I've been in an open relationship for one year. Is that something you've ever tried, or considered, and if so would you be interested in meeting for a cocktail(s)? Lol

by Josey Wales Posted 2012/07/24 20:47:32

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Seriously speaking, with the divorce rate climbing, I just wondered how people feel in general. I have a regular job, responsibilities like everyone else. No sex club memberships, no porn collection. We've just agreed to 'try it out' so to speak. You people here are strangers and its easy to bring anything up here that the relatives / real life friends need not necessarily know about. And I'm doing a great job killing time at work. Thanks.

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XRenX 2012/07/25 08:42:48

no, not worth it.

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Too many risks, including: drama, physical health risks, emotional health risks, extra time consumption, extra money consumption and divided attention.

It is impossible to be as close to multiple partners as it is to one. Ex: breaking up a cookie and spreading it around leaves a smaller share of the cookie and the people get less out of it. However, splitting it in half with one other person leaves a larger share, which means they will get more out of it.

It seems virtually pointless to call an open relationship a relationship at all because it is more difficult to relate to a lot of people simultaneously than it is to one other person. You only have so much of yourself to give and eventually someone could be dissatisfied with such a small share of you. They simply will not be able to relate to each other as well as a couple would.

I understand if people are just in it for the fun, but the reasons I listed are still very much valid.

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Linnster 2012/07/25 02:23:45

no, not worth it.

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To me, it means you aren't willing to make a commitment to the other person. You want to know that someone is there waiting for you if nothing better comes along. It's like moving out on your own but bringing your laundry home for your mother to do.

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Josey W... to Linnster 2012/07/25 02:29:20

Thanks for the reminder. I need to tell her to iron my shirt for tomorrow ;)

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Linnster to Josey W... 2012/07/25 02:44:47

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Maybe she'll iron it while you're wearing it. :)

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Josey W... to Linnster 2012/07/25 02:49:10

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Hahaha good one!

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YepIDidItSo 2012/07/24 23:13:40

Undecided

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Not sure I could do it now. I am a monogamous person, and I have to really care for someone before I have sex with them. I get nauseated thinking of my bf seeing another woman.

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poet4justice 2012/07/24 22:58:21

Undecided

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if that is your lifestyle than is cool, thank god it isnt mine

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Katt 2012/07/24 22:19:09

Undecided

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Hey its your love life so go for it. I'm young and my main focus right now is getting my career set, so I do not have time for boyfriends. Therefor I like to go out on dates and so on but never look for something serious. (Until the right one comes along) Noting wrong with it. Its called having a relationship without being tied down.

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Metaldane 2012/07/24 21:41:28

Undecided

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Sure when you set up rules you both can live with it works pretty good not for everybody though

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FrancheskahMae:) 2012/07/24 21:37:50

no, not worth it.

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It was my first ever relationship, I freaked out cause I thought it was cheating and I found out im the jealous type. It's set me off on the wrong path. So I say; NEVER AGAIN.

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~[Rachel Mariee]~ 2012/07/24 21:35:43

no, not worth it.

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Nah, not mehh

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Lizzeh 2012/07/24 21:29:35

Undecided

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I've been in one before and it lasted about a week. So not worth the drama. It's stupid anyways.

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Josey W... to Lizzeh 2012/07/24 21:35:43

So, your saying its stupid. Is that right? Haha, thank you for your input :)

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Lizzeh to Josey W... 2012/07/24 21:37:10

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Well in my opinion it's stupid. But it isn't for everyone I guess. If you're into that, that's fine and dandy.

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rand 2012/07/24 21:24:27

no, not worth it.

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My wife wouldn't go for it. My first wife did...and you can see how that turned out.

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Josey W... to rand 2012/07/24 21:32:59

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Lol. I sorta got bogged down in 'ground-hog' days. Adhering to societal norms. Not for everyone. That's for sure.

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Altering_Minds. 2012/07/24 21:12:11

no, not worth it.

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I'm a bachaler,

Oh, yeah...

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AyyyJose 2012/07/24 21:08:30

no, not worth it.

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I am one jealous mofo :3

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Josey W... to AyyyJose 2012/07/24 21:20:13

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Understandable. I used to be too. Not saying I've grown, or been there, done that. I can identify with what you're saying and there's still, how shall I put it? Maybe a little unease from time to time. It doesn't outweigh the excitement though.

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AyyyJose to Josey W... 2012/07/24 23:22:26

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Well if it doesn't outweigh the excitement, then why bother with it?

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SlaveWaterNymph 2012/07/24 21:03:26

no, not worth it.

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Hm well im engaged and owned, and with that, im in the BDSM lifestyle, so no open relationship for U/us as W/we dont want others...... for so many reasons. But it could work for others, for me, no.

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BehindTheseEyes 2012/07/24 20:58:59

Undecided

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They work for certain people. You can't be insecure in an open relationship.

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Xitlalilolly 2012/07/24 20:57:08

no, not worth it.

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because then if i really liked the person i couldnt claim them as mine

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HarleyCharley 2012/07/24 20:55:30

Undecided

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that's good...

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NPC 2012/07/24 20:54:13

no, not worth it.

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It doesn't normally work for most persons. Emotions and jealousy can happen fast. If you are serious about someone. Then this will more than likely appear in your relationship.

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