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Once trust has been violated in any relationship due to cheating, can the relationship ever rekindle and be what it was before the infidelity.

Shady 2010/04/05 20:19:59
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  • Eddie 2010/04/05 20:21:25
    No, once trust is violated, what is left.
    Eddie
    +6
    Although it is possible to forgive the person...that trust will never be the same. And without full trust, a relationship will not work.

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  • Modest but real. Yah heard me? 2011/01/12 22:52:14
    We will work on it, and see what becomes of it.
    Modest but real. Yah heard me?
    +1
    When you take the trust out of the relationship by means of via cheating it can be reaffirmed. The trust that is, however you have a long road back and the relationship does not disentergrate because of but rather the doubt stays prevalent. The relationship can be even stronger because the partners arent allowing the deception to carry over but the magnitude of doubt is hovering , thats what kills it! The doubt ...............
  • clock 2010/05/06 01:58:52
    We will work on it, and see what becomes of it.
    clock
    +1
    my exwife cheated on me. I was totally willing to forgive and move on, but she just insisted on keeping it up and ending our love. After God told me things will be ok, do the separation...I finally stopped trying.
  • Shady clock 2010/05/06 12:56:43
    Shady
    Very touching, but you tried and that is all you can do. And when it is time to go it is time, bless you Micheal.
  • deadhead509 2010/04/07 20:12:18
  • Ducky 2010/04/07 02:59:40
    No, once trust is violated, what is left.
    Ducky
    +1
    Once my trust was violated i don't believe i would ever truly trust that person again. I don't think i could fully love them either. How could you? Knowing that person didn't think of you leaving before they thought of the current satisfaction and lust. If they loved me would't their love for me beat out their lust for someone else?
  • ☆°•BunnyBee•°☆ 2010/04/06 17:51:38
    Undecided
    ☆°•BunnyBee•°☆
    Its never the same once someone cheats...
  • Shady ☆°•Bunn... 2010/04/06 20:29:14
    Shady
    Nevah!
  • iLuVtOkIoHoTeL 2010/04/06 15:01:52
    No, once trust is violated, what is left.
    iLuVtOkIoHoTeL
    if they really loved u they wouldnt cheat anyway!!!!i would never forgive a cheater!!!!
  • peace seeker 2010/04/06 12:09:01
    No, once trust is violated, what is left.
    peace seeker
    +1
    the couples might forgive each other & give it a new chance but they will always suspect each other because trust is GONE
  • Shady peace s... 2010/04/06 12:25:51
    Shady
    +1
    Exactly, and it is hard to overcome that, the relationship may be 99% true, but there's that 1% through.
  • peace s... Shady 2010/04/06 16:19:42
    peace seeker
    +1
    yeah totally >>
  • LeAnn 2010/04/06 06:23:32
    We will work on it, and see what becomes of it.
    LeAnn
    depends on how he cheated. My boyfriend kissed four other girls (very small pecks). That's it. It sucked, but it's forgivable. We've been together almost three years and we are young. I think young people will usually make small mistakes like that. At our age, it's difficult to be 100% committed, I should think. I'm not going to throw an otherwise amazing relationship away for a few lapse of judgments, especially since the circumstances surrounding each of them were rather complicated. Now if he had sex with someone else...that's a different story. I'm not sure I would be so forgiving then.
  • Kiki 2010/04/06 03:49:50
    No, once trust is violated, what is left.
    Kiki
    I don't tolerate that and know for a fact I would never be able to trust the person anymore so whats the point
  • Adam Troy 2010/04/06 02:01:44
    No, once trust is violated, what is left.
    Adam Troy
    Hello:

    No! Never!. Once the cancer is removed, remission learks. Bye: Adam Troy
  • AnaBee<3 2010/04/05 22:55:21
    Undecided
    AnaBee<3
    I personally believe it's the situation. One guy cheated on me and I left him, another basically did the same and I stayed, Depends how much I love them if it's worth another try or not.
  • Isabel-Publius 2010/04/05 22:09:03
  • ashdragon88 2010/04/05 22:07:03
    No, once trust is violated, what is left.
    ashdragon88
    For me, no. Sorry once you have cheated on me you're gone, this ISN'T baseball and you DON'T get three strikes, after the first striker you're done.

