Kissing on the First Date: Dating Do or Don't?

Living 2012/05/21 21:00:00
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In 2012, it almost seems like an outdated question, but we're still curious: Do you kiss on the first date? A writer for Glamour recently blogged that no one has tried to kiss her since she moved to the Midwest. "In my dating days back in New York City, I literally never went on a date where the guy didn't at least try to stick his tongue down my throat," she writes.

But How About We doesn't think a first date kiss is a must. "I've always been of the belief that if it’s a blind date or an online date, you can take things a bit slower. It’s a little different than going on a date with someone you’ve already met -- you’re feeling each other out, and often it’s the second date that starts to feel more date-y," she writes.

"On the other hand, one of my guy friends once said to me, with utter conviction, that if he doesn’t kiss a girl on the first date it means he’s not interested. And when I think back on my own romantic history, I’ve never had a first date lead to a second date if there wasn’t kissing involved." We'd have to agree that in our best relationships, the kiss happened way early. How about you?

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  • giggity giggity 2012/05/21 22:32:50 (edited)
    giggity giggity
    If I like her, I'll walk her to the front door and I'll kiss her goodnight. If I'm not interested anymore, I'll probably say goodbye in the car.

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  • jojo 2012/05/22 15:02:24
    It depends
    it depends on how well you know each other!!
  • tobe 2012/05/22 14:50:38
    in my personal experience if you don't get to know a person at least a bit before it gets physical the relationships gonna wind up fleeting. If you just want get the ball rolling so you can get to the sack in a few dates though, get a few knotches in the old bed post and part ways by all means go ahead but If you really like a girl my advice is, hold her hand, walk her to her door.
  • Wulfdane 2012/05/22 14:43:33
    It depends
    It all comes down to the intensity of the attraction.....
  • Donald Eric Kesler 2012/05/22 14:40:36
    It depends
    Donald Eric Kesler
    Ultimately, it depends on what everyone is wanting out of the first date. Not everyone is wanting to establish a long term relationship.
  • Ayushee 2012/05/22 14:21:47 (edited)
    It depends
    If he's sexy and nice and if i want!
  • rand 2012/05/22 14:12:48
    30 years ago I kissed my wife on our first date, and I've never kissed another woman romantically since.
  • Melissa... rand 2012/05/22 15:26:01
  • Gates rand 2012/05/22 16:13:42
    That´s awesome. :)
  • Soms Cougli 2012/05/22 13:57:30
    Soms Cougli
    Generally, my dates lead to stalking lol. Clearly there are no other interesting women in my town -.-
  • JesusIsMyGod 2012/05/22 13:46:15
    I used to, but I do not anymore because I am saving myself for marriage. Stuff like that makes Jesus happy.
  • stef JesusIs... 2012/05/22 15:15:22
    couldnt agree more =)
  • sapper469 JesusIs... 2012/05/22 20:44:37
    Never could quite grasp the concept of new christian /new born virgin. And jesus is the son of god, not god. Remember the. Trinity, in the name of. The lord god, the son and the holy spirit. Amen
  • IDA 2012/05/22 13:28:47
    It depends
    only if hes romantic
  • Professor Wizard 2012/05/22 13:21:56
    It depends
    Professor Wizard
    Sparks are sparks, and sometimes they are pretty bright. If you are "Swept off your feet".. go for it!

    My brother had sex with his wife on their first date - - I think they have been married over 40 years now - and had 2 kids.

    If having sex on the first date can work out - - kissing is nothing!
  • Papillon Profess... 2012/05/22 15:17:18
  • Yoru Azenia 2012/05/22 13:15:31
    It depends
    Yoru Azenia
    Theres a lot of factors to this how long did you know eachother before this date, how well did it go ext. I have only kissed 2 girls on the first date
  • Sprout 2012/05/22 13:11:07
    It depends
    only if it seems right.
  • meme14 2012/05/22 13:09:16
    It depends
    If the date is going well then I want to have a first kiss..because truly that can be a deal breaker..if everything is great and the kiss is horrible...there just cannot be a second date..
  • 24FilmProStudio 2012/05/22 13:07:51 (edited)
    It depends
    Social expectations vs human urges
  • DeejaySpaniel 2012/05/22 12:47:08
    It's an invitation to a second date. No kiss, no spark, no second date.
  • july_12 2012/05/22 12:38:22
    It depends
    dependent as was the date, if there was chemistry and if you really liked
  • 001 2012/05/22 12:29:27
    It depends
    After a while kissing suddenly isn't such a big deal anymore.
  • Cindy 2012/05/22 12:04:07
    It depends
    If you like the person I say go for it
  • Deborah 2012/05/22 11:59:45
    It depends
    If the chemistry is right, absolutely kissing animation
  • BJFuller☥ 2012/05/22 11:42:55
    It depends
    it depends on how the date was, how long the date was, what time is it, ya know... alot of stuff lol but i have never been on a date. and me and my bf have been together for over a year now.... yea, it sucks.
  • Ben 2012/05/22 11:40:14
    There should be LOTS of kissing on the first date. <3
  • Gates Ben 2012/05/22 16:14:58
    Hahaha. :)))
  • JCD aka "biz" 2012/05/22 11:28:19
    It depends
    JCD aka "biz"
    Trying to remember...

    1) If you have sex on the first date, it is more polite to kiss the lady first.
    2) Sometimes you like it when the lady is kept wondering what your real intentions are. So, no sex, sorry: no kiss, on the first date.

    I have spoken.
  • gcpajunen 2012/05/22 10:52:46
    It depends
    If it happens it happens
  • Papillon gcpajunen 2012/05/22 15:19:49
  • joshua.w.sanders 2012/05/22 10:28:07
    I would say no, you should get to know the person very well before bringing any physical feelings into the equation. Get to know the true person they are before you make that leap. Kissing leads to bad (but good) things.
  • +Harmonious Love+ 2012/05/22 10:11:54
  • edlie 2012/05/22 10:11:22
    It depends
    It depends how the couple feels for each other!
  • alanoud39 2012/05/22 09:46:18
    It depends
    It depends if they wants to see each other again I will say do if not then don't ..
  • Dyonus 2012/05/22 08:49:44
    It depends
    I have nothing against it, but I'm usually too nervous to kiss on the first date.
  • Krystle 2012/05/22 08:48:47
    Big no no. You can kiss on the cheek.
  • Stacie 2012/05/22 08:44:08
    It depends
    Unless the person doing the kissing is Clive Owen, Keith Urban or
    Antonio Banderas - lol :) - I don't recommend it.

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  • David 2012/05/22 07:47:32
    It depends
    For the most part, I think it's much better to wait a couple days, weeks, or even a month. But there are some rare cases where kissing on the first date is okay. Depends on what kind of person you are and how responsible.
  • Night 2012/05/22 07:27:27
    It depends
    It depends if you clicked and how well you know the person.
  • nothingbutthetruth 2012/05/22 06:35:56
    It depends
    If the two people are serious about the relationship and would take it to the next level, nothing wrong with sealing it with a kiss(:

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