Should Kids blame their parents for their problems in later life?
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2009/05/24 15:17:51
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Do you think if a parent did all they could and all they knew how, to raise a child and something goes wrong along the way or they have a tuff time finding a job or etc..that they have the right to blame their parents?
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Deb 2010/08/13 17:41:18No , they made their own choices along the way...
+3I don't believe grown children should fall back on the" I blame my parents for everything and all my failures". Sooner or in most cases later we are responsible for our own actions therefore if the grown kids won't accept and be responsible for their mistakes why should the parents they can just blame their parents too and it could go on and on and on..............
So to get even he wanted his bed back his speakers for our pc. and the air condittioner mind u i have c.o.p.d. and need air conditioning he says he sold it and manange...
So to get even he wanted his bed back his speakers for our pc. and the air condittioner mind u i have c.o.p.d. and need air conditioning he says he sold it and mananges to make our life a living hell. He puts music on very loud and i have to keep telling him to turn it down please.... not,,, he puts it louder so the police come because a neighbor called not me or my husband of 23 years a veteran who served this country. he writes me a letter a pinned to my door telling me what a horrible mother i was and what a whore i am . I must say i wasnt the perfect mother a young mother who was sheltered. I was on drugs too but am now clean of drugs .... he cant keep a women he beats them or abuses them. how long do we have to be blamed. i always had a roof over their head food to eat and plenty of love i gave. our relationship is broken mental illness runs in his dads side of the family... he has a lot goingon mentally and blames his dad and me for his failures... he dont take any responibility for his actions he never wrong, but yet we are the stingy ones .... any advice Help
Parents and kids alike need to understand that good intentions can sometimes have unintended or even negative effects. In the end, both parties have to accept responsibility for their conduct. When that happens, people can stop focusing on blame and start focusing on moving forward and solving problems.
The blame game is an excuse and cop out.
Own your choices, you made them.
Rule number 1: Life is not fair.
Rule number 2: DEAL WITH IT.
I learned a long time ago, bad things happen, and sometimes they happen to ME. I have two choices;I can be a victim all my life, or, as my wife likes to say, I can put on my big boy pants and deal with it. I have ZERO sympathy for people who choose to remain victims.
Example. The first woman I ever loved had been the victim of a serial rapist She was victim number seven.......one through six were dead. He raped her with a knife.....enough said. She also got pregnant from this attack and was made to be a whore on the witness stand. If EVER someone got a raw deal, it was she. How did she deal with this? She CHOSE to be NORMAL and HAPPY. Was it easy?Hell no!! But she was bound and determined to not let this bastard ruin her life, and she was the one of the most awesome people I have ever had the priviledge to know.
But I still don't really blame her, she was having a hard enough time raising two children (one of which is mentally retarded with ADHD and allergies and no meds to help) while my dad worked 60+ hours a week to keep a roof over our head.
My parents taught me the value of hard work, trying your best, honestly, love, laughter, knowledge and the power of the word no. If parents want the best for their kids, don't pamper them in a bubble of non-failure and ego massaging. This will lead to disastrous "adult hoods" where they feel that they are entitled to the world on a silver platter.