LIVING: Are Single Mothers Raising Daughters to Remain Single?
- 2010/05/07 17:29:14
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Do women raising girls on their own unwittingly set those girls on a path toward spinsterhood?
CNN writer Audrey Irvine ruffled some feathers on Thursday when she offered this controversial theory: Women who bring up daughters on their own tend to urge those girls to be “independent” and “self-sufficient.” These are good qualities, of course … but are they also code words for not ever leaning on a man, even for emotional support?
While Irvine specifically discusses the plight of black women -- a recent Yale study found that 42 percent of African-American women are unmarried, compared with 23 percent of white women -- her theory can apply to anyone.
Irvine also observes that women who are bitter from divorce or bereavement may make disparaging comments about men that encourage girls to go it alone.
WATCH single mom, Nadya Suleman (aka the Octomom) looks for Valentine's date.
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sheesh -& pray tell what is WRONG with being independent & not Having to lean on anyone?
WHY do people STILL in this so called modern day and age have such Prehistoric attitudes - woman do NOT need to be emotionally or physically dependant on some guy to survive...
sheeeeessshhh!
Having a husband helps so much emotionally. Honestly, I would shrivel up in a little ball and die if it were not for my husband. I am emotionally dependent on him, as he is for me, a really healthy co-dependency, where we can just tell emotionally, what's wrong with each-other or what makes each of us happy..... It's just so comforting knowing that you have someone to share everything with, who will not judge you, no matter what. We're financially independent of each other, though. I think it's so important to be able to make your own money, so you won't lose your sense of self.
One day, you'll find someone who thinks you hung the moon.
For some people it is a necessity.
too many civilizations have been built on that incorrect premise. the sad thing is for most of the time, most women have bought into it.
I would Never prefer to be without my loving dh, but i was a whole human before i knew him - thats what most forget they need to be FIRST.
have a lovely day & if appropriate a wonderful mothers day ;)
Happy mother's day to you too!
Everyone should be encouraged to find out how much emotional investment they can put in a partner before it's unhealthy.
As for finances, I think every couple, absolutely every couple, even those guys who have been together 50 years, needs a little something his/her partner does not know about. Whether it's runaway money or a secret stash for a birthday present, it does not matter. Complete financial dependency is hardly healthy, in fact it may very well strain the relationship.
A single, childless woman can make as much as a single, childless man. Any single parent (male or female) will probably have financial issues because raising children is not easy in one income.
So mothers teaching their daughters to be single are NOT leading them towards the poverty associated with being a single parent unless they also keep stressing they want grandchildren or don't stress the responsibilities of sex enough.
I have taught BOTH my daughters and son to be independent.
I have BOTH male and female friends that I lean on. So do my children.
So, yes! Every family is different!