PARENTS!!!

by chey&chris Posted 2010/06/04 14:04:20

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i know i am a teenager but when it comes to who your teenage children around 16 17 and 18 date, what are you more worried about? keeping them away from who they lost their virginity to and leaving them depressed thinking they will get over it or letting them be happy with that person, and letting them learn their own problems by trial and error???

The Gov-Here to help BN362 2010/06/04 14:20:41

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Parents do not want you to repeat the same mistakes they did. They do not tell you things to suck the fun out of life, believe me... they worked every angle and have learned by trial and error.. They do not want the same for you. Experience and wisdom beats out childlike curiousity and inexperience, hands down
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Korri 2010/06/08 18:41:21

You gotta just sit down and talk with your parents. Posting a question like this isn't gonna get you any answers. Your parents are the only ones who can give you the facts. Although, the sodaheads will give you some points to bring up.

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P-Funk 2010/06/05 05:17:13

My kids are only 25, 21, and 14. I will let them start dating when they are 40.

OK, seriously then ... from the time they each got to be about 12 or 13 I started having very honest -- but not graphic -- conversations about the horrible mistakes I made as a teen. I think it helped them understand why I put certain restrictions on their activities, and so far they have not repeated any of MY mistakes -- and made fewer serious mistakes of their own than I did.

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Dragoness 2010/06/04 15:54:25

I don't think its just about keeping you from him. Perhaps there are real concerns, is he older? Does he have a record? Do they think he is corrupting you? They are only trying to keep you safe. I know it sucks...but going through their head is "HIV, STD, pregnancy" and "not my kid." They are trying to prevent you from feeling the heartache they once did and to be honest most young men have only one thing on the brain. No matter what he says they cannot be sure and they don't want to see you with a broken heart, pregnant with his baby etc.

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ComaCalm 2010/06/04 15:30:01

I'd let them learn...

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Master 2010/06/04 15:18:30

Well, sometimes a parent can see what a child is blind to, and something like an unwanted pregnancy can screw you up for life.

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Seasoned BN-0 2010/06/04 14:30:37

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I think most parents are worried about std's and pregnancies and that is because they have never sat down and discussed sexual repercussions in a blunt fashion with their kids.

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chey&chris to Seasone... 2010/06/04 15:13:08

yeh but thats not exactly the question

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Seasone... to chey&chris 2010/06/04 22:39:08

Yes it is a part of the question. See there is the real problem what you think your parents are worried about and what your parents are really worried about are two different things.

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The Gov-Here to help BN362 2010/06/04 14:20:41

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Parents do not want you to repeat the same mistakes they did. They do not tell you things to suck the fun out of life, believe me... they worked every angle and have learned by trial and error.. They do not want the same for you. Experience and wisdom beats out childlike curiousity and inexperience, hands down

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chey&chris to The Gov... 2010/06/04 15:14:00

yeh but why would you want to watch your child be unhappy because they cant be with that one person

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The Gov... to chey&chris 2010/06/04 15:15:36

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There must be a reason that you are not taking an honest look at.

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chey&chris to The Gov... 2010/06/04 15:16:20

what?

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The Gov... to chey&chris 2010/06/04 15:18:08

How would I know? I am not you or your parents.. but believe me, your parents do not want you unhappy. Your parents do not want you to end up in a situation where there may be an unhappiness that occurs that might be harder to remedy.

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Lady Jules ♥♥ in Lestat I t... 2010/06/04 14:11:58

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LOL no way I'd let my kid learn by trial and error. That's just stupid

Kids tend to forget that parents were once teens too and went through the same things.

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chey&chris to Lady Ju... 2010/06/04 15:15:10

i would rather learn myself from trial and error because when you tell a teen something anyways they just let it go in one ear and out the other

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Lady Ju... to chey&chris 2010/06/04 15:42:26

Not all teens are like that.....thank goodness. Many teens actually listen to the advice they are given and then make their decisions wisely.

You've already showed your parents that you're going down the wrong road and they're doing their best to put you back on the right road. Losing your virginity so young.....it had to be devastating because I'm sure your parents tried to teach you to have some respect for yourself

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ME 2010/06/04 14:07:31

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It all depends on the person to whom the virginity was lost. That by itself is to be expected. But if my daughter lost her virginity to a serial killer (or some problem person) we may have a problem. Need more info.

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chey&chris to ME 2010/06/04 14:09:07

no im talking about me and a boy who have been on and off for 2 years. idk what to do anymore i love him so much i really do!! and ive done a lot to prove it. his family just doesnt see it

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ME to chey&chris 2010/06/04 14:15:29

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He'll be 18 soon; hold tight until then.

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chey&chris to ME 2010/06/04 15:15:29

im holding on very tight

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ME to chey&chris 2010/06/04 15:20:15

;~) It'll all work out.

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