Nature vs Nurture: The "gay lisp"

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Nature vs Nurture: The "gay lisp"?

by MissKitty Posted March 31, 2007 00:36:44

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Do gay men have to acquire the gay lisp as part of the gay culture or do you think that it comes naturally to them?

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+5 raves Britty May 23, 2007 21:13:44

Answered: None of the above
All the gay guys i know don't have a lips
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GONE4GOOD March 27, 2009 03:48:37

Answered: None of the above
i am gay i do not have a "lisp". i pride myself on my enunciation of the king's english.
danielle May 06, 2008 00:10:23

Answered: This is a difficult one! I don't know!
im not sure which one to pick.
Meisha|Apocalypse™ April 27, 2008 20:12:42

Answered: None of the above
Straight guys have the "lisp". So talking like that has nothing to do with being gay.
Future Ms.Danger Jonas April 22, 2008 19:49:36

Answered: None of the above
i dont know
cheeky dog March 31, 2008 23:54:38

Answered: None of the above
what is this
kayla February 21, 2008 22:08:26

Answered: Nature: They are born with the lisp
i dont know but i guess
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Karl February 11, 2008 12:20:34

Answered: None of the above
Uh no. I only know one guy who actually lisps like that and he ain't gay. Neither me nor any of my gay mates lisp. (Some of them are pretty camp though).
Tinker [CrAzY twilight Girl] February 01, 2008 01:21:14

Answered: This is a difficult one! I don't know!
HI love ya!
JdK January 27, 2008 19:57:39

Answered: Nurture: They acquire the lisp
I definitely don't think that most are born with it. I actually know a couple of people who developed it after they came out. I think it's a cultural thing like you said.

good question!
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jeannypoo November 09, 2007 22:51:57

Answered: Nurture: They acquire the lisp
They are born with their sexuality, but the lisp that only a portion of the gay population has is acquired later. People talk differently. Part of it is what you hear and part of it is personality.
Paul October 18, 2007 16:53:12

Answered: Nurture: They acquire the lisp
This is the one aspect of gayness I don't understand. So you like guys....why talk like a girl then?

Some people probably develop the lisp because of growing up with a lot of feminine influence. You can definatley tell who the gay guys are that are purposely emphasizing the lisp to be noticed. I think it's obnoxious especially when you can tell it's fake.
jeannypoo to Paul November 09, 2007 22:54:25

Yeah, I know guys that fake it miserably for attention, but a friend of mine I think just developed it because he spends a lot of time around girls and he probably just picked it up from hearing them all the time.
JdK to jeannypoo January 27, 2008 19:48:31

do girls lisp?
jeannypoo to JdK February 07, 2008 20:31:48

Not really, but I the lisp is generally accompanied by higher pitch.
JdK to jeannypoo February 07, 2008 21:21:45

true
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Elizabeth October 16, 2007 23:18:26

Answered: This is a difficult one! I don't know!
A friend of mine is gay and he only seems to acquire the "gay lisp" when he's around other gay men. Maybe it's more nurture then nature???
lizzy September 13, 2007 00:19:05

Answered: This is a difficult one! I don't know!
Thats an excellent question! I want to ask my psych teacher that now.
Arleen September 02, 2007 00:24:03

Answered: None of the above
To thought it was stress related. who would choose to have a lisp-that's ludacris
Valkyries "In God We Trust" August 20, 2007 16:26:55 (edited)

Answered: Nurture: They acquire the lisp
LOL, Born with a Gay Lisp. Now that's funny.

Not all Homosexuals talk with a lisp. If they do, than they choose too.
Sister Jean July 08, 2007 02:00:56

Answered: None of the above
I have gay friends and none have lisps..I am confused !!!!???
<--That guy June 29, 2007 17:56:36

Answered: Nurture: They acquire the lisp
I'm pretty sure it's more of a nurture thing because not all gay men have a lisp. I think it's more of a cultural thing. That's like blaming genetics for black people using ebonics or white people talking with flat accents. It might seem common, but it's a stereotype because we all know that not everyone from a given group has the same accent. DNA only goes so far on its own.
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Regulus [99 - INSHALLAH] June 18, 2007 18:36:01

Answered: Nurture: They acquire the lisp
It is a choice to be gay. A choice to have a lisp.
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The Han... to Regulus... July 09, 2007 17:20:44