    but i know people who stay with people who cheat and they are determined to make things work out.
  • JCD aka "biz" 2010/04/05 21:57:51
    We will work on it, and see what becomes of it.
    JCD aka "biz"
    Sex can be fine, shouldn't be taken too seriously. An occasional (short) affair is not "Armageddon", as the Republicans said about Obamavare.
  • molly 2010/04/05 21:57:24
    Undecided
    molly
    +1
    Hubby "cheated" with an internet thing. It took a long time to get back trust, but he's done nothing since.
    My friend though has been married for 9 years to a man who has cheated on her 3 times over their whole 11 year relationship(2x during the marriage, one producing a child). She's been determined to work it out every time. I don't know that I could. I'm not in that situation though.
  • Shady molly 2010/04/06 00:28:47 (edited)
    Shady
    +1
    Wow your friend must really love him, but the question is do he love her, my answer would have to be, nah! love don't hurt. and if you want to be with someone you do not keep running out on them, when you screw up the first time, you should take the second and third time to try to make it up.
  • Ann 2010/04/05 21:32:42
    We will work on it, and see what becomes of it.
    Ann
    There's always the chance that you can get through it. If you're married, then you really need to try and make it work. It starts with forgiveness. Trusting comes later.
  • Erica 2010/04/05 21:10:46
    Undecided
    Erica
    from experience: it hurts. but if you feel it anywhere inside of you.. its worth it to try again. even after getting that new i couldnt see it to break up with him.. that was never an option.. even as he lied about it. it still hurts, we both cried a lot and had to think about things. but next month will make 2 years and we are closer than ever.
  • Shady Erica 2010/04/06 00:33:48
    Shady
    Ah that is sweet, but will you really be able to trust him, I dealt with similar, I got to the point were didn't trust, or maybe I just didn't care, I was sceptible at first you know, the were are you going, and calling, then later he would just tell me were he was going, and inside I was like why are you telling me, I don't care, I believe in forgiveness and I did, but there is the human part of you that doesn't forget.
  • Erica Shady 2010/04/06 01:38:15
    Erica
    i havnt forgotten and i never will.. but our relationship is worth it. i trust him.. they look in his eyes, i know he is sincerely sorry
  • Shady Erica 2010/04/06 12:07:12 (edited)
    Shady
    And it is so real, for folk to mess up and regret what has happened, you know your partner better than anyone, and you really do feel trust, and if you have gotten to that level, that is really great and I wish you and your's the very best of the best. If you can't trust love, then love can't be trusted.
  • Erica Shady 2010/04/06 12:32:58
  • twothunders 2010/04/05 20:52:37
    No, once trust is violated, what is left.
    twothunders
    +1
    Forgiveness may come. You can always forgive. I am just not sure if you can ever regain that trust again
  • KKP 2010/04/05 20:46:04
    No, once trust is violated, what is left.
    KKP
    +2
    Cheating's the greatest sign that what once was can never be again.
  • Shady KKP 2010/04/05 20:47:56
    Shady
    +1
    sure is to me
  • kmay 2010/04/05 20:40:42 (edited)
    Undecided
    kmay
    +1
    God doesn't give up on me or lose trust in me when I am unfaithful to Him and sin. He keeps giving me another chance to change direction. It would be extremely difficult to trust a cheater however it may be possible. It would most likely depend on the variables of the circumstances that would be affecting my mindset at the time.
  • Shady kmay 2010/04/06 00:35:57
    Shady
    Yes God does forgives, but we are not God, we forgive because it is what we are suppose to do. But it is really hard to get pass a cheating person.
  • kmay Shady 2010/04/06 13:49:20
    kmay
    +1
    Yes, as I said it is the trust factor that is most difficult.
  • Some Guy ~ þhαετ~ 2010/04/05 20:35:32
    No, once trust is violated, what is left.
    Some Guy ~ þhαετ~
    +3
    What Eddie said. I can't think of a better way to put it.
  • Philo-Publius 2010/04/05 20:29:15
    Yes, it is always worth another try.
    Philo-Publius
    +3
    This is why all relationships should be open in the first place... the concept of 'cheating' wouldn't even arise, and no trust would ever be violated.

    We've gotta destroy these stupid egos... they're holding us back from realizing God-consciousness.
  • molly Philo-P... 2010/04/05 21:58:59
    molly
    +1
    Why get married then?
  • Philo-P... molly 2010/04/05 22:05:55
    Philo-Publius
    +1
    I think you just answered your own question. : )

    I agree.
  • molly Philo-P... 2010/04/05 22:08:34
    molly
    +1
    Personally, I love being married to my husband. I do see what you're saying though. It's just a hard concept to wrap your mind around.
  • Shady molly 2010/04/06 00:36:38
    Shady
    A person do not have to be married to cheat
  • molly Shady 2010/04/06 01:44:56
    molly
    +1
    No, absolutely. I agree. I was thinking in terms of marriage though. Once you are married, there are many legal and (we'll call them) moral obligations. It makes it a little more complicated. If you are simply living with someone, it is much easier to pick up and go (even if that is not the case emotionally).
  • Shady molly 2010/04/06 12:14:46
    Shady
    Very true, Molly, it hurt's either way, but you got to hold your head up and get on the good foot and roll out.

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