Kissing on the First Date: Dating Do or Don't?

by SodaHead Living Posted 2012/05/21 21:00:00

Related Topics: Kissing, Date, dating, Kiss, Relationship, Blind Date, Friends, New York, History, Relationships, First Date, New York City, 2012, Online

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In 2012, it almost seems like an outdated question, but we're still curious: Do you kiss on the first date? A writer for Glamour recently blogged that no one has tried to kiss her since she moved to the Midwest. "In my dating days back in New York City, I literally never went on a date where the guy didn't at least try to stick his tongue down my throat," she writes.

But How About We doesn't think a first date kiss is a must. "I've always been of the belief that if it’s a blind date or an online date, you can take things a bit slower. It’s a little different than going on a date with someone you’ve already met -- you’re feeling each other out, and often it’s the second date that starts to feel more date-y," she writes.

"On the other hand, one of my guy friends once said to me, with utter conviction, that if he doesn’t kiss a girl on the first date it means he’s not interested. And when I think back on my own romantic history, I’ve never had a first date lead to a second date if there wasn’t kissing involved." We'd have to agree that in our best relationships, the kiss happened way early. How about you?

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giggity giggity 2012/05/21 22:32:50 (edited)

Do!

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If I like her, I'll walk her to the front door and I'll kiss her goodnight. If I'm not interested anymore, I'll probably say goodbye in the car.
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Dzeeng 2012/05/23 07:50:21

Don't!

Not!

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Adrian1265 2012/05/23 05:55:20

It depends

I'd probably love to, but I am a bit on the shy side. So IDK what will happen

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El Prez 2012/05/23 05:27:35

It depends

If the moment comes, go for it. Otherwise, wait until it feels right.

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if3000 2012/05/23 05:16:47

Do!

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Cricket 2012/05/23 03:20:33

It depends

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It depends on if I have a connection of sorts with the guy.

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Cain201... to Cricket 2012/05/23 03:24:52 (edited)

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I agree...if there is a connection with the person! ;)

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Treasure ♥ijm♥ 2012/05/23 03:19:25 (edited)

Do!

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I think it's wonderful if my date wants to kiss me on the first date if we have any chemistry.....hopefully he would be a good kisser.

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rebecca to Treasur... 2012/05/23 07:28:53

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yeah hopefully ha ha

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charles nelson 2012/05/23 02:53:44

Do!

Awe go ahead if it mutual.

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AngelaDuke 2012/05/23 02:44:33

It depends

If the date went well and you plan on seeing the person again then why not?

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YeahISaidIt 2012/05/23 02:05:42 (edited)

Don't!

I made my bf wait and work for both a kiss and sex (not as long as I wanted). And he appreciated me for it in the long run.

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rebecca to YeahISa... 2012/05/23 07:30:34

+1
me too

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Mr Marvin 2012/05/23 02:04:44

It depends

Fifty or 60 years ago a kiss on the lips on first date was a no no. Perhaps a gentlemanly kiss on the back of her hand with "I would like to see you out again". A nice short hug on the doorsteps when you said good night was nice.
I heard that there were some loose morale girls that would kiss and put out on first dates. I did not go with any because i didn't want to get one accidently pregnant and have to marry her.

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cc 2012/05/23 01:57:47

Do!

Yes....DO...what you feel compelled to do. If you are looking for a hookup, it would be good to start somewhere. If you two had a GREAT time and there is chemistry, then a kiss is almost mandatory! Have fun daters!

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The Bee Guy 2012/05/23 01:48:51

Don't!

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Would be good to not kiss until married. This keeps the guy on the hook for marriage.

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adeenmckenziekennedy 2012/05/23 01:08:54

It depends

It definitely depends but since I have never had my first date yet, I don't know.

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kris 2012/05/23 00:42:01

It depends

I am a big believer of when the time is right the time is right. If there is chemistry and one person isn't nervous or awkward and both parties are feeling it then why not?

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ShamshirMkII 2012/05/23 00:25:06

Don't!

Take it easy and slow when building relationships with your date (perhaps even potential spouse). Show him/her that level of intimacy when you've went through thick and thin and still maintain a powerful bond.

That's what my dad always had me bear in mind :D

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The Bee... to Shamshi... 2012/05/23 01:50:24

So did it work? Your dad was a smart man.

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Shamshi... to The Bee... 2012/05/24 01:08:51

I don't have a girlfriend yet. I won't know for sure -_-'

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John Brown 2012/05/23 00:21:16

Do!

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I did and have been kissing her for over 40 year.

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Magicman 2012/05/23 00:17:11

It depends

If you want a second date then sure, why not? If she doesn't like you, you'll know it.

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The Bee... to Magicman 2012/05/23 01:52:26

You wouldn't try it twice with one of my daughters. When you picked yourself up off the ground you would realize it had been a serious mistake...

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Magicman to The Bee... 2012/05/23 02:45:06

Like I said, you'll know it. Ouch!

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NakedinVegas 2012/05/22 23:34:09

It depends

I depends on the kind of kiss, and how the date really went. People can judge for themselves, but for me, I will usually wait. Honestly though, the choice is up to the individuals involved.

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Boss 2012/05/22 23:21:54

Do!

what??JUST a kiss???LOL!!

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Yu Ogata 2012/05/22 23:09:14

Don't!

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I kisses her on third date.

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Cee to Yu Ogata 2012/05/23 01:18:44

Good one, Gollum.

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Eva (: 2012/05/22 23:06:19

It depends

Do u really like that person and want to go slow or eh just a person kiss em

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Shadow_Wolf 2012/05/22 22:56:22

It depends

Really does depend on a few different things

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kurtanderson1 2012/05/22 22:49:21

It depends

It depends on how well....or badly it's going.

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bmxschoolbus 2012/05/22 22:46:14 (edited)
Michael 2012/05/22 22:30:13

Do!

I do. Here's why; I generally won't even allow a FIRST date to happen if I am not interested in pursuing subsequent dates. Therefore I come with a built in commitment that allows me enough comfort to initiate a kiss with her. Besides, all my best relationships have started off with the big kiss being very early.

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Link 2012/05/22 22:26:50

It depends

It depends on if the spark is there or not... each first date is different...

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Morgan 2012/05/22 22:24:37

It depends

I say if the date went really well, but I'm not one give stuff up easily

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mikeyllo 2012/05/22 22:19:29

It depends

If the mood is right, go for it. You don't have to sleep with the person on the first date, but you don't have to go into it with a whole list of rules either. Do what's best for you.

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Lucy Pannell 2012/05/22 21:56:55

It depends

Though it isn't a requirement.... If the chemistry is in the air...then you shouldn't ruin it.

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Smokey 2012/05/22 21:55:40

It depends

Depends on how well your feeling each other. I've kissed girls before we even went on a first date, just because we were friends first.

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Armchair Commando 2012/05/22 21:53:10

Don't!

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No girl with self-respect let's a man get that intimate on a first date. I don't care what year it is. Nowadays I realize it's all about deciding whether to sleep together on the first date, but prudent and moral behavior never goes out of style. Women, save the kiss for later and the sex for marriage and you'll increase your chances of self-respect and happiness.

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Shadow_... to Armchai... 2012/05/22 22:58:40

Stop living in th 80s. A girl can still be self respecting and kiss a guy on the first date. You don't know how long they've known each beforehand

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