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Men Opening Car Doors for Women: Cute or Cheesy?

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  • Kigan 2012/06/15 14:04:10 (edited)
    Cute
    Kigan
    +11
    I don't know about cute - Chivalrous, Gentlemanly, A nice thing to do.

    I'm 23, almost 24 years old. I was brought up to be kind and helpful for people - male or female, young or old - including holding doors. The car door doesn't happen often because they usually get to the door before I do.

    The problem is that you don't know what's going to happen. I'll use opening regular doors as an example.

    Men - generally say "thank you" and walk in. Never had one complain.

    Women - Never know. Sometimes they accept the gesture as what it is - being nice - say "thank you" and walk in. Other times they get offended and start in on the "I can open my own door!" type of thing.

    Feminists turned an issue of kindness and chivalry into equality. I still hold the door, and I've had older women say things like "Who says chivalry isn't dead?" when I do. I've also nearly had my head taken off by a banshee woman who thought I was making a statement on gender roles. I considered letting the door slam in her face, but I chose to continue holding it.

    Holding the door - for ANYONE - is a nice thing to do. Period.
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  • jackie nobiggov 2012/06/18 05:54:59
    jackie
    +1
    Amen.
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  • Scream nobiggov 2012/06/18 06:24:31
    Scream
    +1
    Which little girls should also be taught.
    Just saying.
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  • ellomotto 2012/06/18 05:11:22
    Cute
    ellomotto
    +1
    it's polite...I open doors for men
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  • Kirino 2012/06/18 05:09:55
  • Carlo 2012/06/18 05:07:34 (edited)
    Cute
    Carlo
    If you cant do that, what will you do? ;^)
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  • ☠megan_massacre☠ 2012/06/18 05:02:46
    Cute
    ☠megan_massacre☠
    +2
    I love when my boyfriend opens the door for me :)
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  • Miko Mikomiko 2012/06/18 04:59:26
    Cute
    Miko Mikomiko
    +2
    being a gentleman is an admirable quality
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  • cynsity 2012/06/18 04:55:06
    Cute
    cynsity
    +1
    I've been getting my door opened for me for the last 20+ years... both getting in and getting out... maybe that's teh secret to a lasting marriage
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  • aibohphobia 2012/06/18 04:52:00
    Cute
    aibohphobia
    +1
    I really think that it's a nice thing to do. If I was on a date, or had a girlfriend, I'd do it.
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  • Nimara 2012/06/18 04:43:05
    Cheesy
    Nimara
    +2
    Cheesy!!! I can open my own door, fool!
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  • Carlo Nimara 2012/06/18 05:31:50
    Carlo
    +1
    Us older men dont have that advantage of youth and the women we hang with seem to really appreciate it.
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  • Nimara Carlo 2012/06/19 02:17:57
    Nimara
    +1
    What are you talking about?
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  • Carlo Nimara 2012/06/19 02:46:40
    Carlo
    Whether a man should open a car door for a woman or not. Or did you mean something specific?
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  • Nimara Carlo 2012/06/19 16:31:18
    Nimara
    +1
    I was trying to figure out what you were talking about and I understand now.
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  • Carlo Nimara 2012/08/30 02:49:23
    Carlo
    We use what works best for our age demographics.
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  • devon.stearns.lautner 2012/06/18 04:30:36
    Cute
    devon.stearns.lautner
    +1
    its like the saying goes real men can wear pink!, But this would lovely actually its very well properly mannered and just being really kind.
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  • Theresa2000 2012/06/18 04:12:50
    Cute
    Theresa2000
    +1
    I appreciate a guy acting like a gentleman...even when it's cheesy, it's cute.
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  • Carlo Theresa... 2012/06/18 05:33:18
    Carlo
    Yep
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  • ~HopelessRomanticM17~ 2012/06/18 04:10:35
    Cute
    ~HopelessRomanticM17~
    +1
    If it's for a date or something it's charming

