Should children who wet their beds be punished?

by Dave The Canuck Posted 2012/07/08 18:31:51

Related Topics: Punish, Magazines, Office, Doctor, Parent, parents, Read, Bed, Dirty

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	Yes, punish that dirty, bedwetting child!	7 votes	7%
	No, punishing the child is wrong and counterproductive.	88 votes	93%

I don't see why a child should be punished for something that's clearly an accident. But in magazines I've read at the doctor's office, some parents punish their children for wetting the bed anyway.

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TasselLady 2012/07/08 18:33:30

No, punishing the child is wrong and counterproductive.

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Years ago I had that problem up until I was about 7. My mother kept blaming me for it. It was my grandmother who asked her if it ever occurred to her that I might have a MEDICAL PROBLEM. Turns out I did. After surgery I never wet the bed again. Parents need to rule out any other causes first before they get all stupid about their kids wetting the bed.
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Jennifer 2013/01/23 08:40:45

No, punishing the child is wrong and counterproductive.

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I don't think that would work.

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Jan 2012/12/26 18:49:31

No, punishing the child is wrong and counterproductive.

why should I be punished?? if the child wets it don´t do this on purpose!! it is embarressing, you get troubles and others will tease you till you cry.....:(

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Eric 2012/07/17 02:48:22

Yes, punish that dirty, bedwetting child!

Spank that child.

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Dave Th... to Eric 2012/07/17 05:39:51

Are you serious?!

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Eric to Dave Th... 2012/07/19 03:00:08 (edited)

Im joking. I wanted to see peoples reaction. Lawlz. I say No.

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Jacob Torres 2012/07/13 08:38:20

No, punishing the child is wrong and counterproductive.

If the kid's already got bedwetting down, I'd say to stay away from adding to the shame and trauma of it.

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Red 2012/07/10 15:43:09
Tommy 2012/07/10 06:47:43

No, punishing the child is wrong and counterproductive.

A nice reward for a dry bed in the morning is highly effective. The carrot is better than the stick.

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Sarah 2012/07/10 02:49:13

No, punishing the child is wrong and counterproductive.

that should be child abuse!

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Twinkle 2012/07/09 22:52:59

No, punishing the child is wrong and counterproductive.

If they are old enough that they shouldn't then I be very mad.

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DiViews2013 2012/07/09 18:01:08

No, punishing the child is wrong and counterproductive.

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Attention should be given to understand what is causing the problem. However, do not punish or shame the child. This is a correctable issue.

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flyingseaturtle BN 2012/07/09 17:13:09

No, punishing the child is wrong and counterproductive.

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Most of the time it is out of their control ;-)

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Angryface01 2012/07/09 16:47:59

No, punishing the child is wrong and counterproductive.

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Sort of scares me that anyone would say "yes." Apparently, the research into bed-wetting hasn't been as thoroughly distributed as one would prefer.

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Kat 2012/07/09 10:43:53

No, punishing the child is wrong and counterproductive.

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It is simply a matter of an immature system in many cases. Sometimes it could be a medical problem that needs to be addressed.

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nothingbutthetruth 2012/07/09 09:14:22

No, punishing the child is wrong and counterproductive.

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It's the parent(s) responsibility to make the necessary arrangement for the kid (s) or to the bed to avoid pee damages.

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CUDDLY BUT STILL CRABBY 2012/07/09 05:38:57

No, punishing the child is wrong and counterproductive.

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Punish them? GAWD you people have no frigging compassion do ya? I hope there is a special place in Hell for folks that molest and/or punish children for stuff they have little to no control over.

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Just me ∞ijm♥G☮F♀U∞ 2012/07/09 05:06:49

No, punishing the child is wrong and counterproductive.

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No. Bedwetting in children who have been potty trained can be a sign of neglect or abuse or even a psychological or medical problem. No matter how you stack it, it's probably not the kids fault. My brother was 11 yrs old and wetting the bed. Mom took him to the dr who recommended that he have his adenoids removed and once he did, no more bedwetting. The adenoids were so large that they vibrated when he slept making it difficult for him to reach sleep cycles when he was supposed to so by the time early morning came around, he was so tired from not hitting a restful sleep earlier in the night that he would sleep through the signal to urinate and end up wetting the bed.

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Wortmore 2012/07/09 04:13:07

No, punishing the child is wrong and counterproductive.

