Men Are More Attracted to Female Friends Than Women Are to Guy Friends: Have You Ever Been Attracted to a Friend?

Living 2012/05/07 19:36:27
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It's the age-old question: Can a man and a woman just be friends? A new study suggests that they can't -- at least as far as the guy is concerned. Men are more sexually interested in their female friends than their female friends are in them, LiveScience reports.

Not only are guys more likely to pine for their platonic female pals, but they're also more likely than gals to think their friends are romantically interested in them, too, even if they aren't. "Men over-infer women's sexual interest in a variety of contexts, and I definitely see that extending into the domain of cross-sex friendships as well," study researcher April Bleske-Rechek, a psychologist at the University of Wisconsin, Eau Claire, told LiveScience.

However, being attracted to your BFF isn't always such pleasant experience (as many of us have learned the hard way). Study participants were much more likely to list attraction as a "cost" rather than a benefit of their opposite-sex friendship (though men were less likely to see it this way than women).

What do you think? Is being attracted to your friend a recipe for disaster? Or could it possibly lead to love?

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  • kelsie gilson 2014/04/19 20:38:12
    kelsie gilson
    yep in my past I did
  • strongerthenb4 2012/08/18 17:32:29
    i've had a lot of my guy friends confess to having feelings for me..from there on it goes down hill,what i like to do now is get them to date my other friends so we could still have a normal friendship.
  • RyoXander 2012/06/04 01:23:02
    i did.but it will never happens..i mean ..the LOVE .. =.=
  • Nakia Douglas 2012/05/14 21:58:06
    Nakia Douglas
    His name was kollin I liked him in the 7th grade and he was so cute and my bestfriend now I feel I should have made him my boyfriend before it was to late
  • Kitty Kat 'CARROT' 2012/05/12 12:43:43
    Kitty Kat 'CARROT'
    i've been attracted to my friend's friend
  • NinjaRebecca 2012/05/10 01:27:41
    I don't really have guy friends...but I had a thing with my guy cousin. We were in love and had sex and stuff do now I'm his baby mama haha
  • gaines.... NinjaRe... 2012/05/13 15:31:51
    Big mistake!! Now your kid may wonder if they should do the same thing because you did?
  • M girl 2012/05/09 10:12:12
    M girl
    Plenty of times happened to me quite recently but he just wants to be friends :/
  • Marcus Clark 2012/05/09 00:27:20
    Marcus Clark
    Yes, I've been attracted to a female friend (romantically) a couple of times. Once it led to marriage. I've also had a number of (very attractive) female friends that I have not personally been romantically attracted to.
  • Barbara Hasler 2012/05/08 22:54:06
    Barbara Hasler
    I can only speak for myself. I have a group of equal numbers of men and women friends. For good and interesting conversations, I will have to state that I pick the men. There is no flirtations as such, just good conversation. My women friends are the ones that come together to console or encourage each other. I will add that I am a sports nut and will watch any sport there is!! I can hardly wait for the summer Olympics to start on July 27th! LOL
  • katywon 2012/05/08 20:13:15
    I agree with the study. It is up to the woman to keep the situation from becoming more than friends. In a long long life it is almost impossible for the men to stay just friends. Seen it many times.
  • afro.ninja.rockstar 2012/05/08 19:20:43
    hasn't everyone?
  • Morgan 2012/05/08 18:56:39
    yes...yes i have been
  • lucifer 2012/05/08 18:46:22
    there is no true relationship without friendship..........
  • pretty girl<3 2012/05/08 18:29:56
    pretty girl<3
    some1 on sh:)
  • Howard 2012/05/08 18:07:21
    Friendship is how you find 'the one' -- eventually.
  • laRonde 2012/05/08 17:50:16
    Lots of them, that's why I befriended them
  • Jeremy Villa 2012/05/08 17:27:30
    Jeremy Villa
    Then headline was confusing to me at first. Then i read it again. My answer is no, at least not yet.headline confusing read answerheadline confusing read answer
  • Missile 2012/05/08 17:10:49
    My best friend is male, we have been friends for 25 years, he is like the brother I wish I could have had, nothing more, nothing less. Attraction has never been an issue, we are both happily married to other people. Iam sure Iam not the only person who is lucky enough to have this.
  • mm61675 2012/05/08 16:27:17
    I'm going to marry my best friend
  • FatherLiberty 2012/05/08 15:59:52
    friends with benefits. If you are not attracted to them, it wouldnt be called a benefit.
  • Rick 2012/05/08 15:58:49
    Yes. But I don't think that's true. I found it to be the other way around.
  • Soms Cougli 2012/05/08 15:53:49
    Soms Cougli
    My best friend was, and still is, my childhood sweetheart. Unfortunately we've fallen out with each other now, and no longer talk, though I often think I mistake attraction for appreciation.
  • Scooter 2012/05/08 15:52:35
    Yes I have been before. Usually a recipe for disaster...
  • johnnyg 2012/05/08 15:50:35
    I had to beg her for years before she slept with me. LOL
  • Ben 2012/05/08 15:35:15
    I find this VEEEERRRYYYYY hard to believe.
  • mk, Smartass Oracle 2012/05/08 15:24:31
  • 24FilmProStudio 2012/05/08 15:20:09
    I wouldn't really try to be friends with them if I was sexually attracted to them.
  • Jenna ☮♡ッ 2012/05/08 15:15:49
    Jenna ☮♡ッ
    I think that report is a bunch of bs...I've been attracted to many of my male friends! And I have plenty of female friends who dealt with the same thing. I think a lot of the women that were questioned were in denial about it or something.
  • jacktown kid 2012/05/08 15:05:39
    jacktown kid
    we are
  • Bigbrowneyes 2012/05/08 14:57:05
    Maybe the women are just denying it...When I separated from my boyfriend a while ago, I dated my friends, not strangers.
  • Aksana 2012/05/08 14:50:21
    Yes and now he's my bf
  • gnice123 2012/05/08 14:49:21 (edited)
    I meant to put "yes"

