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PUBLIC OPINION > Kissing on the First Date Is Usually OK

SodaHead Living 2012/05/22 15:00:00
First dates are rarely simple. Whether it goes well or not, heading into it is like jumping into a cloudy lake. You have no idea what to expect. There are so many questions, so many potentialities, so many choices to make. Where do you go? What do you talk about? What do you do if it isn't going well? And of course... Do you go in for the kiss? We asked the public.

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Obviously, the predominant response was, "It depends," but if you push that to the side for a second, your odds are better with a kiss. However, you've got to be able to read the date. If you do go in for a kiss and your date isn't into it, it could be disasterous. But the real key is to go for your gut. The Top Opinion wrote, "If I like her, I'll walk her to the front door and I'll kiss her goodnight. If I'm not interested anymore, I'll probably say goodbye in the car." It doesn't just depend on them, it depends on you. Only 15% are explicitly against it, so if you want to go for a kiss, do it.

Girl Are Not Gung-Ho

Hold up. Let's take a step back. Until this point we've treated this like a gender-neutral issue, but gender play an enormous role in dating -- especially in making the first move. When you break it down by gender, women are actually more likely to say no. But there's the rub. Typically, the guy is the one making the choice, and guys are more than three times as likely to go for it. What does that mean for guys? Again, fall on that overwhelming "It depends." Go with your gut.

Even Parents Say Go for It

Out of all the demographics you might expect to urge against an early kiss, you'd think parents would be a little protective. Not so. Parents were more than twice as likely to say go for it than don't. However, married voters were one of the rare demographics that leaned away. That means people who are married but don't have kids are most likely to warn against it.

Nondrinkers Don't

One of the most interesting demographics we came across was the nondrinkers. In fact, the drinker-nondrinker variance was more significant than any other demographic. Nondrinkers were against it by about 2 to 1, while drinkers were for it by nearly 7 to 1. An OKCupid study also found that people who like the taste of beer are much more likely to have sex on a first date. Just sayin'.

If you'd like to vote on this question, dig deeper into the demographics, or engage in existing discussion about the topic, visit our poll about kissing on the first date. We'd love to hear from you!
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  • Sarah TH Marshall Switcher 2012/05/22 18:13:40
    Sarah TH Marshall Switcher
    +7
    I think we need to just our entire "On the first date" mentality out the window. Every action is dependent on the people involved- you should never do anything, first date or 50th, that you aren't comfortable doing.

