Great article. I hate girls like that personally. My best friend is gay, and not because he's gay but because he is who he is, and there are always those girls who I KNOW only talk to him because he's gay.

See, I never thought of the lable "fag hag" as finding a gay guy to be cool and have that quirkness that you see one T.V.

Gay guys just tend to flock to me... They are my friends, and if they act like a straight up dude, or a straight up frilly guy, it doesnt make me expect anything from them. I expect them to be themselves and just be my friend.

First I'd like to say, as a homosexual, that I love Will & Grace. Secondly, this is completely true. Women are doing nothing but stereotyping gay men as their wel-dressed new girlfriend, which is ridiculous, and inadvertently shining negative light on gay men. Women, take a step back and thing. If you want a girlfriend, get a friend who's a girl. Don't expect all gay men to braid your hair and chat about fashion with you.

Firstly, I loved the show "Will & Grace," it was bloody well clever.

Secondly, I couldn't agree more. I'm sick of meeting moronic women who think have a gay best friend would be the coolest thing ever. Sexuality alone does not define a person, nor should it be the sole reason for wanting to be friends with a person.

I personally love gay guys. They are really cool and very nice. But for some reason i have a problem with lesbians.

What?

omg my cuz she wants gay guy friend cause she thinks it wud be cool

i want one 2. i also think it would be cool, plus for some reason they are the nicest people on the planet.

ya it wud u have got a point

You obviously live a very sheltered life, mate.

And when the one turns around and ends up being a total queen, let me know how it goes.

And that is what this article is talking about. Moronic women who think having a gay best friend would be "cool." Sexuality alone does not define a person.

ya thats a good point but i guess i just feel like it wud be cool cause u wud finally have a guy friend that it didnt have to be uncomforatble with having to deal with u like him

That's a rather juvenile way of looking it at. I have a lot of straight male friends that are just friends and I'm just as comfortable with than as I am with my gay male friends. Comfortable friendships with the opposite sex have nothing to do with said friend's gender preference.

One of my closet friends is gay, and if he never would have told me, I never would have guessed. He isn't the steryotypical gay man, and I'm okay with that. I don't want to be a fag hag. I just want to be his friend.

Interesting article... I have lots of gay friends, but even before I saw myself as gay (which I do now and have for quite some time) I never thought of my gay friends as accessories or anything like that. Weird. :/

While I can see the difficulty of navigating stereotypical roles pushed on us by television and movies, I think that most people, including gay men and "fag hags" would be eager to shrug off these generalizations.
As easy as it is to forget in some places, much of the world is still socially hostile toward homosexuals.
I think the worst thing we could do as homosexuals would be to push away the people who are willing to treat us like human beings, or to make them self conscious about trying to get to know us. If a person has preconceptions about what their relationship with someone else will be like, then let them get to know you and see what kind of person you truly are.
I for one am grateful to all of our wonderful allies who chose to stand up for our personhood, even when the hostility is not directly targeted at them. You are all my heroes!

I really liked this article, it gives a lot of insight into how gays view gays that are depicted on TV shows. I always have felt that the gays on TV are always a little more dramatic and flashy than my gay friends.

Well, I might have been guilty of asking a gay whether or not I could be his fag hag. It's just gays are always really fun people!

While I understand how such shows as 'Will & Grace' could have created a stereotype for gays, I don't think women generally view gays as an accessory.