Ladies, would you forgive a man who hit you and take him back?

Based on WHAT?????
I've worked with the abused as well as abusers & the men who have been physically assaulted by a woman are rarely injured severely, or at all & in MOST cases just walk away from the relationship.
Women, for whatever reason, stay & when they are abused they often require medical attention & many are killed by their significant other.
It is absolute B/S to say that men are abused just as much as n even without addressing the power imbalance between men & women!

Abuse should not be excused due to gender. Abuse is still abuse. If a man is being abused he needs to walk away.

Walking away isn't easy, this I know. Right now my daughter is in an abusive relationship with a guy 2 times the size of my daughter.
She has a 2 year old child with this guy and my grandson is already mimicking what his dad says to my daughter.
I am so glad to hear your experience turned out well for you. This really gives me hope for my daughter.
Thank you!!

Thanks again. I have told my daughter our door is always open when she needs it.

I definitely will tell her.

Not only that, but if the child is raised seeing this it will internalize that behaviour. If a girl, she will think abuse is a normal way for a man to treat a woman, if a boy, he'll feel the same and become an abuser himself.

That is why I am concerned for my grandson. He is already telling my daughter to shut up and calling her the names he has heard, even though he has no idea what the names mean.
My daughter's boyfriend told my daughter he was glad his Dad hit his Mom because that "kept her in line."
The cycle of abuse needs to end now before my precious grandson thinks it is okay for him to be a bully.

she better get out of there.... I've been there ..... she needs to go....
is she working???

I know Barefoot. I've been trying to convince her of that. But, all I can do is keep my offer of a place to stay open, until she realizes she needs to go. I am so tired, Barefoot. I really am.
No right now she is not working. ;(

Praying.

Thank you. We are praying as well.

I feel for you SA.... gosh..... I will surely whisper prayers for her to find her strength.... she's got to get a way from him...... and she will in her time...;)

I am sorry that you had to go through that.

I'm glad you got out of that abusive relationship Maci. Losers like that do not deserve good women.

Best to you.

Nope. One and done.

I'd rip his balls off if he ever lays a finger on me

I'd pull a Laila Ali on his ass!

i said no because i really want to say this... its hard because well what if you really love him and he is a good guy its just he doesnt direct his anger properly ? what would you do?its hard to say overall , so my answer is : it depends

If he does it once, chances are extremely high that the behavior will be repeated. There can be so many underlying reasons for a person to be so filled with anger and rage that they strike out at those they love. At this point you can only be a victim if that is what you choose to be. I truly feel that you have asked a question that you already know the answer to, common sense should dictate your actions in this matter . . . good luck!

....but he really doesn't.

there are all different excuses for a man to hit a women, none of them are good and none of them should matter. If a man hits a woman, he doesn't respect her and he doesn't respect himself. walk the hell away

If a man hits you the first time, THAT'S A RED FLAG OF ABUSIVE BEHAVIOR!!

If two people really, truly love one another then they can work through anything. No one should hit their partner but people make mistakes and you can choose to forgive and work past them or you can choose to cop out. And, if someone continuously beats you and treats you poorly then chances are they don't love you and you don't love them.

So leaving someone for physically abusing you is a cop out? You are a moron.

If you love them then yes, it's absolutely a cop out. If it's worth staying with them and working past that then it's a cop out.
If you don't love them, if it isn't worth it then it isn't a cop out to leave a person no matter what, it's just good judgement.
But, don't insult my intelligence because we have a difference in opinion. Even if society would disagree, everything is circumstantial and there is no universal correct answer to any situation. And, if you don't believe that, it doesn't make you a moron. But, not analyzing a situation to its fullest potential also doesn't make you particularly thorough in intelligence either.

No, I don't have children and no I don't want children.

Why would you????thats is like forgiving someone after he killed your dog

No, that same trust just wouldn't be there anymore. Plus, I think that in most cases, if a man hits a woman once, he will most likely do it again. Even if he does apologize profusely.

no stanley kowalskis for me, plz (pfft!)

dnt think so...if he hits me one time he will hit me again....same thing goes for cheating

I divorced a man for that.