PUBLIC OPINION > Women Should Propose (If They Want)

Living 2012/01/09 16:33:26
Snooki is getting a little anxious for her boyfriend to pop the question, even though they've only been together for maybe half a year. She reportedly said that she was giving the guy two years or she was gonna pop the question, and though she only mentioned it in passing, social norms are always a healthy topic to bring up. We took the opportunity to ask SodaHeads how they felt about women who want to propose.

Should Women Propose to Men?

70% Say Sure, Why Not?

A few decades ago this question probably would have gone in a completely different direction, but these days any question that starts with, "Should women..." is pretty much going to get a majority vote. Traditional expectations are definitely still there, but they've become somewhat optional for most families. One commenter wrote, "Although I prefer the old school way, I don't see the problem with a woman proposing to a man." More to the point, another respondent wrote, "Both of my wives did!"

Men Don't Mind...

There actually wasn't much of a gender gap here, but we felt we had to include this just to point out that men don't care, either. In fact, they were 5% more likely to encourage a girl to propose. Traditionally, men have taken the assertive role, even as far back as hunting and gathering societies -- but that's being challenged more and more. The Japanese even have a term for straight men who prefer submission: Grass-Eaters.

...But the Pressure's Still On

Grass-Eaters aren't getting all the luck, though. When we broke it down by relationship status, we found an interesting trend: Voters who were in an unmarried relationship were significantly less enthusiastic about letting the girl propose. Even married and engaged voters were fine with the idea, but the ones who are actually waiting for a ring are still hoping for that traditional proposal.

Sure Thing for Smokers

Not many demographics were as enthusiastic about women proposing than the smokers. Why would smokers have a stronger opinion on this? We're not sure. Maybe they have a burning desire to promote gender equality. Sorry. Bad joke. We're done.

If you'd like to vote on this question, dig deeper into the demographics, or engage in existing discussion about the topic, visit our original poll about women proposing. We'd love to hear from you!
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  • Michelle 2012/01/10 01:02:20
    Ladies....if YOU have to do the proposing....let's face it ...... He's just not that into you....

    Thankfully I've never had that problem!:-))

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  • Moonbeams 2012/01/10 05:18:59 (edited)
    This is one scenario, where I favor Traditional.

    As well as, a man that's equipped with 'palle di ottone'!
  • Darnel 2012/01/10 04:41:03
    Two thoughts come to mind:
    1. A lot of MEN in stable relationships believe they are stable because the way is open for either person to step if they don't like something. People tend to try harder when the audience isn't captive.

    2. While it won't bother men who actually care for the woman but have a (ahem) "man reason" for not stepping up to the plate,.. it will cause some guys to run for the hills.
  • JohnFitzgeral12 2012/01/10 04:07:45
    And the emasculation of the Western male continues....sad....
  • Michelle JohnFit... 2012/01/10 04:14:34
    you got that right...
  • JohnFit... Michelle 2012/01/10 04:17:13
    I'm glad you realize it. Most women don't.
  • Michelle JohnFit... 2012/01/10 04:21:41
    you would think we would though.... I don't want to be with a man who's like me... men and women are supposed to compliment one another...not be one another...

    it's amazing how many women go for the effeminate male... so gross!!!
  • JohnFit... Michelle 2012/01/10 04:24:35 (edited)
    You're definitely speaking my language. The number of effeminate males I see walking around today is bothersome. I guess you can't blame them though. As you said, women/girls seem to be going for them.
  • Michelle JohnFit... 2012/01/10 04:29:20
    I know...it's totally gross... I seriously don't get it.... I like my men manly...

    give me Bruce Willis, not Robert Patterson...
  • JohnFit... Michelle 2012/01/10 05:09:53 (edited)
    Men never did look very good in glitter.

    I like your pic, btw. My favorite Disney movie as a kid. Evening.
  • Michelle JohnFit... 2012/01/10 05:27:45
    haha! when that movie came out...everyone would tell me that I looked like her... she was first none white Disney Princess...
  • JohnFit... Michelle 2012/01/10 05:31:27 (edited)
    Ha, that she was. Jasmine and Belle are the prettiest.
  • Michelle JohnFit... 2012/01/10 05:35:44
    I'd add Aurora to the mix too...

    here's the thing though... Belle isn't a princess.. she never married the prince! lol
  • JohnFit... Michelle 2012/01/10 05:43:10
    Belle does her own laundry and cooks her own food. She wouldn't want to be a Princess.
  • Michelle JohnFit... 2012/01/10 05:47:43
    every girl wants to be a princess!

    ok.. I take that back...not every girl...just us "girly" girls... those of us who still enjoy chivalry...and the non feminized male :-)
  • Angelik... Michelle 2012/01/10 21:10:28
    Angelika Insomniac
    I don't consider myself to be a "girly girl", but like you said, If I have to do the proposing, he's just not that into me.

