Should a family, whose autistic child is being loud and disruptive, leave the restaurant?

Tell them they're welcome to come back when they can control their 'tard.

You don't realize that autism is NOT a mental disability it is a SENSORY disability.

The only thing I sense when retards are around is a horrible stench.

Excuse me why are you making such inane assumptions?

Also, autistic people are not mentally challenged. They usually have normal IQ or higher, they just lack certain social skills.

Actually unless you have this condition, it's best not to say they are dumb. Mozart, Bill Gates, Dan Aykroyd, just to mention a few, all have a slight version of autism.

People with children that dont have health issues or problems have no clue what its like so for them to comment or pass judgement or say they would leave if their child would be bad or disruptive..look i have a niece she is perfectly normal and my son is autistic there is absolutely No comparison that you could make between and autistic child and a normal child..a normal child will know and understan that they are being disruptive especially when being told no while an autistic child will not understand even id they are told no..you could tell my son no until your blue in the face and he still will not understand and will do it over and over again..while my niece you could tell her no a few times an finally she will get it...so for the people that voted yes..unless you have been there and understand the mind of an autistic child you shouldnt vote yes.

I would expect the same thing from a family with a non-Autistic child who was being disruptive.

I meant no!

A friend of my said it all so true!!!! "Patrons should learn to Deal with It! We do on a regular basis. Individuals with Autism have EVERY right to be out in the community and eat in a restaurant like everyone else. If patrons wanted quiet, then they should of stayed home! We do not want the public feeling sorry for us parents of kids with Autism, or being judgmental. We just want some understanding, a little compassion, and respect. I always say "Unless you've walked a mile in my shoes....zip it!" enough said!!

The child cannot help thier behaviour as they were born Austic they do not have a choice as to how thier brain works the only way they can get better is with is with very intense therapy otherwise they just act the only way thier brain tells them to.

I have a 13 year old child who has Aspergers and when I saw this show I just cried!!I've been in different situations when my child is set off and it's hard to control his behavior.I've been very lucky that I haven't been treated this way.I've had looks and stares but as a family we try to live the most normal life we can and Autistic people are people who should have every right to be in public!!

god love you. my grandson has autisim and it's hard but im sure it harder for him. the last couple of days have been very hard not quite sure what is triggering it but we will work thru it

We're not judging the child. We're judging the PARENTS.

Do not judge parents of autistic children until you have walked in our shoes. We did not choose to have children who do not fit into society's rules. There is a HUGE difference between a child who is just a spoiled brat (parenting issues) and a child with a very real brain disorder (autism).

I hate to be this blunt about such a topic, but the parents know the child's behavior better than anyone else-- and they'll know what is likely to set the kid off. It's about their willingness to subject other people to the behavior of their child, when they realistically could have avoided setting the kid off in the first place.

Excuse me..no that is not true an autistic childs behaviour can change like the weather without you knowing what they are going to do next..they have just as much a right as you do to have dinner..and people that say they dont are wrong..and parents of autistic children have a right to be in society as well no one can help the way your children are born it just happens..and it can happen to anyone..people need to be more understanding of parents that have children with disabilities..if you dont have a disabled child then you dont and wont ever understand.

So the autistic child's parents won't know (better than the average person) what might set off the kid?

Personally an autistic child will constantly keep you guessing..sometimes what has bothered them before will not bother them at a different time..like i said you would have to be in the parents spot to understand and some children are worse off then others..trust me its not as easy as you might think..i use to not understand either but when i had my son it was an eye opening experience

Judge yourself if you havent been there then you dont understand so dont try judging the parents

Autistic children react the way they do because of sensitivities. They can't help it when they are younger. They have to be in the situation to learn how to behave properly. People need to get their panties out of a bunch and look past their selfisness. Show some love and compassion people!!

Just as I would leave if my 2 year old was being disruptive, so too would I expect it of any parents with disruptive children. We also pick restaurants that are noisier and more family friendly. Yes it stinks to not go out for a fancy dinner, but it is what you expect when you have kids (and we have 4 so it has been a long time).

Coming from a person with a high iq and Aspergers syndrome I find that peoples opinions of those with autism can be quite cruel and biased. I believe a true disability is not being tolerant of others.

Thanks ABC!!! Thanks for sharing a story about autism. With the number of children with the diagnosis all need to be aware of behaviors and the challenges that the parents and sibling exerience daily.

its common and some stray cases it occurs ....... we should have resilience to bear with thankful to God that we don't have such child

U have performed noble jobs so Almighty is Graceful to U ...... Amen

It does not matter if they are autistic or not, it is rude to think that anyone's child should disrupt an entire restaurant.

Ooh, the ignorance. Please god, bless this ignoramus with an autistic child.

It has nothing to do with any of the gods. Parents have no business taking their kids to restaurants untill they know how to behave.

So, because we can't control what might set our children off, we need to keep them shut up at home, never to experience the world, or be in situations where they can learn because they might upset someone else? They are people, not dogs.

It has noting to do with shutting them up at home. SImply do not take them to restaurants where others are trying to hae a nice quiet meal.

There are many places where children are welcome, fine dining restaurants are not one of them if children are not capable of dealing with social situations.

Adults are people too and deserve peace and quiet when they are paying for it. Kids do not rule the world and have no right to be treated like gods either.

THEM? That's what you call a child a CHILD with autism? Them? What if the child had CP or downs syndrome would you tell them to leave?

This is akin to the fear of AIDS in the 80s. Since no one feels the need to educate the public about autism, you have no idea that our children do not learn social norms like regular children. They need repetition in the real life situation, like other children learn spelling words and math facts. Actually, by NOT taking them out in public and exposing them to real life, we would be removing an important portion of their education, and if they can't function in public, they will be dependent on YOUR tax dollars because they won't be able to leave their homes and have jobs. But, please, I'll take your hard earned tax money to support my son from 21 to 80, in exchange for you having a quiet meal.

Sorry, there is no fear of anything here.

THis is a BEHAVIOR issue and nothing else. You have failed to read what I said and that included ALL children not simply austic ones.

Obviously you have huge issues becuse you have a vested interest here. I do not care one way or another what challenges you child has. This is about ALL children not you kid at all.

how do they learn to behave unless they are in the situation!!!

You start at McDonalds.

You do not take them to a restaurant where I am eating a $100 a plate dinner.

Ok but what if thd child had ADHD or downs Syndrome would you tell them to leave too?