Moms Bullying Moms Online: Freedom Of Speech Or Just Plain Mean?
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2010/02/05 00:27:06
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Social networking has been a great way for moms to stay in contact with each other. Questions and concerns no longer have to be limited to a neighbor or a meeting in a grocery store. Of course, there is also a bad side to everything on the internet, and moms have fallen victim to it as well. It's called cyber-bullying.
Catherine Conners, a Toronto based blogger, frequently blogs about all things mommy related. She says that she has received many mean-spirited and rude comments.
"You don't have to see me at the schoolyard or playground or sit down to coffee with me, so you feel freer to express your disagreement as passionately as you like, without ... regard for my feelings," Conners said to ParentDish.com.
The problem of overzealous comments has always been issue with the internet, but does that mean that parents (who are much more mature) can resort to name calling and bullying as well?
Catherine Conners, a Toronto based blogger, frequently blogs about all things mommy related. She says that she has received many mean-spirited and rude comments.
"You don't have to see me at the schoolyard or playground or sit down to coffee with me, so you feel freer to express your disagreement as passionately as you like, without ... regard for my feelings," Conners said to ParentDish.com.
The problem of overzealous comments has always been issue with the internet, but does that mean that parents (who are much more mature) can resort to name calling and bullying as well?
Read More: http://www.parentdish.com/2010/02/04/when-moms-bul...
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Atticus Finch - IMNIT 2010/02/06 20:26:44We're free to express our opinions online or off, and moms are no different
+3Seriously, she should get a life. There is a chance that some of the people leaving nasty comments are just idiots posing as moms so that they have another place to be idiots. Since she is a mom she needs to grow up and learn to ignore online idiocy. It's not new, and it's not going to go away any time soon. It's true that the cyber-bullying mothers should be setting better examples for their own children, but just because someone is a parent does not necessarily make them more mature. People need to learn that if you express yourself publicly, you will always receive criticism, often very harsh criticism. The difference the internet makes is that it is easier for people to make those harsh comments directly to you, instead of just mumbling at a newspaper article or ranting at their TV set.
Freedom of speech is fine, but it doesn't mean people should say mean things. After all, moms are always fond of saying, "If you have nothing good to say, don't say anything." Because you can, doesn't mean you should.
LOL! Anyone who has ever attended a Little League game knows that is a completely false assumption!
However, like you said, everyone is different, and you cant expect everyone to behave rationally, we are humans after all. If you cant withstand vicious cruel, and pointless attacks, its best to not go online and post your opinions or ideas publicly. It's like getting into a boxing ring with a pro boxer when you cant take a punch.
If you come to a site like this one, you are going to see people trolling. Its just an aspect of the internet. Heck it's an aspect of life in general. It can be more intense online because the people trolling suffer no consequences most of the time. But it happens offline too, and you cant always just avoid it there.
If you can't stand up for yourself and shrug off undeserved and very harsh criticism your only other option is to be isolated and unkown. The only way you wont have anyone badmouthing you ever is to stay hidden, if they dont see you they wont target you.
Sometimes it ends up as a fight even if it doesn't seem like there's anything wrong or offensive with a comment.
Its an idea i stole from one of my friends XD
I'm going to change it several times a day from now on.
I think today is going to be all Face Shirts XD
I think it's horrible that adults bicker over things and insult others characters, especially when discussing parenting issues. They should act like adults and compare notes, not ridicule.
The moral here? Well, anytime you write something, ANYTHING, it will be analyzed and subjected to criticism. I kind of expect that anytime I write a blog or question anywhere on the internet.
That's a good point.
Otherwise, who cares? Mothering is apparently very subjective, but there ARE a lot of bad mothers, and no offense - actually, I do mean offense - those who have children are not very considerate of the state of the world. We ARE over-populated even if it looks like most families are financially stable. That's not the point. There is a bigger picture, and many, but not all, moms don't see it. This is the only real issue I have with mothers, except for the other issue of TV babysitting and making excuses like, but I'm tired I don't have time to be with my kids or blah blah blah... they had to have known it wouldn't be an easy job to have even one kidd. And honestly, raising a kidd IS a full time job, and a parent should be the child's biggest teacher! I think the reason we have so many ignorant people in the world is because we have so many ignorant parents!
And no, I wouldn't walk up to just any Mom on the street and start telling her all this, because I don't know her personal views. But when a mother states her ...
That's a good point.
Otherwise, who cares? Mothering is apparently very subjective, but there ARE a lot of bad mothers, and no offense - actually, I do mean offense - those who have children are not very considerate of the state of the world. We ARE over-populated even if it looks like most families are financially stable. That's not the point. There is a bigger picture, and many, but not all, moms don't see it. This is the only real issue I have with mothers, except for the other issue of TV babysitting and making excuses like, but I'm tired I don't have time to be with my kids or blah blah blah... they had to have known it wouldn't be an easy job to have even one kidd. And honestly, raising a kidd IS a full time job, and a parent should be the child's biggest teacher! I think the reason we have so many ignorant people in the world is because we have so many ignorant parents!
And no, I wouldn't walk up to just any Mom on the street and start telling her all this, because I don't know her personal views. But when a mother states her personal views online, just like any person stating any personal view, they are putting it up for judgment. So don't be so surprised. The only thing here is perhaps shock that you didn't know people actually do feel this way. Probably more people than you know, who you encounter everyday, find mothers to be of distaste.