PUBLIC OPINION > Kissing on the First Date Is Usually OK
SodaHead Living
2012/05/22 15:00:00
First dates are rarely simple. Whether it goes well or not, heading into it is like jumping into a cloudy lake. You have no idea what to expect. There are so many questions, so many potentialities, so many choices to make. Where do you go? What do you talk about? What do you do if it isn't going well? And of course... Do you go in for the kiss? We asked the public.
Obviously, the predominant response was, "It depends," but if you push that to the side for a second, your odds are better with a kiss. However, you've got to be able to read the date. If you do go in for a kiss and your date isn't into it, it could be disasterous. But the real key is to go for your gut. The Top Opinion wrote, "If I like her, I'll walk her to the front door and I'll kiss her goodnight. If I'm not interested anymore, I'll probably say goodbye in the car." It doesn't just depend on them, it depends on you. Only 15% are explicitly against it, so if you want to go for a kiss, do it.
Girl Are Not Gung-Ho
Hold up. Let's take a step back. Until this point we've treated this like a gender-neutral issue, but gender play an enormous role in dating -- especially in making the first move. When you break it down by gender, women are actually more likely to say no. But there's the rub. Typically, the guy is the one making the choice, and guys are more than three times as likely to go for it. What does that mean for guys? Again, fall on that overwhelming "It depends." Go with your gut.
Hold up. Let's take a step back. Until this point we've treated this like a gender-neutral issue, but gender play an enormous role in dating -- especially in making the first move. When you break it down by gender, women are actually more likely to say no. But there's the rub. Typically, the guy is the one making the choice, and guys are more than three times as likely to go for it. What does that mean for guys? Again, fall on that overwhelming "It depends." Go with your gut.Even Parents Say Go for It
Out of all the demographics you might expect to urge against an early kiss, you'd think parents would be a little protective. Not so. Parents were more than twice as likely to say go for it than don't. However, married voters were one of the rare demographics that leaned away. That means people who are married but don't have kids are most likely to warn against it.
Out of all the demographics you might expect to urge against an early kiss, you'd think parents would be a little protective. Not so. Parents were more than twice as likely to say go for it than don't. However, married voters were one of the rare demographics that leaned away. That means people who are married but don't have kids are most likely to warn against it.Nondrinkers Don't
One of the most interesting demographics we came across was the nondrinkers. In fact, the drinker-nondrinker variance was more significant than any other demographic. Nondrinkers were against it by about 2 to 1, while drinkers were for it by nearly 7 to 1. An OKCupid study also found that people who like the taste of beer are much more likely to have sex on a first date. Just sayin'.
One of the most interesting demographics we came across was the nondrinkers. In fact, the drinker-nondrinker variance was more significant than any other demographic. Nondrinkers were against it by about 2 to 1, while drinkers were for it by nearly 7 to 1. An OKCupid study also found that people who like the taste of beer are much more likely to have sex on a first date. Just sayin'.If you'd like to vote on this question, dig deeper into the demographics, or engage in existing discussion about the topic, visit our poll about kissing on the first date. We'd love to hear from you!
Top Opinion
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Sarah TH Marshall Switcher 2012/05/22 18:13:40
+7I think we need to just our entire "On the first date" mentality out the window. Every action is dependent on the people involved- you should never do anything, first date or 50th, that you aren't comfortable doing.
I mean I voted do as in do kiss on a first date, the 'first date' part of the question meaning that there is gonna be a second date!
In my country if you don't even get as far as kissing on the first date, then there is not much point continuing with more dates!
Boy: kiss her
Girl: kiss him
if not, make the moment work
When I first started dating my boyfriend, I was head over heels for him, and we were both so nervous about eachother, we didn't even hold hands right away! I appreciated that he wasn't too foreward, that just made him all the sweeter, and quite the gentleman (;
People are always in a hurry, rushing everything, especially relationships. Just relax, and enjoy becoming friends first (;
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