Is the Decline of the Traditional Family Promoting Poverty?
Heisenberg
2012/07/18 16:00:00
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NYTIMES.COM reports:
Motherhood outside marriage now varies by class about as much as it does by race, and changes in family structure have broadened income gaps and posed new barriers to upward mobility.
Read More: http://www.nytimes.com/2012/07/15/us/two-classes-i...
Top Opinion
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Red 2012/07/18 06:34:08
Jobs are needed for training to take place, same as with apprenticeships.
Acceptance of what?
Moral support for what?
I think many people "want things" instead of focusing on the family and what they "need"!!.
They feel they are entitled to what "everyone else" has! What their parents worked 20 years to attain, they expect to acquire the day they get married! They make the choice to go in debt for "things" and must continue two incomes to support that choice! They have $10,000 and $20 thousand dollar weddings for self gratification for ONE day instead of paying off their student loans or putting a down payment on a home!!
Choice, but who made them so selfish that they refuse to plan ahead for when there are children and one income?
Common sense has flown out the window! It's the "all about me generation" making poor choices that require two incomes!!
It's the bigger better house with two bathrooms and private bedrooms for each child, and a guest room that gets used twice a year, the fancy car, the 50" TV, the boat, the Disney vacations, and the "electronics" that they consider "must haves".
Sorry, but it doesn't "take" two incomes. Those who choose to be home with their children, and there are millons of them, make choices and sacrifices to focus on family rather than "material things". It is done every day, successfully by traditional families who focus on family.!!!
The church allows for divorce. Many of our leaders set good examples, Newt comes to mind with his 3 marriages. However money is one of the biggest reasons why divorce occurs. We are a capitalist society that puts much pressure on couples to make money. Could it be that this is a negative side effect of our fast paced American life? Actually these statistics could also be read that way. People with money have less burdens that cause strains on marriages where those with less feel the sting of poverty more and therefore have more issues that cause arguments that lead to a divorce. Notice the smaller differences at the higher income level verses the lower income level.
But, how can we have a "traditional marriage" when now a days both must work to keep up with modern expectations. How many of you could survive with a family in a one income household? Do you all really want to go back to traditional marri...
The church allows for divorce. Many of our leaders set good examples, Newt comes to mind with his 3 marriages. However money is one of the biggest reasons why divorce occurs. We are a capitalist society that puts much pressure on couples to make money. Could it be that this is a negative side effect of our fast paced American life? Actually these statistics could also be read that way. People with money have less burdens that cause strains on marriages where those with less feel the sting of poverty more and therefore have more issues that cause arguments that lead to a divorce. Notice the smaller differences at the higher income level verses the lower income level.
But, how can we have a "traditional marriage" when now a days both must work to keep up with modern expectations. How many of you could survive with a family in a one income household? Do you all really want to go back to traditional marriage as defined by our traditional founders and how they defined it.?
Now, I'm not saying that divorce is a good thing. Nor am I saying that a one parent home is a good thing. Nor am I saying that an untraditional family is a bad thing. What I am saying is that money problems are generally the main reason for divorce and not how traditional it is. Maybe, if our society quit putting so much pressure on materialism and keeping up with the jones's, that there would be less divorce.
"The analysis used information on family and household relationships and on material hardship from the National Survey of America's Families (NSAF). Results based on tabulations and multivariate analyses showed that even among the poor, material hardships were substantially lower among married couple families with children than among other families with children, including those with at least two potential earners."
http://aspe.hhs.gov/hsp/marri...
We've become a nation of the "give-ups". If our marriages become even a little bit hard or hardships hit us we just "give-up" and divorce. Marriages that stay together and weather the hard times give stability and opportunity for success to their children.
"Children born to unwed couples are, on average, more likely to experience family instability than children born to married biological parents, and they are at greater risk of poverty and adverse health, behavioral, and academic outcomes." http://www.mathematica-mpr.co...