill capacity if let in
■Patrons who come in just before closing time or when the kitchen is closed
■Patrons accompanied by large groups of non-customers looking to sit in
■Patrons lacking adequate hygiene (e.g. excess dirt, extreme body odor, etc.)
In most cases, refusal of service is warranted where a customer’s presence in the restaurant detracts from the safety, welfare, and well-being of other patrons and the restaurant itself.
When I complained to the management, his solution was to move us to a table that had no view and was practically in the kitchen. In hind-site, we should have just left. We have 3 grown kids and 5 grandkids now and also own a restaurant in Lake Tahoe. I think it is fine to allow kids but the process must be managed in a way that each guest, including the child, can enjoy their eating out experience. When children scream, the manager should ask the parents to either have them be quite or leave the restaurant with a doggy bag in hand. Anything else would be unfair to the other guests who came to enjoy their meal.
Don Blough
Lake Tahoe, NV
I can still remember an incident when I was about seven when my mother took my younger brother and sister and I out for ice cream, and we ran into a woman she'd gone to high school with. The woman looked at us (again, ages seven, six, and three) quietly if a bit messily eating our ice cream and then at her own two kids who were jumping on the table and rolling around on the floor and asked my mother how she got us to sit still like that.
I mean I understand that, yes, obviously children are going to throw tantrums now and then, but it's up to the parents to teach them that such outbursts are not tolerated. At the very least, you can take the child outside until they've quieted so you aren't disturbing everyone else trying to have a meal in peace. Some parents just let the kids keep screaming or yell at them in the middle of the restaurant which is just as bad as the kids screaming.
I don't see anything wrong with a restaurant saying that it won't be tolerated, except for the fact that they shouldn't have to say so in the first place. The parents of these children should show their fellow diners the common courtesy of handling this on their own.
See how that works?
Here's the thing- we shouldn't have to learn to tolerate your screaming child any more than you should have to learn to tolerate a dog that bites with no warning.
maybe parents should be a little more caring towards the people in their vicinity.
Just last week, I was eating dinner (with my little brother, coincidently) at a fairly nice restaurant, and this family came it. The one kid started screaming, and without anyone saying a word, the father took said kid outside of the restaurant until the kid calmed down. See, it's possible to deal with these things, and it's most certainly not insulting to ask that parents control their children when in a public place.
The other thing is that even in a family or more casual restaurant, you still have to make your kids behave. They should stay in their seats, not tear up napkins or be allowed to otherwise make messes on purpose (you can't help some accidential messes). They should be made to be polite, talk in an indoor voice, and you should be smart enough to bring something to occupy them until the food comes, and after they are finished but before the check comes. If they can't act like humans, you should take them outside, even if you waste your own dinner. If you never teach them how to act in public, they will be jerks in restaurants when they grow up (think loud cell phone talker, people who talk loudly or shout for service, people who ask rudely for special orders, people who don't use a napkin or chew with their mouths open, etc.)
i'm not saying kids won't misbehave. because of course they will. but most children can be taught not to scream and throw tantrums in restaurants, and i think children should be taught that they are members of society and have to respect others in it as soon as possible. if this restaurant wants to ask parents to take their kids outside until they calm down, that's fine. kids are a part of society. we shouldn't have to organize our society around them.
The restaurant should be child-friendly within reason, of course. If the parents are not doing anything to stop the screaming, they should be politely asked to leave.
same with adults. If we don't feel called upon to tolerate loud, annoying adults, why should we tolerate children acting that way?