    BTW, I have no intention of EVER getting married. I prefer to "live in sin". ☺
  • Michelle Angelik... 2012/01/10 22:55:08
    Well alright!

    I should warn you though...many a female aquintence of mine said the same exact thing until they met the right guy! :-)
  • Angelik... Michelle 2012/01/11 04:05:14
    Angelika Insomniac

    Don't try to curse me! Take it back or Imma have to do some Voodoo on you once I learn some!

  • Michelle Angelik... 2012/01/11 04:32:05
    Lol! You are too funny!!!
  • Angelik... Michelle 2012/01/11 06:53:32
    Angelika Insomniac

    Glad to see someone on Sodahead has a sense of humor! ☺
  • Michelle Angelik... 2012/01/11 08:19:34
    Likewise! :-)))))
  • rebecca JohnFit... 2012/01/12 01:41:17
    i think ciderella and snow white are
  • wcpjams Michelle 2012/01/10 12:40:54
    You are SO RIGHT! I couldn't have said it any better.
  • Michelle wcpjams 2012/01/10 15:28:45
  • Zamboni - Madoka Magica fan... 2012/01/10 03:08:24
    Zamboni - Madoka Magica fan BN0
    It is their right. Don't forget Same-Sex relationships as well.
  • ★misfit★ 2012/01/10 01:40:06
    If they want, sure. But as I stated in my answer to the original question, this seems to be following the trend of women having to do everything and letting men cop out of all responsibility. And as you can see, men like the idea better than women. I think most women still would LIKE to be proposed to even if they're comfortable with proposing.
  • Michelle 2012/01/10 01:02:20
    Ladies....if YOU have to do the proposing....let's face it ...... He's just not that into you....

    Thankfully I've never had that problem!:-))
  • wcpjams Michelle 2012/01/10 12:43:04
    Very well said again, good for you
  • Michelle wcpjams 2012/01/10 15:29:13
    thank you again! :-)
  • stevegt... Michelle 2012/01/14 19:59:18
  • hat man Michelle 2012/05/28 13:00:50
    hat man
    By that logic if the man has to do the proposing the woman is not that interested in him
  • H.E 2012/01/10 00:53:40 (edited)
    The man is the protector of the pride, the guardian of the flock, and the leader of the pack. It his job to seek direction for his family from God. The bible says that he who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the Lord. The man should be the leader, not to be confused with tyrant or dictator, but the aggressor. When a family is in shambles or any unit, team, club, or progeny, leadership will always be questioned. A
    man is suppose to leave from his mother and fathers abode and start or cultivate his own healthy habitat hospitable for his queen and a family. A man with purpose who values his life and mission understands the importance of choosing the best mate. Failure to choose wisely could really prove to be a grave mistake. The question is, what type of well prepared wise man waits for a woman whom he knows is special and is more than likely the one to propose to him. Bluntly put, if the woman has to ask, she can do better.
  • Roger H.E 2012/01/10 10:20:19
    don't take much to have a trigger finger, don't take much to think
  • JJ 2012/01/10 00:15:12
    Myself, I would never had wanted to ask the man, as I'd want to know for sure he loved me by asking. Of course a man can always say no as well as a women, but it just seems more natural for a man to ask.
  • SoLongFairLady 2012/01/10 00:07:49
    LOLing at this picture and the guys face :p
  • stevegtexas@aol.com 2012/01/09 23:07:33 (edited)
  • Michelle stevegt... 2012/01/10 04:16:28
    wait...so does that mean... you'd like it if a girl proposed to you?

    is that a picture of you btw?
  • stevegt... Michelle 2012/01/14 20:02:50
  • XRenX 2012/01/09 23:07:22
    I wouldn't want to.
  • Keen Tojones 2012/01/09 22:38:47
    Keen Tojones
    Told ya so.
  • taylordoesntdeserve 2012/01/09 22:34:41
    It's a personal decision. For me, I wouldn't want to propose because of my typical images of marriage. Just more romantic for me.

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