    If it's just two friends walking around and the guy insists on opening the door it's a little awkward. Excuse me, but I think I can open the door myself! XD
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  • Carlo ~Hopele... 2012/06/18 05:40:14 (edited)
    Carlo
    +1
    I would say the chivary thing if at all, extends mostly to signifigant others. Yeah it could be a little akward otherwise. Maybe thats to the death of such a gester as well. I will say though its akward if I dont open other doors for a woman or hold a door.
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  • ~Hopele... Carlo 2012/06/19 18:33:42
    ~HopelessRomanticM17~
    +1
    I have this guy friend who jumps into front of us when we get to the door so that he can open in for us....it's a little awkward XD
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  • Carlo ~Hopele... 2012/08/30 02:53:51 (edited)
    Carlo
    Thats probably because you are only 17, but somewhere that guy was taught it was the proper thing to do. He is right and you should thank him when he does. Also if im approaching a door at the same time as someone else I try and make the effort to open the door and hold it for them first. This way it prevents the akward molment of who is to go through first.
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  • James 2012/06/18 04:05:37
    Cute
    James
    +2
    I also say "Yes Ma'am, No Ma'am, Yes Sir, No Sir," but of course, this too is taken by some to be offensive! Especially women! They're always like "I am offended by ma'am, it makes me feel old!" I always have to take time to inform them it's how I was raised and that it is a sign of respect for the gender and is chivalrous as well.
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  • Carlo James 2012/08/30 03:01:51
    Carlo
    Yeah but that may be subjective as well, because when someone is young the reference to a sir or maam may make them feel old. It has me.
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  • James Carlo 2012/08/31 13:16:47
    James
    +1
    That too is confusing. Am I not supposed to show my elders respect since I'm young? Perhaps my elders need to relax and just accept that I am respectful of them! It's better than saying "yup, nope, screw off..." like so many of my generation do.
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  • Carlo James 2012/09/02 00:28:16
    Carlo
    Good point.
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  • Slurry 2012/06/18 04:03:21
    Cute
    Slurry
    +1
    Both cute and cheesy. It's nice and all, but women really should be able to open a car door for themselves aha.
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  • Brother Bo 2012/06/18 04:01:38
    Cute
    Brother Bo
    +2
    Not cute or cheezy. It is respect for your lady.
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  • TommyB 2012/06/18 04:00:10 (edited)
    Cute
    TommyB
    +2
    The right thing to do. Several years ago my wife dropped off a contract I needed. I didn't know it at the time but several of my co-workers watched as I walked her to the car. Two had a bet on whether I would open the door for her or not. Needless to say I opened the door much to one of our secretary's dismay.

    Edited for spelling
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  • Carlo TommyB 2012/08/30 03:08:35
    Carlo
    +1
    Tommy why do you put the reason for editing your statement. Is that to say you would "never" change something you wrote or add to it, but only for spelling errors?
    It just seems funny to me is all.
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  • TommyB Carlo 2012/08/30 05:02:36
    TommyB
    +1
    Other than for spelling I don't edit a comment that has been replied to or that has been raved. I don't feel that it is fair to the other party. Does that answer your question?
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  • Carlo TommyB 2012/09/02 00:29:53 (edited)
    Carlo
    Sure, but I would assume all edits would be immediate for the most part

    Or the reason for editing this I will add, What if you forgot a word?
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  • MOMMA THOMAS 2012/06/18 03:57:41
    Cute
    MOMMA THOMAS
    GENTLEMANLY..... GREAT GRANDMA
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  • Apache 2012/06/18 03:57:03
    Cute
    Apache
    +3
    Neither cute nor cheesy. I call it civilized.
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  • Mrs. Kathy Arch 2012/06/18 03:47:36
    Cute
    Mrs. Kathy Arch
    It's nice. I'll leave it at that.
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  • diana fuentes 2012/06/18 03:42:13
    Cute
    diana fuentes
    aww i think its cute and adorable:) even tho most men dont do that anymore its sad!!:)
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  • Sammi </3 2012/06/18 03:40:15
    Cute
    Sammi </3
    super cute!
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  • BreakingThrough 2012/06/18 03:33:55
    Cute
    BreakingThrough
    +2
    I love it when men hold open doors...it shows how mucha gentleman they are. But I do know women who hate this Ex. My grampa and I walking to the store. He open the door for a women in her twenties. She looks shocked and offended "I can open my own door!" And she continues to refuse to go through. My grampa...looks confused...the same look im wearing. I'm guessing she was a feminist or something...but my gramps was just trying to be polite...not trying "assert his manhood" I hold doors for people all the time...man or woman. I try to be polite...sorry if that bothers some people.
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  • Michelle 2012/06/18 03:22:21
    Cute
    Michelle
    +2
    "Cheesey" voter are either single men or jaded women. My husband still opens the door for me nearly every time we get in the car and it is a gesture of LOVE.
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  • CatX3 2012/06/18 03:21:42
    Cute
    CatX3
    +1
    Although , it's more polite than "cute",
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