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  • Aris Georgiou 2012/05/28 19:22:10
    Aris Georgiou
    +3
    Treat the girl right and let this kiss for later...being irresponsible is the worst thing...
  • Miss Mayhem ✗✗✗ 2012/05/26 01:32:16
    Miss Mayhem ✗✗✗
    I think it depends where your friendship is with the person. By this, I mean that if you were best friends with them and it was the type of relationship where everyone thought you would be together, and then you did, it's okay. If you just ask them out and they're someone who's only an acquaintance, save it for later. Same opinions for sex before marriage almost. I believe in waiting until after you get married to give that gift of virginity away, but if you really connect with that person and you've been in a relationship for years and years, I might put those opinions aside.
  • Raghunath Roy Choudhury 2012/05/25 19:18:16
  • Margaret Jacobson 2012/05/25 18:22:54
    Margaret Jacobson
    AS ALONG AS THE BRACES DON'T LOCK..........GO FOR IT (IF YOU WANT)
  • Edensasp 2012/05/25 17:20:47
    Edensasp
    +1
    I totally agree with what "Sarah TH Marshall Switcher" wrote...
  • maybeimalion 2012/05/25 16:07:31
    maybeimalion
    +1
    to me marriage is a piece of paper, you dont need a certificate to prove that you love someone.. so all this talk about premarital sex is kinda silly.. as a man you've you do whatever it takes to make them happy, but stand your ground if you dont feel its right... if that means kissing or having sex on a first date go for it, but only if she wants to and dont be forceful,,,
  • DS in Oak Ridge NC 2012/05/25 11:21:17
    DS in Oak Ridge NC
    I'm in favor of this. I kissed a lovely lady the night I met her... We'll celebrate our 21st anniversary in a month. I'd say that date went pretty well, and our kiss was the topper.
  • Deactivated 2012/05/25 07:50:03
    Deactivated
    Wow kiss looks fake
    I did and it's awesome
  • Annie~Pro American~Pro Israel 2012/05/25 06:39:29
    Annie~Pro American~Pro Israel
    Depends
  • ⚜3rd Street Boss⚜ 2012/05/25 06:15:43
    ⚜3rd Street Boss⚜
    Yea cool. With me it depends on the circumstances..
  • 8bitgonemad 2012/05/25 05:57:50
    8bitgonemad
    Girls only want to kiss a guy on the first date if he's attractive
  • METALheadMom 2012/05/24 20:06:02
    METALheadMom
    Nope. Dating is supposed to be TIME to learn about each other - talk, walk, get into each others heads.... who knows, you might end up finding out things you really don't like about the person. Letting someone you don't know well get intimate with you, is like gambling with your entire paycheck - it's just stupid.
  • nadzzy <3 2012/05/24 18:31:48
    nadzzy <3
    I think it really does depend, if (lets say I'm a guy) and I was on a date, I would be able to figure out her "vibe" and whether she was giving off a "kiss me" vibe or a "get the hell away from me" kind of vibe. It also depends how drunk she is. ^_^
  • Wonder Woman 2012/05/24 17:41:08
  • TeardropsOfBlood4The1iiLove♥ 2012/05/24 17:12:07
    TeardropsOfBlood4The1iiLove♥
    +1
    If you know them well then it should be ok but if it is the first time youve met then maybe not
  • dabaddestbitxch 2012/05/24 14:37:28
    dabaddestbitxch
    +1
    it depends
  • Scott 2012/05/24 14:19:59
    Scott
    I suppose if the kiss wasn't too passionate it would be ok on a first date.
  • meneope Scott 2012/05/24 16:33:04
    meneope
    +1
    yeah and if it's too passionate it's even better :-)
  • Scott meneope 2012/05/25 10:40:10
    Scott
    +1
    I guess so.
  • MASOUDLETON 2012/05/24 13:05:29
    MASOUDLETON
    +1
    make your action .............where or what ever .......
  • kobidob... MASOUDL... 2012/05/24 16:36:29
    kobidobidog
    You are godly judging yourself. That is a good thing.
  • Buoyant Leadraft 2012/05/24 05:08:37
    Buoyant Leadraft
    Great way to get herpes! Who was he/she kissing the night before or last year for that matter! No kissing allowed! EVER! unless you get tested first.
  • kobidob... Buoyant... 2012/05/24 16:45:13
    kobidobidog
    There are many fear based names out there. The one thing the devil does not want us to do is replicate. That is why no sex befog 18 with enlisting in the army to kill or be killed at 18 to kill humans of any age.
  • Buoyant... kobidob... 2012/05/24 16:50:20
    Buoyant Leadraft
    How long have you been mentally ill? Are you on medication right now? If not may i suggest forgoing that rout and go straight to electro convulsive therapy?
  • kobidob... Buoyant... 2012/05/26 02:49:12
    kobidobidog
    The devil talks like you. Not a good buddy to have as a partner. He will consume your soul like you eat food. What is coming out of your vessel is what is in it, and all that see your words can visualize its content, and know it smells really bad. I should have guessed you rely on sorcery, and medieval 16 century medicine which by the way hasn't changed much over the years essentially staying the same.
  • Buoyant... kobidob... 2012/05/26 15:20:26
    Buoyant Leadraft
    Hail Satan! ::::yawn:::
  • kobidob... Buoyant... 2012/05/26 16:46:28
    kobidobidog
    Satan is death ,and all bad things. You want death to your soul wanting to make one human that dies to only seem to be worse than another?
  • Buoyant... kobidob... 2012/05/26 16:54:51
    Buoyant Leadraft
    News flash: There is no satan.
    P.S. You're an idiot.
  • kobidob... Buoyant... 2012/05/27 02:37:22 (edited)
    kobidobidog
    When you die, and have humans come up to you leading you down a road saying you are safe with them getting more, and more agitated with you, and then begin Gnawing on your soul you will remember what I said, but it will be to late because you will not call on the name of the Lord being dragged to Satan's prison to wait for final judgment to become nothing in Gods light on the last day. I know you won't believe me. Have a nice trip. If you remain the way you are Gods light will fry your body,and soul only to be raised one last time to die permanently. If you don't change. That will be your end. Do not despise prophesyings.
  • Buoyant... kobidob... 2012/05/27 02:59:45
    Buoyant Leadraft
    LMOA... :: sigh:::
  • kobidob... Buoyant... 2012/05/27 05:19:17 (edited)
    kobidobidog
    I am telling you the truth. It does not change. It is a warning. I know more than you think I know.
  • AprilPerry 2012/05/24 05:00:46
    AprilPerry
    It depends on the couple, but I personally didn't kiss my boyfriend for the first time until the third date.
  • stevmackey 2012/05/24 04:01:43
    stevmackey
    Don't ask me ask Will Smith. lol.
  • rebecca stevmackey 2012/05/25 04:22:09
    rebecca
    what does will smith have to do with anything
  • thє вluє wαndєrєr 2012/05/24 03:27:14
  • Emi 2012/05/24 02:49:25
    Emi
    if the girl really loves the guy, and the guy really loves her too, not playing her, then, kissing is not a big problem, even, having sex is okay, but remember to wear condom, for not to make another life happen, and for safety too. however, girls who under 18, you're not allow to have sex, you haven't "mature'. and it will definitely hurt your body. just let everything become "mature", if the guy loves you, he can wait =)
  • Pronata... Emi 2012/05/24 13:22:44
    Pronatalist Pronatalist
    No, sex is not okay. Are you crazy? By definition, they are NOT married yet. Sure, I believe a larger proportion of the growing "huge" pop of the world, ought to be having sex, and babies freely pushing out. But the Bible is clear, Flee fornication, Thou shalt not commit adultery. Are you calling God a liar, saying sex is okay? Yeah, if they are ready to marry younger, and already married, something rather unlikely "on the first date." And if they are married, they had better be "dating" each other, not outside of their marriage.

