Men Are More Attracted to Female Friends Than Women Are to Guy Friends: Have You Ever Been Attracted to a Friend?
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2012/05/07 19:36:27
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It's the age-old question: Can a man and a woman just be friends? A new study suggests that they can't -- at least as far as the guy is concerned. Men are more sexually interested in their female friends than their female friends are in them, LiveScience reports.
Not only are guys more likely to pine for their platonic female pals, but they're also more likely than gals to think their friends are romantically interested in them, too, even if they aren't. "Men over-infer women's sexual interest in a variety of contexts, and I definitely see that extending into the domain of cross-sex friendships as well," study researcher April Bleske-Rechek, a psychologist at the University of Wisconsin, Eau Claire, told LiveScience.
However, being attracted to your BFF isn't always such pleasant experience (as many of us have learned the hard way). Study participants were much more likely to list attraction as a "cost" rather than a benefit of their opposite-sex friendship (though men were less likely to see it this way than women).
What do you think? Is being attracted to your friend a recipe for disaster? Or could it possibly lead to love?
However, being attracted to your BFF isn't always such pleasant experience (as many of us have learned the hard way). Study participants were much more likely to list attraction as a "cost" rather than a benefit of their opposite-sex friendship (though men were less likely to see it this way than women).
What do you think? Is being attracted to your friend a recipe for disaster? Or could it possibly lead to love?
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Yankee Traveler 2012/05/07 20:55:23
But I'm not necessarily surprised by this finding because I believe men to be more likely to imagine sex with a female friend in a casual way than vice versa. Saying men are more "attracted" to female friends I think means men are only more likely to have sex with friends than women are and I'm not so sure "attraction" is the word for that, though I'm not sure there's a better word for it.
Greg P.
All of these require the level of trust and empathy which can only be achieved by people who regard one another as friends... So the view that one cannot engage in romantic relationships with people and still hold friendships with them, or hold friendships with one they have romantic designs for, leads to the the status of men who cannot form strong emotional attachments or feelings of trust towards women they have sexual relationships or designs towards(also known as the Madonna-Whore Complex) which leads invariably to the man either having no trust or respect with his wives, or feeling self-loathingly guilty about the fact that his marriage has sex involved in it; on the other hand, it leads to women who subject themselves to poor match after poor match(sometimes as succession of abusive partners), after having permenantly ostracised their compatible matches to the "friend zone," or it may lead to them cheating on their spouses because they marry someone they trust but do not get off to someone they trust.
If it's someone you just talk to every now and then online or off line or hang out once in a while, the friendship can be there and that be the end of it. Or some people will make the person out to be more in their head to fill whatever void they have within themselves.
Guys I have been "friends" with, I ended up knowing too much about them to be attracted to them any other way. Current New Guy Friend is a gambling addict. Fun to be around here and there but otherwise annoying. Other guy-friend is the guy I dated in highschool and never slept with.. I know way too much about him and everything I know makes me cringe.
This is interesting because I wonder what incentive a guy who wants to be your boyfriend has in telling you the entire truth about who he is or what he's done. Chances are every man you are attracted to (and man that is attracted to you) has a less than stellar record concerning love, sex and relationships. So if knowing "too much" about a guy turns you off, it sounds like he should remain "hidden" to some extent from you to preserve the attraction.
Greg P.