Opposites Attract, but Is It Better to Date Someone Like You?

once youve been together for awhile, you get tired of each other. But more quickly when u have nothing in common.

Haven't been there myself but I think its a great Idea.
I take that back, did it once but the age difference was a problem, everything else was great.

Relationships always seem to work better when you're friends to begin with... I couldn't be friends with someone who is completely opposite of me.

I don't want someone exactly like me, but similar. Definitely not opposite though. In my opinion, opposites are interesting at first but ultimately tend to disagree and conflict too much.

How boring would that be.?

I perfer some difference, but not so different you can't stand each other! :P

I misread the question ha

I believe you date some who can bring out the best in you and vice verse. This goes a long way, if it someone like you that can do that or even opposite, go for it.

Mean, yeah you know if you date someone like you that you will have things in common.. but if we date people different from us, we might learn more about something and grow to like it. We will branch out and maybe try new things that we thought we would have never liked at one time

It's nice to balance out each other's strengths and weaknesses .... but all in all, you had better be pulling in the same direction :)

My wife is almost an exact opposite of me. We love learning new things about each other every day.

No Surprises.

Naw. Don't like boys.

ExactlyLOL!!! ;)
I think in physical terms, Opposites attract...
But in values etc, you need to move togetherLol!

It is good to have some differences to liven things up, and provide some different viewpoints, but on the core values things must be fairly tight. Our divorce rate reflects a great deal of this.

Dating someone like you gets boring. You never try new things its always the same resteraunts, the same movies ect. But dating someone opposite you try things they like too and it keeps it interesting.

I am sick of me - I want something different. However when it comes to family, kids etc. I would prefer someone with my own tastes. I never wanted kids so I would want someone on the same wavelength because I am not going to change on that one.

I can be a handful, I'm told ,ouitspoken ,daring,(I hope that's what it is) ,a sometimes pain in the butt, opinionated, and so forth.It takes a strong woman to put up with me.

I think it's more complicated than this question would lead us to believe. I do think a couple who shares similar core values and attitudes has a strong foundation. However, I also think that differences can encourage personal growth. You can learn new things and see things from several angles. I think some of the problems come when people start judging others and thinking their way is always the right way.

No because it gives an relationship a little spice, excitment.

It's better to marry someone you can COMMUNICATE PROPERLY WITH. Anything can work if you both can talk, listen, and respect each other.

cause with different people you can spread out more and learn new things....I dated a guy and we were pretty different...he showed me some of my now favorite bands that I would have never heard of if I dated guys like me

i can go either way though

I have had relationships with both. Someone like me is someone I will always butt heads with. My oposite sees things I don't and I see things he doesn't

Honestly it doesn't matter as long a you and that person are happy, get along , and understand each other its all good!

It's better to date someone who understands my quirks than be ridiculed or made to feel awkward cause he doesn't understand them.

My husband and I are opposites.My husband is 6'6 I am 5'4. He is uptight and anal about things. I am very laid back I don't sweat the small stuff. We don't like the same music, movies, or food.I am Catholic, he doesn't really have that kind of belief. I do have to say our core values are the same though. It's worked for 12 yrs...

Niether. You don't want someone exactly like you, but you don't want to differ on an issue that matters (unless it is an interesting debate...but not something you hold against each other). My husband and I are a lot alike in out ideas, mentality, politics, etc. However, we differ in areas that make people think we are REALLY different. I always loved school, he didn't (but we both loved learning....key point). I talk a lot....he says he only cares to talk to me (and really just isn't very talkative...though that has changed since he met me). I'm loud, he is quiet. He is a worrier, I tend to believe things will be "ok". He is very good at focusing....I'm not (I've been working on this for a long time). And the list goes on.

Her list of differences were superficial....it really says nothing about a person. My first dates always dove into hard issues...b/c I really wanted to know...and not just learn the stupid little things....so her first date, to me, doesn't count. Find out about him, not his interests, those are so moldable for both of you that it really isn't a big issue.

NO - I get sick of me every day - why would I want a twin?
I'm a callous meat-eating hermit - My Wife is an outspoken vegetarian tree hugger.
Perfect match - It's like James Carville and his wife.

Common interests

I prefer someone more familiar and comfortable, so much like myself, but also with differences like, for example, I'm pretty passive and submissive so I'd need someone assertive and dominant but on the other hand I'm also introverted and I couldn't stand someone extroverted for too long so I'll also need someone introverted, because they need to be self-reliant and not constantly need me or someone else around to entertain them.

Accounting for things in common, yeah we need to have a lot in common, but we don't have to have everything in common. That way we can do things together and apart, so it's all good.

I can't talk to somebody like me. They need to be fairly different so there's something to talk about (or argue - I like debating), otherwise I'll just stop talking.

I don't think u should date someone EXACTLY like u, but I have found it is important to have similar values, goals in life and some common interests. If your going to "share" your life with somebody, how can u really do that if u don't "share" anything in common?

noo, i believe in opposites attract.

If that someone is like me, well that would be fun but I won't want her to be everything like me, because there's only 1 of me. I would want to date someone who has a lot of things in common with myself that way we would have a great time with each other.

im undecided. i have dated someone like me and we got along for a while but its not FUN. you're too alike.
when your with someone thats not TOO overly opposite than you or even a complete opposite its fun and exciting

Date someone that you have in common with.

I find that if I date someone like me, they get on my nerves. I also like being able to debate and have friendly discussions and conflicting views keep the relationship interesting

53 years out of high school, I connected up with a 'girl' from my class. It is what we share in common added to pure animal attraction that 'make' our relationship outstanding. We come from old Yankee (New England) stock, educated, middle imcome, white Anglo-Saxon protestant. We are both long term recovering alcoholics. We have both had the experience of opposites and been hurt.