Should a husband defend his wife against his mother?
Chelale
2012/06/18 22:25:23
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If a MIL starts to meddle too much, should a husband stand up to his mother if it is upsetting his wife?
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Freedom Mom 2012/06/19 02:03:00Stand up to mother
+7I think a husband should stand up for his wife as long as she isn't just stirring the pot or causing the problem. I think the husband would know how to handle his mother better and it would keep from putting his wife in an uncomfortable situation. On the other hand my husband hasn't had to do that, my mother-in -law and I were friends before I married my husband. I was lucky.
Not always the mother is right. I met girls who suffered silent, under the pressure exerted by their mother-in-law, in the absence of the husbands.
Some mother-in-law are very nosy, and interferes in the affairs of a couple. Some old immature ladies, vie for the attention of her son with the daughter-in-law. That kind of mother deserves to hear from his son: "Mom doesn't cause me problems, she is my beloved wife, I chose her. But I also love you. Let's keep the respect."
And vice-versa - the wife must forgive the jealous lady!
I have a nice mother-in-law, she's nice and we love each other!
Some sugestions (By Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen)...
http://suite101.com/article/m...
http://suite101.com/article/d...
1)Honor your father and mother. (This is not just addressed to minor children and has no expiration.)
2)For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother and shall cleave to his wife, and they two shall become one flesh.
The result of this in the scenario presented is that the husband should take the side of his wife in defense against his parents, but he should do so respectfully. That can put him in a tough spot, but he should be a man and step up.
It really depends on what its about , if its something that you're wife is not being affected by and or can handle it on her own than leave it be.
But if the mother is clearly belittling or disrespects your wife , then stand up for her!
That goes for wives too; they should stand up to their mothers if they're being out of line with their husbands.