Opposites Attract, but Is It Better to Date Someone Like You?

by SodaHead Living Posted 2012/06/18 20:38:29

Related Topics: Opposites, Attract, dating, Love

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It's true that opposites attract. But do they last? Howaboutwe.com writer Nikki Metzgar is used to dating guys just like her, but now she's wondering if she should branch out and date her opposite.

"I usually look for the guys who are exactly like me," she writes. "The other day at work, a guy asked me for my phone number. He is around my age and definitely cute. I don’t think I should be dating coworkers, but that is another issue.

"I skipped over that problem entirely and moved straight to whether we would get along, because so far we have absolutely nothing in common, based on about 20 minutes of conversation. The first thing he said to me was that he loves to go to metal concerts at this bar in a suburb about 40 minutes away from downtown.

"He can listen to metal all he likes, I don’t think less of him or really care at all. But I don’t want to listen to metal. Then he said he loves baseball, which is a great American pastime, of course. It’s just one I don’t care about. Somehow we ended up talking favorite ice cream flavors. Mine is chocolate. His is butter pecan. I’ve never even tasted butter pecan!"

Do you think this couple has a shot at love? Or is better to date someone more or less like you?

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selena costa 2012/06/19 00:00:23

No

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I dont need someone like me. i need someone different than me because im not a talkative person. i want someone who talks alote to make me talk. if that makes sense?
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Anonymouse BN-0 ~bibbityboo~ 2012/06/19 14:05:17

Yes

I tend to prefer people who are opposite in looks, I like blond hair, blue eyed taller guys, but I like them to have similar interests and opinions, it's no fun to be arguing with them about what's best all the time...

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Sharon1992 2012/06/19 13:34:35 (edited)

No

I need someone who is the opposite of who I am ^_^ But we should have some things in common.

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BurrisTravis 2012/06/19 13:22:36
Inquisitve Kat 2012/06/19 12:49:47

Yes

I don't know if it's better, but it's certainly easier.

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kidkewlsgirl8888 2012/06/19 12:41:05

Yes

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As I found out with my current bf yes.. because we can agree on things and can sometimes read each others minds some times its creepy lol!

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blushn1980 to kidkewl... 2012/06/19 17:17:07

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That can happen over time too.My husband and I are alike only in core values. Yet I know what he is thinking most of the time. That's just 12 year of marriage for ya. But someone different can keep you on your toes too. You are less likely to get into ruts, it's balance!

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Tiah 2012/06/19 12:35:37

Yes

Because when u share interests or values it's easier to talk to ur partner where disagreements mostly end in arguments.

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AM 2012/06/19 12:25:24

Yes

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Obviously some similarities are necessary as a base for any relationship to go smoothly.While it's vastly important to have the same core values and morals especially if children are involved.However the qualities I don't possess are the qualities I look for in a partner.Believing we constantly learn and grow if I was to saddle myself to my exact I would be stunted and bored.

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Waiting in the Wings 2012/06/19 10:24:33

No

I feel we should share a little more than our passion for each other in common. If I wanted to be with myself, I would stay single. I want someone who'll challenge me.

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skyebrand 2012/06/19 10:17:06

No

I hit NO but I wanted an "IT DEPENDS" option...if your differences are major (for example, completely opposing religious differences with neither willing to convert) then I think the issues could be too great & end up causing the relationship to finish.

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Nina Wolda 2012/06/19 10:02:02

Yes

Well, you can get in a good fight with someone who thinks the oppisite of you...

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Arianne 2012/06/19 09:27:04

Yes

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To an extent. Differences are fine and all but if you have nothing in common you won't have much to talk about or if you aren't intrested in at least somethings. Not to mention view points on life, beliefs, education etc... Its fine to be different but if you're TOO different you'll end up fighting most of the time or not spening as much time with each other.

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NYCbrit 2012/06/19 09:24:56

Yes

It's more important to be alike in somethings than in others. You've got to want the same things out of life. Then your differences can compliment the union.

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Kibbles 2012/06/19 09:01:17

No

Damn I meant yes. I dated a girl somewhat my opposite last year, first relationship and I got my heart curve stomped. Turns out my opposite decided to cheat on me with her ex who was not her opposite, you see my opposites were the jock crowd, I dated an athletic girl and she decide to cheat on me with the school's well known athlete who brags about his conquests of girls and how he nearly knocks them up. This leaves me to ponder how much of a bastard was I to drive her into the arms of another guy.

