Kissing on the First Date: Dating Do or Don't?

by SodaHead Living Posted 2012/05/21 21:00:00

Related Topics: Kissing, Date, dating, Kiss, Relationship, Blind Date, Friends, New York, History, Relationships, First Date, New York City, 2012, Online

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In 2012, it almost seems like an outdated question, but we're still curious: Do you kiss on the first date? A writer for Glamour recently blogged that no one has tried to kiss her since she moved to the Midwest. "In my dating days back in New York City, I literally never went on a date where the guy didn't at least try to stick his tongue down my throat," she writes.

But How About We doesn't think a first date kiss is a must. "I've always been of the belief that if it’s a blind date or an online date, you can take things a bit slower. It’s a little different than going on a date with someone you’ve already met -- you’re feeling each other out, and often it’s the second date that starts to feel more date-y," she writes.

"On the other hand, one of my guy friends once said to me, with utter conviction, that if he doesn’t kiss a girl on the first date it means he’s not interested. And when I think back on my own romantic history, I’ve never had a first date lead to a second date if there wasn’t kissing involved." We'd have to agree that in our best relationships, the kiss happened way early. How about you?

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giggity giggity 2012/05/21 22:32:50 (edited)

Do!

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If I like her, I'll walk her to the front door and I'll kiss her goodnight. If I'm not interested anymore, I'll probably say goodbye in the car.
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Pookie 2012/05/21 23:51:37

It depends

Maybeee ;)

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runningintriangles 2012/05/21 23:39:41

It depends

If it goes well and there's chemistry? Definitely. It has less to do with the "first" date, and more to do with whether or not it was a good date.

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Anna 2012/05/21 23:35:17

It depends

Depends on how the date goes. Why pass up the perfect moment for a kiss just because you haven't passed the quota for dates before kissing.

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XRenX 2012/05/21 23:34:13

It depends

Just depends imo

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joe 2012/05/21 23:32:31

Don't!

Kissing is far to intimate to engage in on the first date. Oral sex is more acceptable with young people today. It means less and and is not as emotionally binding as kissing.

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XRenX to joe 2012/05/21 23:37:56

Seems untrue from what I heard and more personal imo (and vulgar)

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Surgeon ~The Egalitarianist~ 2012/05/21 23:28:36 (edited)

Don't!

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To me, kissing is something special so I wont kiss a guy who I just went on a date with once. Maybe after the second date if I like him enough but after just one date it wouldn't really feel right to do that. I like getting to know people before getting physical at all really. And I don't like kissing people who i may not even end up liking or loving.

After the first date I can't say for certain if I like a guy enough to kiss him, because I still more than likely wont know him all that well yet. Because of that I wouldn't kiss him on the first date. If I like you romantically, then Ill kiss you. Problem is, after only one date, there's no way for me to know if I like you romantically or not because I simply haven't spent enough time with you, haven't gotten to know you, that sort of thing.

Even if I haven't gone out on many dates I never let anyone kiss me on the first one, it just doesn't feel right to me... I dare say it almost feels pressured, slimy, and all around uncomfortable to do so.

That being said kissing is okay I guess, but it's not really something I find to be important. I prefer just to spend time with someone... that alone means you've impressed me. I don't spend time with anyone, because I really find people to be annoying, so it's amazing when i actually want to...

To me, kissing is something special so I wont kiss a guy who I just went on a date with once. Maybe after the second date if I like him enough but after just one date it wouldn't really feel right to do that. I like getting to know people before getting physical at all really. And I don't like kissing people who i may not even end up liking or loving.

After the first date I can't say for certain if I like a guy enough to kiss him, because I still more than likely wont know him all that well yet. Because of that I wouldn't kiss him on the first date. If I like you romantically, then Ill kiss you. Problem is, after only one date, there's no way for me to know if I like you romantically or not because I simply haven't spent enough time with you, haven't gotten to know you, that sort of thing.

Even if I haven't gone out on many dates I never let anyone kiss me on the first one, it just doesn't feel right to me... I dare say it almost feels pressured, slimy, and all around uncomfortable to do so.

That being said kissing is okay I guess, but it's not really something I find to be important. I prefer just to spend time with someone... that alone means you've impressed me. I don't spend time with anyone, because I really find people to be annoying, so it's amazing when i actually want to spend time in someones company. Or cuddling, cuddling is much better than kissing in my humble opinion. That being said I wouldn't cuddle you on the first date either.

Simply put, I don't do any form of intimacy on the first date.
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Rob Williams 2012/05/21 23:27:23

It depends

Sometimes things just head that way!

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VintageLys 2012/05/21 23:23:56

Do!

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find out and don't waste time if the chemistry is there or not

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jackie to VintageLys 2012/05/22 01:50:15 (edited)

That what F*** up a relationship. "chemistry" cant people just find out if there is any from of attraction by just talking (as in attraction I am not talking about turned on attraction)? But no they have to kiss and feel up. Then when they are not horny for you any more they find someone else.

