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Men Are More Attracted to Female Friends Than Women Are to Guy Friends: Have You Ever Been Attracted to a Friend?

Living 2012/05/07 19:36:27
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It's the age-old question: Can a man and a woman just be friends? A new study suggests that they can't -- at least as far as the guy is concerned. Men are more sexually interested in their female friends than their female friends are in them, LiveScience reports.



Not only are guys more likely to pine for their platonic female pals, but they're also more likely than gals to think their friends are romantically interested in them, too, even if they aren't. "Men over-infer women's sexual interest in a variety of contexts, and I definitely see that extending into the domain of cross-sex friendships as well," study researcher April Bleske-Rechek, a psychologist at the University of Wisconsin, Eau Claire, told LiveScience.

However, being attracted to your BFF isn't always such pleasant experience (as many of us have learned the hard way). Study participants were much more likely to list attraction as a "cost" rather than a benefit of their opposite-sex friendship (though men were less likely to see it this way than women).

What do you think? Is being attracted to your friend a recipe for disaster? Or could it possibly lead to love?



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  • E Dawg 2012/05/08 03:34:57
    Yes
    E Dawg
    Hmm. Thought provoking. Guys are attracted to all beautiful women, friends or not. We also prefer to be friends with pretty women, all things being equal. Want to sleep with most of them, but not all. Just keeping it real. If I'm not hanging out with my family or my woman (when I'm not single), I'd rather spend time with women I'm attracted to (that I may or may not have any chance of sleeping with) or guy friends. Kinda sucks to be an ugly woman...
  • Mandy E Dawg 2012/05/08 13:02:43
    Mandy
    +1
    That actually makes me feel good about myself because the majority of my friends in college were guys and even now that I'm married, I get along with guys much better than I do with women. It's nice to know they probably don't think I'm ugly.
  • JCLadybug 2012/05/08 03:31:28
    Yes
    JCLadybug
    Sure. I was most of my male friends in high school and several in college. I also recognized that I had a boyfriend (now husband) in college, and while they were good friends, they wouldn't be good boyfriends (for me) and really attraction is often just that and only that. No reason to act on it if you have something better or know that they are better as a friend. I bet it works out for some, but many of these things are one-sided. Lastly, sometimes attraction is only b/c you are good friends, people create something that was never there.
  • Deactivated 2012/05/08 03:14:27
    Yes
    Deactivated
    I'm always attracted to my friends...who r guys....bad habit
  • Alex 2012/05/08 03:13:26
    Yes
    Alex
    Yep, and it unfortunately didn't end how I wanted it too. However, despite that happening quite a long time ago, we are still good friends to this day.
  • MOMMA THOMAS 2012/05/08 03:02:43
    No
    MOMMA THOMAS
    I HAD MORE MALE FRIENDS WHEN I WAS YOUNGER, AND REALLY LIKED THEM. NOW THAT I'M MUCH OLDER, I STILL HAVE GREAT MALE FRIENDS..... AND SOME VERY SWEET FEMALE FRIENDS AS WELL. THEY'VE ALL BEEN OUR (HUSBAND'S AND MINE) MORE THAN 40 YEARS... GREAT GRANDMA
  • Steve King 2012/05/08 02:52:28
    Yes
    Steve King
    +1
    Then I found out why she is single. She is annoying and has Daddy issues.
  • Anna 2012/05/08 02:51:36
    Yes
    Anna
    +1
    I've got a few very attractive guy friends, one of whom seems to be a heartthrob for half the girls in the school(and for many good reasons). I've no romantic interests in him, I just enjoy the view when talking to him.
  • XCloudPandaX 2012/05/08 02:51:26
    Yes
    XCloudPandaX
    ...then i find out he likes another girl...T^T
  • luke 2012/05/08 02:50:23
    Yes
    luke
    Yes, but I never pursued her.
  • birdie1224 2012/05/08 02:45:17
    Yes
    birdie1224
    I was attracted to a male friend in 6th grade
  • VenomHalos 2012/05/08 02:40:30
    Yes
    VenomHalos
    Not to a male friend, but yes.
  • Silversnake 2012/05/08 02:27:43
    No
    Silversnake
    Not to a female friend anyway...
  • kitkat42 2012/05/08 02:25:48
    Yes
    kitkat42
    Yes.
  • BlackwinterG36C 2012/05/08 02:18:05
    Yes
    BlackwinterG36C
    +1
    Happens all the time.
