PUBLIC OPINION > Kissing on the First Date Is Usually OK
SodaHead Living
2012/05/22 15:00:00
First dates are rarely simple. Whether it goes well or not, heading into it is like jumping into a cloudy lake. You have no idea what to expect. There are so many questions, so many potentialities, so many choices to make. Where do you go? What do you talk about? What do you do if it isn't going well? And of course... Do you go in for the kiss? We asked the public.
Obviously, the predominant response was, "It depends," but if you push that to the side for a second, your odds are better with a kiss. However, you've got to be able to read the date. If you do go in for a kiss and your date isn't into it, it could be disasterous. But the real key is to go for your gut. The Top Opinion wrote, "If I like her, I'll walk her to the front door and I'll kiss her goodnight. If I'm not interested anymore, I'll probably say goodbye in the car." It doesn't just depend on them, it depends on you. Only 15% are explicitly against it, so if you want to go for a kiss, do it.
Girl Are Not Gung-Ho
Hold up. Let's take a step back. Until this point we've treated this like a gender-neutral issue, but gender play an enormous role in dating -- especially in making the first move. When you break it down by gender, women are actually more likely to say no. But there's the rub. Typically, the guy is the one making the choice, and guys are more than three times as likely to go for it. What does that mean for guys? Again, fall on that overwhelming "It depends." Go with your gut.
Hold up. Let's take a step back. Until this point we've treated this like a gender-neutral issue, but gender play an enormous role in dating -- especially in making the first move. When you break it down by gender, women are actually more likely to say no. But there's the rub. Typically, the guy is the one making the choice, and guys are more than three times as likely to go for it. What does that mean for guys? Again, fall on that overwhelming "It depends." Go with your gut.Even Parents Say Go for It
Out of all the demographics you might expect to urge against an early kiss, you'd think parents would be a little protective. Not so. Parents were more than twice as likely to say go for it than don't. However, married voters were one of the rare demographics that leaned away. That means people who are married but don't have kids are most likely to warn against it.
Out of all the demographics you might expect to urge against an early kiss, you'd think parents would be a little protective. Not so. Parents were more than twice as likely to say go for it than don't. However, married voters were one of the rare demographics that leaned away. That means people who are married but don't have kids are most likely to warn against it.Nondrinkers Don't
One of the most interesting demographics we came across was the nondrinkers. In fact, the drinker-nondrinker variance was more significant than any other demographic. Nondrinkers were against it by about 2 to 1, while drinkers were for it by nearly 7 to 1. An OKCupid study also found that people who like the taste of beer are much more likely to have sex on a first date. Just sayin'.
One of the most interesting demographics we came across was the nondrinkers. In fact, the drinker-nondrinker variance was more significant than any other demographic. Nondrinkers were against it by about 2 to 1, while drinkers were for it by nearly 7 to 1. An OKCupid study also found that people who like the taste of beer are much more likely to have sex on a first date. Just sayin'.If you'd like to vote on this question, dig deeper into the demographics, or engage in existing discussion about the topic, visit our poll about kissing on the first date. We'd love to hear from you!
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Sarah TH Marshall Switcher 2012/05/22 18:13:40
+7I think we need to just our entire "On the first date" mentality out the window. Every action is dependent on the people involved- you should never do anything, first date or 50th, that you aren't comfortable doing.
And is "dating" really the right way, a phony pretense of who you are not, in order to woo a lady into the bed? Some say courting is better, things like, why not eat dinner together, at one of the parents of the children's, house? Why not attend Church together? Sit together?
I do believe that more people could marry young, but it may be wise for some to avoid that kissing and hand holding, until a more appropriate time? I don't mean for society to ban such things in school and such, as that's ridiculous, and too unreasonable to enforce. But rather, by individual choice or guidance of their parents.
I do agree with your latter part, that extended family is a great advantage that we have lost sight of. Used to be, that families took care of their elderly parents, rather than dumping them into some awful and expensive nursing home. American households are just way too small.
But at the age that most people seem to be settling down and getting married, I sort of doubt that all that many, will have so many more children, than they may have already been expecting. Those evil "family planners" have people just about expecting, that every time they have sex, out pops a baby, if "protection" isn't used. Whatever happened to trusting God, for the ideal family size, and accepting that families come in all sizes?
I fail to see the relevance of Dorthy, nor of her supposedly stuck with 3 males. I've heard the Wizard of Oz is about a drug trip. One moment they are walking in a field of poppies, and the next, they are in some World of Oz?
And surely you aren't denying that Job had it rough there, for a while?
Consider Joseph, who was locked up in prison, for 12 years, falsely accused. I wonder what all he thought, although the description is so much more vivid in The Book of Jasher, one of the "lost" books of the Bible, which I am currently almost finished reading. But had he not gone through the tough times, would he be capable of being 2nd in the rule of Egypt?
In order to be ruler, he had to know 70 languages. Rather amazing that an angel taught him the 70 languages in one night! Not so hard to believe, considering that God created all the languages, and scrambled man's language, at the Tower of Babel.
I heard a story somewhere, that Scooby Doo also promotes the drug culture. Shaggy is always hungry (symptoms of a drug addict?), those psychedelic colors on their van, those scooby snacks aren't really snacks, etc.
I wonder what you think, of the stories (book, movie) by C.S. Lewis, such as "The Lion, The Witch, and the Wardrobe?" The symbolism in that movie, is fairly clear to see. The lion is Jesus. He dies to free the child that has been entrapped by the forces of evil that have come over the land, of the spell of the witch, trapping the land in perpetual winter. I think I remember some teacher reading that book to us, as a child in school.
Ive gone out with many women, and the only times I have ever brought women out on "dates" are when we have been together a while.