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This is something children CANNOT control

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pdarkow 2012/07/09 04:05:43

No, punishing the child is wrong and counterproductive.

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I believe the best way to handle that is to limit the amount of water or other drinks they consume before bed time. Then if it persists get them a physical and see if there is a medical reason for this, like a kidney infection, etc. and if that doesn't help find out if there is a psychological reason. Once the reason for the bed wetting is discovered then fix the problem. Punishment for that only creates more problems.

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me being me 2012/07/09 03:41:09

No, punishing the child is wrong and counterproductive.

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It's not done on purpose and usually they will grow out of it.

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Mandy 2012/07/09 02:36:08

No, punishing the child is wrong and counterproductive.

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It can't be helped and would only shame the kid. Most kids will grow out of it.

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Mrkando 2012/07/09 02:23:45

No, punishing the child is wrong and counterproductive.

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This would be a Hugh mistake. No child wet's their bed just to spite their parents unless the parents are mean to them. There are many ways to work through that problem that does not include punishing your child for something they could not help.

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Deliciously Melicious 2012/07/09 02:23:25

No, punishing the child is wrong and counterproductive.

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And I will add I have never heard of a professional recommending this.

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MinaM8 2012/07/09 01:34:59

No, punishing the child is wrong and counterproductive.

it's an accident! it can also have a lot of causes after 7 or 8 years old and it can also be caused by trauma.

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susan BN-0 2012/07/09 00:54:22

No, punishing the child is wrong and counterproductive.

No

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Teri- Oregon 2012/07/09 00:51:01

No, punishing the child is wrong and counterproductive.

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more times than not bed wetting is from a totally separate issue than what it seems to be such as
stress
over active bladder
under developed bladder
or some type of abuse

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Catch224u 2012/07/08 23:49:39

No, punishing the child is wrong and counterproductive.

Sometimes there are underlying issues.

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Elephant Lord 2012/07/08 23:22:44

No, punishing the child is wrong and counterproductive.

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That's like punishing a child for yawning.

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♥☯ ʂıoвнaп ☮♥ 2012/07/08 22:39:09

No, punishing the child is wrong and counterproductive.

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Children shouldn't be punished for something they can't help. That's not fair.

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Gooky 2012/07/08 22:38:36

No, punishing the child is wrong and counterproductive.

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Never,never never!

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gracious43 2012/07/08 22:20:32

No, punishing the child is wrong and counterproductive.

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All children outgrow it.

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UberAwesomeness 2012/07/08 22:10:40

No, punishing the child is wrong and counterproductive.

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What if the child has a medical condition? That would be messed up :(

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Lady Whitewolf 2012/07/08 22:05:17

No, punishing the child is wrong and counterproductive.

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no

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Shawna 2012/07/08 21:42:27

No, punishing the child is wrong and counterproductive.

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Nobody likes to sleep in a wet bed.

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Roblem BN-0 2012/07/08 21:31:05

No, punishing the child is wrong and counterproductive.

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It will only make a sensitive issue much worse. The kid will already feel bad enough about it.

IMHO punishment is not the way to help raise an adult. This is not to say there are no consequences for actions/behaviors that are inappropriate.

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The_Infidel_Atheist 2012/07/08 21:25:45

No, punishing the child is wrong and counterproductive.

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Of course not. It isn't even a big deal. A lot of children wet the bed and most grow out of it. There are also plenty of healthy strategies these days that can help teach a child not to wet the bed.

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Vicereine Killbride 2012/07/08 21:21:01

No, punishing the child is wrong and counterproductive.

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Unless they were doing it because they wanted to. Otherwise punishing would be stupid.

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sky blue pink - American 2012/07/08 21:05:49

No, punishing the child is wrong and counterproductive.

There may be a problem, and if there is find out what it is.
Have a good one !

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Jack 2012/07/08 21:01:12

Yes, punish that dirty, bedwetting child!

It's a difficult one. My fiancee's daughter was wetting the bed every night, just because she was too lazy to go to the toilet. We let it go for a while, but we had to punish her in the end.

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sky blu... to Jack 2012/07/08 21:20:10

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Naw, she isn't lazy. Did you ever stop and think about how she really feels about you and her mommy playing house ? Each child reacts differently. You need to have some one on one time with her and ask why ? Punishment is the wrong answer.
Have a good one !

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