I think both are incorrect. Neither are choices. The choice is to deny yourself or not. forcibly train yourself to speak without a lisp or not.
GONE4GOOD to Regulus... March 27, 2009 03:55:07

do you choose to be hetrosexual because i don't remember ever being asked if i wanted to make that choice. no abuse, no neglect, no sneaky uncle in my past but i've known since i was nine which way i like my bread buttered.
dogg to GONE4GOOD November 14, 2009 04:23:52

Quit using butter you meal masher!!!
old woman June 01, 2007 19:51:02

Answered: Nurture: They acquire the lisp
My son doesn't have a lisp. He tells me they are what is called the flamboyant gays or flamers. Not all gays have it.
kryzco May 26, 2007 02:38:26

Answered: Nurture: They acquire the lisp
I know plenty that don't have it, and I know people who before they came out didn't have a lisp.
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Michael V May 23, 2007 22:25:21

Answered: None of the above
It’s hard to believe that I still get surprised at my age…but I do. For crying out loud….people are just people! Well, I guess there is the fringe that acts a little (or allot) “over the top”….but in all of my years I’ve known so many people that have “come out”! They’re just people! They aren’t too this or too that! Most of them you probably wouldn’t, or (probably more unnerving to some) don’t, know that anything is different.
Not all guys lisp and cook! Not all women are...whatever the “butch”stereotype thing is this week! I can’t believe that we’re still accepting the silly stereotypes!
People are just people! Some male football players and some beautiful female models are gay. Some are good, some are bad! And yes…God does Love us all! That’s why he sent his son! The gay thing….oh really...just get over it already!
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Marianne to Michael V May 24, 2007 05:02:44

woo go michael its your birthday lalala
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Orianne... to Michael V May 28, 2007 18:41:49

So true. I believe it to be time we discuss these issues openly, and the default opinion is that no group does this or that or the other, but an individual's rights and opinions be respected. I'm told the muslims are out to kill me, for example, and the colsest to this i have experienced (despite having been this > < close to the London bombings) was my good friend Nurgis offering me a cigarette!
Marianne to Orianne... May 28, 2007 21:07:44 (edited)

The lady that runs the daycare to which the kids I babysit go to, is muslim, and so is all of her family, and they're as nice as it comes. They're really peaceful people, always trying to help others.
Orianne... to Marianne June 11, 2007 18:31:41

Maximum shame be upon those who poison the reputation of any fine individual who tries, accepts, learns, integrates, and brings the differences between themselves and oneself to one as an interesting part of themselves that we can discuss openly with them and learn and evolve from! See my soon to come blog for a great example...
JdK to Michael V January 27, 2008 19:55:47

I don't think the question is stereotyping. I think it's a great question that the gay community could help us answer so we can understand more.

A lot of gay guys have a lisp. Not all, but a higher percentage than straight men. I'm curious because I don't think that the lisp really has anything to do with who you're "checking out."

I think it must be a cultural thing or at least a way to let the people around them know without walking around saying "I'm gay" every five seconds.
LPE May 23, 2007 22:04:15

Answered: Nurture: They acquire the lisp
Some gay men are sooo gay. I would have to go with nurture. I know plenty of gay guys that don't offer any of the stereotypical attributes.
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Cacheman May 23, 2007 21:42:18

Answered: Nurture: They acquire the lisp
to more easilky find other homos. it kinda like a duck calll
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Orianne... to Cacheman May 28, 2007 18:45:50

You'd never have picked the Deam of the Cathedral who married my parents then. He did many people much good with his spritual advice, but he happens to love a man. I respect him (even as a pagan) to bother guessing whether the relationship was physical or not. All i know is he spoke wisdom who meant much to a believer of a different type, and as long as he does the good he does, i care not about to whom his heart is given.
Cacheman to Orianne... May 29, 2007 22:12:10

Quack, Quack
Orianne... to Cacheman June 11, 2007 18:39:18

Eh? Do you mean if it looks like a duck and quacks like a duck, it's a duck, or are you just telling me off?
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Stephanie K May 23, 2007 21:21:32

Answered: None of the above
I did not know that they did this. I have gay guy freinds and they don't do that.
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Britty May 23, 2007 21:13:44

Answered: None of the above
All the gay guys i know don't have a lips