PUBLIC OPINION > Most People Have Been Attracted to Friends

Living 2012/05/08 16:00:00
A recent study showed that guys are more likely to be sexually interested in their female friends than vice versa, but falling for a friend isn't all that uncommon for either gender, is it? If your friend is really attractive, is there really anything you can do to avoid it? Well, we wanted to know the answer, and we wanted to break it down by demographics. So we asked the public.

Just as we suspected. Most people have fallen for a friend at one time or another. At least physically. It's not really something you can control. It's one thing to become romantically interested, but mere attraction is just a whim and hard to suppress. Especially if you're around that person a lot. One commenter admitted, "All of them. Pretty much any of my friends that are female, I would have sexual relations with them if given an opportunity." And that sentiment was not uncommon, although it was particular to a certain demographic...

Men Are More Likely

After reading through the comments, we decided the actual percentage here might be a little deceptive. Men were only 8% more likely to have been attracted to a friend, but that's because pretty much everyone has been. More importantly, we noticed that, on average, female comments referred to "this one time," while male comments sounded more like "all the time." Of course, there were plenty of exceptions with both genders.

Young Adults in Denial

One of the few demographics that came in significantly lower than most was, oddly enough, the 18-24 age group. We found that interesting because it was actually a large sample size, so it's probably pretty accurate. Teens said they've been attracted... and 18- to 24-year-olds were once teens, too. So why did it drop? Our suspicion is that they're less likely to admit it because platonic relationships can feel more fragile at that age.

Drinkers Do It All the Time

Why are we not surprised? People who consider themselves "drinkers" were 7% more likely to have been physically attracted to one of their friends. Alcohol does tend to have that affect. Drinkers are probably also 7% more likely to have been physically attracted to the "Mona Lisa" at some point. Not that there's anything wrong with that.

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  • bennett.dunn1 2012/06/14 02:42:09
    He, I guess i have, to different degrees. Not to all of them, tho.
  • sherbear 2012/06/08 22:52:42
    yes i have, who has not?
  • jreppoh 2012/05/30 18:40:52
  • lilliannanicole 2012/05/21 23:46:01
    yeeah heh some of my guy freinds are pretty dang cute
  • CookiiCutter 2012/05/13 16:27:06
    Well... I've always 'liked' most of my girlfriends haha.
  • The Reaper 2012/05/09 17:33:47
    The Reaper
    hahaha yea thats a shocker!
  • Erica Bryelle 2012/05/09 16:14:03
    Erica Bryelle
    ive dated a friend but now it just didnt work out and well we arent friends anymore
  • Foxylady 2012/05/09 15:57:06
  • Thor Am... Foxylady 2012/05/09 16:14:11
    Thor American EXPAT n New Guinea
    Now that's a comment guys hate to hear. LOL
  • Foxylady Thor Am... 2012/05/09 16:15:57
  • Jeremiah Foxylady 2012/05/09 22:48:24
    No, seriously. NEVER tell them that. We don't want to hear that sentence. It kills us.
  • Boo<3 2012/05/09 15:56:55
    I'm in love with my bestfriend.
  • cloe xxx 2012/05/09 15:54:12
    cloe xxx
  • GLaDOS 2012/05/09 14:55:27
    Once, and only once, because we were both dating other people at the time.