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Fenabarb 2012/06/19 08:25:50

Yes

my concept is I could not date a very religious person-
so similar view point on life

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Feras 2012/06/19 08:09:13

No

life will be boring because you will know everything about that person and there will be no excitement in this relationship. like the electricity , if you are different u will get a spark :D

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Watts 2012/06/19 07:25:50

No

I don't think there could be another like me, luckily

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pofmaster 2012/06/19 07:16:56

Yes

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I think it reduces some tension since you will nearly be the same in in your brains. I don't think this applies to the colour of the skin but to the brains.

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Aksana 2012/06/19 07:16:54

Yes

Yes

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nothingbutthetruth 2012/06/19 07:04:00

Yes

In quality, color doesn't matter(:

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MlssCue =Go Blue= 2012/06/19 06:18:03

No

Having the same basic morals, yes. But what I like about dating someone who is not like me is it keeps things interesting plus I get to learn new things and see things from a different perspective. Besides, I'm way too awesome to find anyone like me ;-)

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Kozmo 2012/06/19 05:48:05

No

In my [brain]case (Asperger's) it's impossible, we're like snow-flakes, with a lot of us being quite flaky.

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Beat Magnum True Hero 2012/06/19 05:47:15

Yes

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To a certain extent, yes. Some things though can overpower a relationship. If you're both highly emotional people, the relationship will be full of drama.

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antlergirl21 2012/06/19 05:30:24

Yes

Less arguments I would think.

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Raphy 2012/06/19 05:26:03

Yes

That would be foolish to me to date someone I don't like. Even though you could grow to like them.

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Kozmo to Raphy 2012/06/19 05:51:07

They could also grow on you like a cancer.

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Raphy to Kozmo 2012/06/20 04:26:41

+1
You right about that.....thanks for adding that....lol

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Ameera 2012/06/19 05:14:08

Yes

she looks like the girl from Pan Am

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Aubrie77 2012/06/19 05:09:14

Yes

Opposites do attract, but you need to have common ground to connect on in order to have a strong relationship.

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EricVanSingleton 2012/06/19 04:38:09 (edited)

Yes

I prefer to be with someone that I don't make uncomfortable, who isn't holding anything back, or feels the need to change for me. An opposite just requires more compromise than I'm willing to make. I'm too old to hope someone evolves into the person I need.

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Wonder Woman 2012/06/19 04:20:28
peaches 2012/06/19 04:13:43

No

Yes and no. I find, personally, that it is best to date someone who have similar interests with you so that you can more easily bond and spend time with them. But still a person with a different personality than you so that they "complete" you, as cheesy as that sounds. It's been working well for me and my girlfriend so far ^^

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zebsmom 2012/06/19 04:10:33

Yes

Insofar as dating someone like you means someone with similar core values. Dating someone with very different likes and dislikes can be anywhere from a fun adventure to torture, depending on the individuals. Having at least a few similar interests is usually best/easiest. Or you can develop new interests together. Dating someone with completely different core values is pretty much doomed.

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The River Rat 2012/06/19 03:47:18

No

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I want a girl, not some other guy!

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Autumn 2012/06/19 03:46:46

No

In school once, we were listening to the announcements and it was National Opposites Attract Day. This kid was like, "Hey Autumn!" And winked at this delinquent child you would see more in the office than in class. I'm a goody-two shoes.

Sure, OK. Opposites attract. But I'm not going that far. Last time I checked that kid was in juvie.

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David 2012/06/19 03:44:39

Yes

If the world was black and white (mind you, not race) and could only choose yes or no, right and wrong, then it is far better to date someone like you. Unless you're a jerk.

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Jessica 2012/06/19 03:34:31

Yes

Kinda. It's more about finding a happy middle. Differences are good, sometimes great, but too many are fuel for arguments. Same goes for too many similarities. I know I wouldn't want to date someone very much like myself. I'd then be able to find myself annoying lol

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Morgan 2012/06/19 03:34:19

Yes

I guess. Not all the time

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Darlin' 2012/06/19 03:34:15

Yes

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Compatible mates need similar values, morals, lifestyles, sex drives, goals and at least some same interests. (My experience has been that differences in these areas lead to resentment and dissolution.)

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Omni 2012/06/19 03:32:14

Yes

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Similar interests go a long way as it gives you a way to personally relate to your partner.

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