Parents, do you treat all your children the same?

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Parents, do you treat all your children the same?

by Dangerous Dave Posted August 20, 2009 19:54:43

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Experts say that there is always that "left-out" child in the family. Who is it?

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Texas Lia September 17, 2009 22:14:15

Answered: Yes. I treat all my children the same.
YES.
tl2c04 September 07, 2009 22:36:04

Answered: No. The left out child is...
I say no because my oldest who is now 16 was my ginny pig so to speak. I treat my youngest who is 7 differently because I learned from the mistakes I made. On the flip side my 16 year old is allowed to do more that brings a rant of "that's not fare". Unless they were twins I don't see how I could say yes.
kiwi September 01, 2009 01:05:14

Answered: Yes. I treat all my children the same.
i dont know yet cuz i only have one so faw.
jitko August 30, 2009 02:25:20

Answered: No. The left out child is...
No one is left out but I don't treat them the same because they aren't the same. Why would I treat a gregarious 15-year-old the same as a shy 4-year-old? But I have to treat them the same or ignore one?? Give more reasonable choices.
jerrbear August 24, 2009 00:46:05

Answered: Yes. I treat all my children the same.
being the step parent to a single child I try not to over do it, as a parent,when it comes to disaplin I leave that to my spouce, But myself as a child I was treated differently from my brother, they seemed to lean more to him than me, he got everything and I had to work for what I got,but thats ok I'm not mad about it ,even as adults they still favor him ,ok by me, I live many miles away now so they can pamper him all they want,
big di August 23, 2009 19:48:17

Answered: No. The left out child is...
I've never been a parent to little humans, but since every living creature is an individual, it seems only natural that one's response should be individually tailored to each child/pet/friend/coworker/etc with whom one is dealing.

In my experience, a "good" parent doesn't "leave out" a particular child, unless that child doesn't seem to want or welcome the attention. If they are awkward or shy about making their wants and needs known, a wise parent will work on including them into the group.
Rebecca August 22, 2009 17:20:57

Answered: No. The left out child is...
I'm not a parent... but my parents definitely don't treat us kids the same... my brother gets away with things that I could only dream of doing.
Amy August 22, 2009 17:14:19

Answered: Yes. I treat all my children the same.
The answer is sometimes. We try to be fair and treat the all the same. My husband is a step to my oldest son and they tangle once in awhile over authority things.
. August 22, 2009 03:25:58

Answered: No. The left out child is...
dont have kids sadly but in my family im da1 dat is alwayz left out=[
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Victoria August 22, 2009 00:15:37

Answered: Yes. I treat all my children the same.
I only have one child. hehehe
Royal Warrior August 21, 2009 02:49:50

Answered: No. The left out child is...
Each one feels that she was the left-out one at times, and the favored one at times. I tried to balance their needs, and I knew there were times this one, or that one truly needed the extra attention, while the other could deal with a little less attention. But each is and always has been so special to me in a very individual and unique way, so how could I pick one to 'leave-out' and on to love most?
I do think sometimes the left-out child is simply the one whom acts the most self-sufficient, therefore the parents, while loving this one as much, feel s/he probably doesn't need them as much, and act accordingly. I was that one in my family, and my parents have spoken of how they wouldn't know of a special event, or opportunity for me, until after it was gone. I know I frequently didn't ask for attention I would have loved to receive, simply knowing they had limited time and resources. I didn't feel less loved, and knew any being 'left-out' was my own actions precipitating it.
the Griffin August 20, 2009 22:34:18

Answered: Yes. I treat all my children the same.
We have 2 daughters and my wife and I try to treat them the same, but their individual circumstances will sometimes dictate what actions we take.
Soccergirl23 August 20, 2009 21:48:01

Answered: No. The left out child is...
My parents leave me out of things a lot and treat me waaaay different then my brother. Like one morning, we were going to go on a camping trip, and they left the house without me!!! They didn't even load my suitcase in the car the night before! That's happened 4 times so far this year!
jitko to Soccerg... August 30, 2009 02:29:00

How sad. Any idea why? Is it sexism? Are you okay?
Soccerg... to jitko August 30, 2009 04:05:16

no idea why. I bet it's just because they are soooo focused on my brother that sometimes they forget about me. and yeah i'm good.
Bessie August 20, 2009 21:33:42

Answered: Yes. I treat all my children the same.
She's lucky!
Lee The Hybrid Snowflake"Mo... August 20, 2009 20:33:33

Answered: Yes. I treat all my children the same.
I don't treat my children the same, but equally. I have one very needy child and one very independent child. I try to give them each what they need. I don't think either of my children are left out.
SuperCee August 20, 2009 20:27:46

Answered: No. The left out child is...
I only have one child so he gets all the special treatment. But I am the oldest of three and I always felt my parents had favorites out of the three of us. My little sister was the most spoiled and perhaps the favorite. I think I was the left out one but these days, I'm the special one.
Chris August 20, 2009 20:21:24

Answered: No. The left out child is...
No, I have 6 kids and they all have different personalities and different dispositions. They all had the same rules to follow and with equal punishment. I did tend to be more protective of my girls though. I know it's not right, or fair.....but they didn't get as much freedom to run as my boys did.
Tutboy August 20, 2009 20:05:53

Answered: No. The left out child is...
No...they are all individuals with their own needs and wants...none are favored though
Hope & Love August 20, 2009 20:05:44

Answered: Yes. I treat all my children the same.
well i mean I really try to, but I catch myself being a lot stricter on my son, who is the oldest. it really pisses me off cause I was the oldest and hated being done like that!!! I will apologize to him immediately!!!!
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jacktown kid August 20, 2009 20:00:20

Answered: Yes. I treat all my children the same.
The best I can