    That said, I hate when my friends have crushes on me. It's flattering, but it also makes me wonder, "Are they the type who just sits there and pines thinking, 'If only she'd see that I'm right here!' or are they actually just seeing me as a friend." The former suggests they're a douche, the latter tells me they're cool.
  • Miss Bela Rae 2012/05/09 12:27:15 (edited)
    Miss Bela Rae
    My friend is bi, but she has a girlfriend, so I don't think she likes me like that. Well, last I checked she has a girlfriend, anyway. I haven't seen my friend in a week and won't see her for another one because she left for space camp yesterday. I'm not bi, straight, or lesbian. I don't want romance at all. I'm too distrusting of people. The only boy I know gave me a concussion once.
  • Maci 2012/05/09 12:26:59
  • Tony 2012/05/09 10:36:48
  • u000 2012/05/09 10:30:52
    nothing wrong with attraction
  • Rasa 2012/05/09 10:15:52
  • Nekosarethebest 2012/05/09 09:59:20
    Yup. Told him I liked him yesterday, then My ex finaly texted me back saying how she missed me. She ended up telling me she has a boyfriend. -_- NO HOPE!
  • Uranos7 2012/05/09 08:01:17
    Friends first always makes a better stronger relationship.
  • BubbaGrrl 2012/05/09 07:28:03
    OMG YES!!!!! ahh I hate it!!!it's the worst thing ever!!
  • SoCal71 2012/05/09 07:21:02
    True, I've dated woman who were friends first.
  • Waiting in the Wings 2012/05/09 05:06:28 (edited)
    Waiting in the Wings
    I've never dated a friend, but I'll admit that I have been attracted to a few of my male friends. I already love them for who they are as people and we usually have loads in common.
  • L1 2012/05/09 03:39:27
    Nope, not once, but I have had guy friends attracted to me. Not very easy to deal with.
  • Jacksane 2012/05/09 02:35:48
    I was friends with my first girlfriend for four years before we dated.
  • NoHandlebarsAttached 2012/05/09 01:17:53
    My most recent BF was(and still is) a good friend of mine.
  • addie 2012/05/09 00:56:32
    My friends are like me, the ones I can stand, so how can I not be attracted to them??
  • Amanda Lorraine Bickett 2012/05/09 00:21:14
    Amanda Lorraine Bickett
    I've never dated anyone who WASN'T a close friend...I know I can trust my friends better than strangers.
  • SlashGashNightmare 2012/05/09 00:10:39
    I am currently going through this haha, my best friend and i have been tight since freshmen year. and i know that he has always liked me, but i only thought of him as my brother..
    I am taken, i have an amazing girlfriend that i would do anything for... but my feeling for my best friend have been growing lately idk why haha.
    i can trust him with everything, and i am never afraid to be myself around him...
    but yeah, haha thats just my opinion.
  • DavidKyles SlashGa... 2012/05/09 06:05:21
    Hmm...wha? So...he...you...she...I'm guessing it would get complicated if he ever suspected you were attracted. Haha, color me intrigued.
  • GreyHeart 2012/05/09 00:02:15
    i know all too well................
  • fezzes are cool 2012/05/08 22:38:44
    fezzes are cool
    i am now :( bad times
  • bubbles47 2012/05/08 22:25:29
    Perhaps once..but it didn't last.
  • Elbuscus 2012/05/08 22:15:12
    I like that girl's hat!

    and yeah. I've been attracted to plenty guy friends.
  • Mrs Reckless 2012/05/08 22:11:46
    Mrs Reckless
    Honestly, I only came on this question because I say Tay Jardine and Cameron Hurley on the picture:3 but yeah, I'm attracted to loads of my friends, but that's all
  • Rie~ 2012/05/08 21:24:06
    but boyfriend was and still is my best friend ^0^
  • day 2012/05/08 20:25:16
    yes!! but know im dating him
  • selena costa 2012/05/08 20:16:57 (edited)
  • James selena ... 2012/05/08 22:05:42
    Just because you corrected Dalynn Beck;

    1.) a lot
    2.) he's
    3.) "he's the guy" or "he'd be the guy"
    4.) "I'd"
    5.) I is capitalized when it is used in words such as I'd and I'm. I is also capitalized when it is used by itself.

    Following is a revised version of your statement.

    "I really like my friend, however I am dating someone else. If anything ever happens between my bf and I, my friend would be the guy I would fall back on."

    Did I get your situation correct? It was very hard to understand your original statement due to the large amount of errors.

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