Opposites Attract, but Is It Better to Date Someone Like You?

My current gf is very different to myself, and that's why we're still going strong after nearly four years with no signs of slowing down. We challenge each other and open each other's eyes to new ideas, experiences and ways of thinking. I've always gotten bored eventually with people who were similar to me as there was nothing new after a while, but this time it's still fresh and interesting each and every day.

Yes to opposites attract like dominant and submissive or extroverts and introverts. But couples also need to have things in common so their relationship isn't boring and they can talk about common interests. So in a way you need a little bit in common and have some things you are opposite on.

If you date your opposite...it keeps the relationship interesting, and you can try more new things. You may fight, but if you make it over that bump in the road...your relationship is WAY stronger!

I meant yes, I need affinity unless he is waaaaayy too hot as interesting and funny to accept too much difference, I need a comrade

....To a certain degree. If everything between you is similar, then nothing exists outside of your relationship, because it's all shared between you. Both people need something that is uniquely their own.

Compromise is very important from both, if one is not on ....then it won't work.

I am an easy going guy, way to easy going. I don't like power hungry girls but I enjoy one I can respect and enjoy. She needs to be able to push me to do what I need to do with out taking over.

I think it depends on how like you or how opposite. People have told me my husband and I are very much alike (I don't think so). The thing is, where we're alike, we're very, very alike, and where we're different, we're worlds apart. Fortunately the word compromise is in our vocabulary.

if you don't have anything in common it may be a draw at first because of exploring things that you don't know about, but I think that it fades out after a while and you are only aware of the differences!

Opposites attract but they don't last. It's exciting to be with someone who is different
than you are if exciting is all you're looking for. In the long run I need more than exciting.
I need a sense of compatibilty and permanence. A feeling like I'm going to be with a person forever.

I'm quiet and shy in real life, so I don't want to date someone quiet and shy like me. Makes for a rather boring silent evening wouldn't you think?

I think so.

Date every kind of person you feel comfortable with to see what you really like and are able to handle. That is what dating is for. Experimenting until you find what you are looking for.

It is better to date someone who likes me too!
The love and understanding will fix the differences.

Date whoever the hell you want. All that matters is that you love each other. And yet people are so wrapped up in statistics and numbers. JUST BE HAPPY. That is all.

Actually that would be a good thing for a change.

...when it comes to values, absolutely, but be sure you understand what yours are before getting too serious. Other differences can add to the spice of the relationship.

I'm awesome

No--I prefer to date men.

HAHAHAHA. sorry, couldn't resist! You're answer cracked me up! :)

you seriously cracked me up too. LOL

I`m an anti-genocide campaigner on behalf of white people being eliminated by mass immigration and "assimilation" imposed only on white countries so any partner of mine needs to be a normal white and not anti-white.Anti-racist is a codeword for anti-white

Please don't reproduce. The world's quota for assh*les has long been met.

I'm writing a movie script, and I can truly say that we movie writers write what we want - whatever sells.

Some movies show gastly opposites hooking up. In general, life and successful marriages don't work that way. Movies that show such material 'sell and make money' because of how ridiculous they are.

In conclusion, marry someone who has atleast some of the same interests as you, so you'll have things you can do together. But don't try to find a duplicate of you - you'll never find such a person.

My wife is the exact opposite of me in every way... It's been nine years all together since we've been together

Your marriage is a rare one, but keep up the good work of 'making it work.' Too many divorces out there.

Dating or friendship is one thing but normally dating leads to something more permanent. Usually when you are talking values and ideals, it is best to have someone like you in those areas. When it comes to activities, it is not always important to like to do the same thing. That is what friends are for or clubs, etc. Too often people do not share their spiritual beliefs which the very core of who you are so that is something that is very important. God to me is most important so if you are both quite different in your belief about Him then it is best to know up front. Opposites can be exciting but it often leads to too much conflict and does not last. Too often we let our heart rule our head and sometimes it is not that reliable. Emotions serve a purpose but are not meant to rule us. Balance in all things is key in a happy, successful life, but not that easy to attain.

I like having a person there to push me to try out new things.

I'd say you'd need it to be about 50/50. Have enough in common that you have something to agree on (Call of Duty games, sports, TV shows), but enough that you can still learn some things about each other (Modern Warfare 3 or Black Ops, baseball or football, My Little Pony or Naruto) without constantly going "OMG me too!" every time your significant other points out that he or she likes something.

I just give them a few dollars and move on weather they are like me or not it doesn't matter.

It helps to have some things in common. Especially culture.

If you date someone just like you it may make them less interesting leading you to get bored with them.
If you date someone completely opposite you will probably end up fighting a lot but not get bored.
Best thing is to find someone who whether they think differently or not is willing to accept you as you are and you accept their differences as well. That way things stay interesting yet without conflict.

On core issues must be the same. On insignificant things, you can be different. Example: They must be the same religion I am and be a vegetarian. On wether or not Italian food is both our favorites, not so important.

I think so. Not enough things in common gets old really fast in any relationship. Sure having someone unlike you is fun different but for how long? You're not going to find someone exaclty like you.
However, I think having more things in common and able to share each others interests or things to do, or go to places you both like, or even music, movies, or even video games. Compromise has a lot to do in relationships, if couples want to spend time together, and stay together.

I'm a pretty selfish person, I don't think I could stand to go out with someone like me. It would also get pretty boring if we did stuff that I do all the time if they like to do it as often as I do. As long as they like movies and don't mind my baking it's all good.

I thought dating opposites are the reason why they fight a lot, or break-up/divorce early. I'm thinking dating some just like you would mean a healthier relationship?

In most situations I would definately say yes!

Timothy

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more in common=better relationship

Opposites in Physical sense : Yes ... definitelyLol
Opposites in terms of values and interests: No!

I'm slim ... so I like girls with shapely, thick legs and thighs