Ladies, would you forgive a man who hit you and take him back?

Hi my good friend Missile ! How are you feeling today ? I miss talking to you.
It's been awhile. How are your beautiful dogs doing ? I hope they are well and happy !
I love border collies ! Thanks for agreeing with me here. Physical abuse is so prevalent and we have to pray for those that are a victim of circumstance at the hands of these abusers. :)

Hi my friend, all well with me and the hairy kids. You answered this question so well. Hope you are keeping well

Awww, isn't that so sweet of you ! Thanks a million my dear friend.
Too bad we live so far apart . It seems like the perfect day to take those beautiful ' furkids ' for a run and share a cup of tea and a good laugh.
I am well and thanks for your vote of confidence in me ! I appreciate that so
much my friend. :) Love ya sis <3

Right back at ya my friend... X

Thanks girlfriend ! Enjoy your day ! :))

Great Answer!! My feelings exactly. I get so upset when someone says " I made them hit me" !!! So so very wrong. If someone hits someone than it is the Hitter all the way! When will people learn that your actions are your responsibility and only yours!!
Have a great day Lady blue!

Hey Alan, thanks a million for that and I really appreciate your support !
So well said my friend and I agree with your every word ! No one is to blame for being physically assaulted and stripped of their dignity because of abuse of this kind especially a woman because most women don't know the first thing about defending themselves and are much more fragile than a man. It takes a real coward to strike a woman. There is no justifying this kind of ruthless behavior. And yes abusers are responsible for what they do not their poor innocent victims. Thanks Alan, you have a beautiful day ! Thanks for the raves and it was great seeing you again my friend. :))

You are very welcome! I hope our answers help someone with this issue.
Have a Blessed Day!

Hey Alan, I hope our opinions reach other people and help them too !
Thank you and God bless you :))

I might forgive, but I wouldn't be with a man who is abusive.

Never

is the advice I'd give, rare is that a man only strikes once, I am honored to see so many women with their head on straight, and empathetic to those who have learned the hard way.

You ladies are awesome!!! Peace

Right you are! If he does it once, guaranteed he'll do it again. No question about it, no matter how many crocodile tears he sheds.

It depends on if he sincerely apologized or not...and how hard he hit me. I understand everyone loses their temper sometimes and can't control their actions. If he was really, truly sorry and it was an accident I would forgive him. :s

If a man ( or woman) can't control their actions, they don't get to live with civilized people. Read this thread....most women say no or no way. Statistics are if a person hits you once, they will continue. It's called uncontrolled anger. Leave.

If they hit me more than once I would leave. I said if they hit me one time on accident or something I would forgive them. Besides, it's my life and my choices. I don't have to do what everyone else does. -_-

No you don't have to do anything. The abusers like that.

*sigh* Why do I even bother on here sometimes...? -_-

I know. Good advice is often ignored by those who are in a situation.

I get it. Just forget what I said. -_- Relationships are stupid anyway. I'm never getting into one.

You are right...your choice
Stupid choice, but your choice.

Just drop it already. :/ I'm not even getting into a relationship.

B.S. People CAN control their temper.

Yes, they can control their anger. They are just bullies who don't want to control their anger and only want to CONTROL others.

Maybe I misunderstood the question or something...now I've got everyone on this site on my butt again. :s

I don't want to be on your butt. I worked helping women get out of abusive relationships. I just want you to understand the danger in your thinking. If you don't need the advice, put it on a shelf for someone else.

Yeah, well, I don't plan on being in any relationship anyway...

I do believe there's good in everyone though...and that people change...I guess I'm just too forgiving and nice.

Exactly.

Sometimes they can't...it just happens. You've never done something like that when you were really angry? Like yelled at someone and then regretted it later?

Yelled is different. I have a terrible temper and have said things in anger I regretted. I have NEVER struck someone that I loved in anger. I will take a walk or a nice warm shower, or find something to do till I cool off.

Yeah, I get what you mean. :/

Not Just a Slip or Momentary Indiscretion

It goes way deeper than "slipping" -- it's paradigmatic and more entrenched in a person's psyche, and often within our culture or families, than most imagine. It's not an aberration, it's the tip of an iceberg. This is why the cycle of abuse almost always escalates over time, often even with counseling. Not always but way too often...

Here the power wheels are introduced, along with the concepts behind them: http://sari0009.xanga.com/559...

Section II of this page gets into the power wheels again. Unfortunately, many of the links I listed are now defunct. (Common with some of the best abuse links for some dumb reason, the economy I think.Links started going bad at a much more rapid pace once the economic crisis hit.): http://sari0009.xanga.com/378...

Okay? I guess I just misunderstood the question. -_-

"If it were an accident I would forgive him."
How in the world does one get accidentally hit and abused.
Just to let you know, the line that many abusers use is "I'm sorry, it won't happen again."
They will say and do WHATEVER is necessary to get back with you. It's known as "The Honeymoon" stage.
Ask yourself this. Would a person who is abusive to you, get abusive with someone who will kick their butt?? Usually the answer is no. An abuser does not want to be abused themselves.

Maybe he was stretching and he hit me in the face. xD

My Kindred Sister you Deserve someone who loves and Respects you and never puts thier hands on you in a violent way

it is NEVER your fault Dont let him try to Convince you that its your fault

:) Thank you.

Blessed be.

I some times Argue with my Girlfriend
never once have i hit her or make a threatening motion to hit her or made a fist or thrown anything at her or had a thought of wanting to hurt her

I love her and She loves me and IF you Truly love someone you never would hit them

We all argue and disagree DAW. But, I am so glad that you don't believe like some other men do. I know not all men are bad. I was raised with 6 brothers.

Well Said.