    Of course it's okay to have sex before age 18. Who makes this stupid stuff up? The human body is clearly ready to start growing a family, before age 18. "Teenager" is a modern invention. Before recently, there was no such thing as "teenagers," for there was only ADULTS at "teenage" ages. Parents used to marry their children off young, to prevent things like babies outside of wedlock. At a Church I once attended, we married a couple that the guy was 18, and she was but just 17, and everybody thought they were old enough. Like who doesn't know, they probably had sex the very first night, and so that would technically be "teenage pregnancies" then. Which is quite okay and good, and the human populations should spread freely without any means of "birth con...

    No, sex is not okay. Are you crazy? By definition, they are NOT married yet. Sure, I believe a larger proportion of the growing "huge" pop of the world, ought to be having sex, and babies freely pushing out. But the Bible is clear, Flee fornication, Thou shalt not commit adultery. Are you calling God a liar, saying sex is okay? Yeah, if they are ready to marry younger, and already married, something rather unlikely "on the first date." And if they are married, they had better be "dating" each other, not outside of their marriage.

    Of course it's okay to have sex before age 18. Who makes this stupid stuff up? The human body is clearly ready to start growing a family, before age 18. "Teenager" is a modern invention. Before recently, there was no such thing as "teenagers," for there was only ADULTS at "teenage" ages. Parents used to marry their children off young, to prevent things like babies outside of wedlock. At a Church I once attended, we married a couple that the guy was 18, and she was but just 17, and everybody thought they were old enough. Like who doesn't know, they probably had sex the very first night, and so that would technically be "teenage pregnancies" then. Which is quite okay and good, and the human populations should spread freely without any means of "birth control," for they were then married, so there is a stable, loving family to receive any children that may come.

    Developing countries do NOT want contraceptives, associating contraceptives with "dirty sex" such as prostitution. Look at all the rampant sexual immorality in the Western developed countries, and I would have to say, they are right. Look at you, saying to use the "magic" condom. Why not sexual morality, and throw the nasty unnatural condoms away, and let human life happen, and natural family growth, human populations spreading human life freely.
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  • Wonder ... Pronata... 2012/05/24 18:00:23
  • 8bitgon... Wonder ... 2012/05/25 06:00:00
    8bitgonemad
    +1
    Unfortunately, you're right
  • dheydrick 2012/05/24 02:17:00
    dheydrick
    Maybe, but never at the age depicted in the photo above. The young kids in the photo shoudn't even be dating.

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