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Should a former abuser be given a second chance ?

Tudie BN 2012/05/31 22:37:42
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  • Ali ~ In My Heart I Trust ~ 2012/06/05 16:47:04
    No
    Ali ~ In My Heart I Trust ~
    +2
    No second chances. Let that person GO.
  • Tudie BN Ali ~ I... 2012/06/05 19:31:16
    Tudie BN
    +1
    Thanks Ali !
  • ally 2012/06/05 15:50:56
    Undecided
    ally
    +2
    It determines on the degree of the abuse. Many young guys, some only 2 years older than thier minor girlfriends, have been wrongly labeled sex abusers. But, the ones who abuse children should never be given a second chance.
  • Tudie BN ally 2012/06/05 15:57:12
    Tudie BN
    +2
    Thanks ally !
  • BlunderWoman ~ FTGOP~ BN 0 2012/06/05 15:41:00
    No
    BlunderWoman ~ FTGOP~ BN 0
    +1
    They'll do it again. It's just a matter of time.
  • Tudie BN Blunder... 2012/06/05 15:57:02
    Tudie BN
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    Thanks BlunderWoman !
  • Get Bashed 2012/06/05 14:00:07
    Undecided
    Get Bashed
    +1
    Possibly if they have made efforts to seek help, otherwise it is totally unfair for other's to have to deal with the abuse they inflict. Learn to ask for help, then look for forgiveness!
  • Tudie BN Get Bashed 2012/06/05 15:56:45
    Tudie BN
    Thanks Get Bashed !
  • PumpkinMuncher 2012/06/03 17:05:58
    yes
    PumpkinMuncher
    +1
    I belive everyone deserves a second chance, but they HAVE to show some change and want to be different. And if they mess up again then no theres no other chances.
  • Tudie BN Pumpkin... 2012/06/05 15:56:33
    Tudie BN
    +1
    Thanks PumpkinMuncher !
  • mk, Smartass Oracle 2012/06/03 14:43:49
  • Tudie BN mk, Sma... 2012/06/05 15:56:11
    Tudie BN
    +1
    Thanks mk !
  • wallygator64 2012/06/03 13:41:08
    No
    wallygator64
    +1
    Abusers are like pit bulls.Once they taste blood thats all they want.
  • Tudie BN wallyga... 2012/06/05 15:56:02
    Tudie BN
    Thanks wallygator !
  • Huntclan 2012/06/03 09:16:16
    Undecided
    Huntclan
    +1
    Dunno... I think a lot depends on the type of abuse and some of the circumstances that go along with it. A "One Size Fits All" type of response is not applicable here.

    I would err on the side of the victim and say "no," but in some circumstances it might be something someone might consider.
  • Tudie BN Huntclan 2012/06/05 15:55:45
    Tudie BN
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  • NYCbrit 2012/06/03 08:13:13
    other
    NYCbrit
    +1
    Not all abusers are the same. Some are repentant and know abuse is never ok. Many more, I believe, are sadistic bastards who feel entitled to their violence. My step-father was definitely the latter. But I HAVE known a couple of people who DID reform themselves, never to abuse again. Tough question.
  • Tudie BN NYCbrit 2012/06/05 15:55:27
    Tudie BN
    Thanks NYCBrit !
  • Dzeeng 2012/06/03 06:53:32
    No
    Dzeeng
    +1
    What chance? Never!
  • Tudie BN Dzeeng 2012/06/05 15:55:16
    Tudie BN
    Thanks zynaidat !
  • ElisaGalvan 2012/06/03 06:30:32
    other
    ElisaGalvan
    +2
    forgive the abuser but he or she has to find his or her second chance...
  • Tudie BN ElisaGa... 2012/06/05 15:55:01
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    Thanks Elisa !
  • JesusIsMyGod 2012/06/03 04:00:16
    yes
    JesusIsMyGod
    +1
    Only if they repent. Otherwise, no.
  • Tudie BN JesusIs... 2012/06/05 15:54:49
    Tudie BN
    Thanks JesusIsMyGod !
  • baboula 2012/06/03 02:13:30
    No
    baboula
    +2
    NEVER NEVER NEVER NEVER NEVER

    When hell freezes over AND pigs fly
  • Tudie BN baboula 2012/06/03 02:33:25
    Tudie BN
    +1
    Thanks baboula !
  • SukkiBelle 2012/06/02 20:50:29 (edited)
    No
    SukkiBelle
    +1
    I had a former abuser, and every time I see his ass, I have to do something to him. A little time can do wonders when planning.....:^)
  • Tudie BN SukkiBelle 2012/06/03 02:34:09
    Tudie BN
    Thanks bbz103099 ! lol
  • Tennessee3501 2012/06/02 19:59:54
    No
    Tennessee3501
    +1
    There is always am underlying pathology! There should be no second chances. I think of Chris Brown and Rhianna. Never again!
  • enlightened one 2012/06/02 10:37:44
    No
    enlightened one
    +1
    If by the phrase "second chance" you mean forgiven, No. Unless you apply the very principles of forgiveness: Admit you were wrong. Admit and submit to be punished. Then make the sacrifice or atonement that completely rights the wrong. If the three elements to forgiveness are not in place that it would be hard for one to forgive the transgressor. So many elements of the transgression are there like an elephant in the room. Trust is broken. Motive is suspect. The abuse comes from deep down inside.
  • Doreen 2012/06/02 07:24:49
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    Doreen
    +1
    To forgive the abuser yes but not forgive the abusers actions of abuse. I find it stunting to my spiritual growth if I do not allow myself to let the past go and move forward. Not forgiving a person and allowing yourself to remain angry at them is also a way of allowing them to continue having control over you. One can not forget but one can forgive. In my life I have had some extremely crappy things done to me but this is the only conclusion on how to deal with it that I can come up with.
  • Tudie BN Doreen 2012/06/02 16:23:07
    Tudie BN
    +1
    Thanks Doreen !
  • Arianne 2012/06/02 06:17:16
    No
    Arianne
    +1
    I personally never would.
  • jubil8 BN-0 PON 2012/06/02 02:13:50 (edited)
  • Tudie BN jubil8 ... 2012/06/02 06:19:18
    Tudie BN
    Thanks Jubil8 ! :)
  • alanh 2012/06/02 02:01:04
    No
    alanh
    +2
    It is extremely unlikely that they can be reformed!! So many people go back to the abuser and listen to there lies. Very stupid! If someone is abusing you get away and Never look back!
  • Tudie BN alanh 2012/06/02 06:19:40
    Tudie BN
    +1
    Thanks alanh !
  • alanh Tudie BN 2012/06/02 13:21:31
    alanh
    You are very welcome Tudie!
  • Nice Recruit 2012/06/01 23:16:32
    Undecided
    Nice Recruit
    +1
    Granted that under certain cercumstances that the abuser can or could change his/her ways but as far as im concered..i wouldnt even take a chance on it.Your life as well as a childs life is so much more important than the abuser
  • Tudie BN Nice Re... 2012/06/01 23:31:54
    Tudie BN
    +1
    Thanks Nice Recruit !

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