  • alex 2012/05/08 02:17:41
    Yes
    alex
    +1
    He liked me too, but turned out gay. Were still best friends.
  • BreakingThrough 2012/05/08 02:12:39
    Yes
    BreakingThrough
    +1
    Yes, I was very young and it was a crush. I haven't had a lot of guy friends since them for some reason. I'm not easy to give my trust to guys because of the things that have been plowed itno my brain by my friends and family. Most of which aren't even true. :/
  • mike j 2012/05/08 02:12:04
    No
    mike j
    +4
    What a great teen magazine question
  • XRenX 2012/05/08 01:46:31 (edited)
  • joshua ben-ami 2012/05/08 01:42:06
    Yes
    joshua ben-ami
    Sure many female friendships evolve into and out of physical activities, balance in all we do and how we treat others can make either state acceptable....
  • Jayfeather 2012/05/08 01:41:29
    Yes
    Jayfeather
    Miserable, that was.
  • xavier 2012/05/08 01:37:55
    No
    xavier
    +1
    Yes and no I understand it but its not all true
  • Jessica 2012/05/08 01:23:04
    Yes
    Jessica
    im attracted to a boy named jacob in my class he likes me too though he should ask me out already its only 3 more weeks he needs some addvice
  • Bunk11 Jessica 2012/05/08 01:47:26
    Bunk11
    +1
    Why wait? Why don't you ask him out?
  • Alex Bunk11 2012/05/08 03:08:21
    Alex
    Because it's not how society wants it! lol. But I concur with you.
  • JCLadybug Alex 2012/05/08 03:17:44
    JCLadybug
    Just ask the boy out....I had to do all the asking (rather shyly I might add) for my husband b/c he is very shy. I tease him about it to this day.
  • Alex JCLadybug 2012/05/08 03:26:29
    Alex
    Hah, sounds like me (referring to your husband).
  • JCLadybug Alex 2012/05/08 03:53:35
    JCLadybug
    +1
    Yes he has made me reinterpret people who are quiet. I'm not overly bold...but I am talkative so I guess I talked enough to keep it going until I asked him out. I believe our horrible excuse was to compare textbooks (b/c we happened to both be taking chemistry and the class was switching textbooks). I am actually a chemist (he isn't) but I still find the class choice funny to this day.
  • Alex JCLadybug 2012/05/08 04:19:00
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  • Muriel 2012/05/08 01:01:25
    Yes
    Muriel
    Along life's path I have been attracted to men and women. We were friends. Nothing more. I believe you can be happily married but still attracted to others. The difference is some act on that attraction, others don't.
  • Daryl 2012/05/08 00:55:22
    No
    Daryl
    +2
    No such thing as male-female friends to men. I bet a woman wrote this.
  • Rave Daryl 2012/05/08 05:38:14
    Rave
    +2
    Sure there are, my best friend since childhood has been male his whole life and last I checked I was a female. And we're friends.
  • Daryl Rave 2012/05/08 22:48:14 (edited)
    Daryl
    You prove me right.
  • Rave Daryl 2012/05/09 07:25:27
    Rave
    +1
    If you were right, I've been without a friend majority of my life. Since I had a hard time getting along with other girls growing up.
  • Daryl Rave 2012/05/09 15:23:46 (edited)
    Daryl
    You don't see it do you?

    To a woman, a male 'friend' makes sense. Very few straight men keep platonic female friends with no prospect of intercourse.

    Sorry but you do not understand the male mind.
  • Rave Daryl 2012/05/10 11:11:35
    Rave
    I understand that many men feel that way, but no that's too simplistic. And considering I had mostly male friends at the age of 7.

    Also most my male friends have had girlfriends on and off, but spent time with me without any intention of cheating obviously.

    And I've also been attracted to a male friend of mine before but got "friend-zoned" so to say, even though we had a lot in common, because he was more interested in someone else.

    I think that rule applies to many girls and their guy friends, but when it comes to my friendships with men, they've always been a bit of an exception. Probably because I grew up with guy friends, they've seen me more of "one of them" rather than someone they are trying to sleep with.

    I always get the "you're like a sister to me" treatment more, and I view most my male friends as brother types too.
  • Daryl Rave 2012/05/11 15:53:36
    Daryl
    Age of 7?

    C'mon.
  • Vision of Verve 2012/05/08 00:52:53 (edited)
  • MrFabulous47 2012/05/08 00:46:17
    Yes
    MrFabulous47
    Yes, many times when I was younger and too afraid to act on it.

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