    But I'm not necessarily surprised by this finding because I believe men to be more likely to imagine sex with a female friend in a casual way than vice versa. Saying men are more "attracted" to female friends I think means men are only more likely to have sex with friends than women are and I'm not so sure "attraction" is the word for that, though I'm not sure there's a better word for it.

    Greg P.
  • Coffeenoir 2012/05/08 14:46:34
    Yes, and we have been together for almost 27 years.
  • Andy 2012/05/08 14:39:37
    She is now my wife!!
  • Mog of War 2012/05/08 14:38:18
    Mog of War
    Of course the infectious meme that one must keep the the "friend-zone" a permanent state is probably a major part of failed marriages. A successful marriage is built on trust, commitment, willingness to forgive transgressions and work through adversity, a sound, joint financial plan which benefits all parties involved, and incredibly awesome sex.

    All of these require the level of trust and empathy which can only be achieved by people who regard one another as friends... So the view that one cannot engage in romantic relationships with people and still hold friendships with them, or hold friendships with one they have romantic designs for, leads to the the status of men who cannot form strong emotional attachments or feelings of trust towards women they have sexual relationships or designs towards(also known as the Madonna-Whore Complex) which leads invariably to the man either having no trust or respect with his wives, or feeling self-loathingly guilty about the fact that his marriage has sex involved in it; on the other hand, it leads to women who subject themselves to poor match after poor match(sometimes as succession of abusive partners), after having permenantly ostracised their compatible matches to the "friend zone," or it may lead to them cheating on their spouses because they marry someone they trust but do not get off to someone they trust.
  • Lonna121593 2012/05/08 14:36:05
    one of my best friends is my ex lol and my former best friend is now my fiance XD
  • Green Living Guy 2012/05/08 14:21:11
    Hey!! Never did anything but you asked me to be honest!
  • smitty 2012/05/08 14:19:33
    Oh yeah.
  • Jess 2012/05/08 14:18:48 (edited)
    I think to be attracted to a guy friend, it would depend on the level of the friendship. If it's someone you tell all your problems too and run to when you need something, you're basically using him as a boyfriend replacement so naturally the feelings would change.

    If it's someone you just talk to every now and then online or off line or hang out once in a while, the friendship can be there and that be the end of it. Or some people will make the person out to be more in their head to fill whatever void they have within themselves.

    Guys I have been "friends" with, I ended up knowing too much about them to be attracted to them any other way. Current New Guy Friend is a gambling addict. Fun to be around here and there but otherwise annoying. Other guy-friend is the guy I dated in highschool and never slept with.. I know way too much about him and everything I know makes me cringe.
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