Marc Jacobs Hasn’t Spoken to His Immediate Family in 20 Years: Understandable or Awful?
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2011/12/19 22:10:44
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In a recent interview with Vogue, fashion designer Marc Jacobs admitted that he hasn’t seen or spoken to his immediate family members, his mother, younger brother, or younger sister, in 20 years. In the past, Jacobs has told reporters that his mother is mentally ill and did not take good care of her children, one of the reasons he left home to go live with his grandmother when he was a teenager. Jacobs’s father died when Marc was six-years-old.
Jacobs insists that it’s not “a sad situation,” with his family, but that they just don’t “get along very well.” When questioned further, he revealed that he rejects society’s traditional attitude toward familial affection.
“I hate this idea that you have to love somebody because they are your family,” he said. “Nobody can tell me what I’m supposed to feel and who I am supposed to feel it for. I don’t blame them, I don’t hate them, I just know that I don’t feel love for them. That’s all. And I am not going to make the call or try to stay in touch because society says, But it’s your mother. Oedipus, Schmoedipus.”
And according to the Vogue writer, Jacobs seems to have made a family for himself among his closest friends. Some people admire Jacobs for his unrelenting authenticity and his refusal to force emotion. Others, however, believe that someday he’ll regret his attitude towards his family.
What do you think? Is it understandable or awful that Marc Jacobs hasn’t seen or spoken to his immediate family members in 20 years?
Read More: http://www.vogue.com/magazine/article/marc-jacobs-...
Top Opinion
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Redskin 2011/12/20 01:16:45
I understand how Marc Jacobs feels. Do you? Can you?
I have to come to grips with the fact that while I love them, it's ok for me not to feel guilty about the fact that their constant negativity and drama are toxic, and as such, they are not people I like to be or want to be around often.
Love and respect are earned, not entitled..
Guilt trips only work for those that want to jump on board and take that ride.. As for me, thanks, but no thanks. I'll walk.
Merry Christmas handsome!!
Not all families are good families and not all families are worth keeping together.
Saying someone has a "mental illness" is a BLANKET statement and can mean lots of things nowadays. Sometimes it means someone has debilitating depression where they are in bed or in the hospital and on meds. Other times it means, 'since you don't agree with me so you must be mental!' I tend to think it's the latter one.
It couldn't have been that bad if all the children were not removed by authorities or left on their own--and are still in a relationship. How is it he's the only one that left--in his teens. If he hasn't spoken to his immediate family for 20 years, that kind of tells you it's HIS issue--not theirs.
He hasn't mentioned sexual abuse or anything else, so don't read things into this that aren't there.
I tell you this, I don't give two rats @ss's about this guy, but if all he can say is that he "doesn't blame" them and "doesn't hate" them and that he "doesn't feel love" for them, then he doesn't even know them. In these last 20 years he didn't take one chance to see if things have become worse or better and rebuild his relationship...
My bet is that if he ever has a family of his own he won't "love" them or "blame" them or "hate" them when they leave because he just doesn't "CARE" about anyone but himself.