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VintageLys to jackie 2012/05/22 04:00:52

+1
ya but there needs to be a spark...you need to be sexually attracted too

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jackie to VintageLys 2012/05/22 10:03:08

I dont worry about sex. I want to look for a guy I will be with for the rest of my life. And looks wont last forever. I want to be attracted to his personality. ya know what I mean?

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VintageLys to jackie 2012/05/22 12:10:33

do you want kids? do you not want him to cheat on you ? look at half the scandals going on in this country because of sex? you better give him the love he needs or else he will find it somewhere else...

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jackie to VintageLys 2012/05/22 15:18:57

Actually the only people who cheat are idiots. I am going to find a guy with the same interest as me. And not a sex monster who think sex is the only form of love and if he doesn't get it he is going to cheat like crazy. Scandals happen because people are so damn horny and inconsiderate, and self fish. You can go on and have sex and feel like you're forced to do it.

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VintageLys to jackie 2012/05/22 15:57:13

it's not the ONLY thing but it's a pretty big deal to men

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jackie to VintageLys 2012/05/22 16:18:39

Some men or most men. But I'm not looking for that type.

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VintageLys to jackie 2012/05/22 17:41:39

lol even the best of men have the urge for sex

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jackie to VintageLys 2012/05/22 21:59:43

Chemistry can be a relationship starter and it is a relationship ender. I don't go for that. I'll keep my opinion and you'll keep yours.

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VintageLys to jackie 2012/05/22 22:43:36

how is it an ender?

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rebecca to jackie 2012/05/25 07:07:34

so you are looking?

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jackie to rebecca 2012/05/25 07:53:12

i guess..

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Undead Little Red 2012/05/21 23:21:33

It depends

The chemistry, how long we've been friends before hand, IF we've been friends before hand, how well the date was....

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Sinister Ken Doll™ 2012/05/21 23:16:24

Do!

i never saw why i shouldn't go for it...

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Wayne TH G 333 2012/05/21 23:15:50

Do!

If we are talking adult dating then definately.

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brittany 2012/05/21 23:11:07

It depends

i mean typyically i would say no so that things stay interesting in the beginning, but if there is a real connection then why not

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Lydecho Rain (Лидия) 2012/05/21 23:09:49

It depends

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It depends on how well the date goes.

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Amanda ... to Lydecho... 2012/05/21 23:19:05

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Exactly, usually not, but there are exceptions.

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★earthbound_misfit★ 2012/05/21 23:08:50

It depends

I have kissed on the first date when I knew the person before the date, but not when I didn't know the person yet.

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♌βļąƈʞƦơșƐ3033♌ 2012/05/21 23:07:20

It depends

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A goodnight kiss on the cheek, tha'ts it.
I've never had this happen to me, but I'd suspect it would be very romantic for the guy to kiss my hand when we first get together for the date.

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dekecds to ♌βļąƈʞƦ... 2012/05/23 13:10:36

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I've tried that, as it would be a very comfortable form of first date intimacy, and I've gotten laughed at and ditched five times. I don't do it anymore, as five times was 100% of the times I've tried. To the Guys: Unless she's obviously eccentric, and you like that, DON'T kiss a girls hand. It will only bring you grief and humiliation!

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Kearstin Carden 2012/05/21 23:06:18

It depends

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On how long you've Known them

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Nabael 2012/05/21 23:04:18

Do!

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Actually I have a tendency of the kiss actually usually ends up STARTING the first date or relationship.
As in, we were platonically watching some TV about three years ago and suddenly our lips found each other. Then we decided to go out for dinner XD.

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george 2012/05/21 22:59:50

It depends

If I think there will be a 2nd date absolutely.

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Miko Mikomiko 2012/05/21 22:54:56 (edited)

It depends

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I was wondering if anyone asks why I'm single I'll tell them that dating/relationship/romance/f... it's like walking through a minefield.
Then again my whole approach in dating is "I like you and you like me and let's be together and not make it complicated" maybe farfetched.

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none 2012/05/21 22:49:12

Do!

Why not, if it happens it happens.

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**StarzAbove** 2012/05/21 22:49:02

Do!

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Sure, if he's not a good kisser, then it's no more dates. lol

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Pat 2012/05/21 22:48:35

It depends

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It all depends on how the date goes. If you like the guy, kiss him. If not, put your hand out and shake his hand.

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AvaC 2012/05/21 22:47:28

Don't!

Well, I've never dated anyone but this is something I certainly don't plan on doing. If the guy can't be patient about it, then I know for sure he's not ''the one''.

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POWERSHAKER 2012/05/21 22:45:06

It depends

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It all depends. Let nature take its course. :)

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Gandalf 2012/05/21 22:44:54

It depends

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I predict most girls will say "Don't!", and most guys will say, "Do!".
Such is life. :)

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