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Is Saying Happy Birthday to the Deceased Inappropriate?

Deborah 2011/04/10 20:03:15
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Celebrating the Day of Your Birth
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I too am guilty of saying this, but it never sits quite right with me. I don’t mean to be insensitive to those who’ve lost loved ones because I too have lost a father and a brother. But saying Happy Birthday just doesn’t seem the correct thing to say. First it can’t be a happy day, because a loved one is lost, and second they are really not getting older, they will always be the age they were when they passed on. So respectfully I ask; shouldn’t there be something more appropriate to say for those that have passed on? Would some of these options seem more appropriate?

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  • Ernie 2011/04/10 20:05:48
    Your Birthday Remembrance
    Ernie
    +6
    not sure would be more worried if they responded.

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  • shadow76 2012/05/06 18:25:19
    None of the above
    shadow76
    +1
    It might make you feel better, but the person won't hear you.
  • Deborah shadow76 2012/05/08 21:26:52
  • shadow76 Deborah 2012/05/09 14:29:49
    shadow76
    +1
    tis about birthday but a year after my parents died at Christmas, my friends took me to the cemetary one of them to be nice wanted to decorate it for Christmas afterwards they left me to "talk" to them, I couldn't just couldn;t feel them anywhere.
  • Jerry 2012/05/04 19:51:02
    Your Birthday Remembrance
    Jerry
    +2
    Remembrance is perfectly normal, but there are some that dwell on the deaths of Family, beyond grievance period of a Special Family person, at some point a person needs to move onward and upward, fully being aware of the Love of the person, soul and spirit, now in Heaven, God has prepared many mansions in Heaven for the Faithful living there........ God Will Prepare Many Mansions for the Faithful  in Heaven
  • Deborah Jerry 2012/05/08 21:27:12
  • shadow76 Jerry 2012/05/09 14:31:56
    shadow76
    Yes I believe they are in heaven or sleeping in the Lord till judgement Day.
  • MK Jerry 2013/05/07 08:36:40
    MK
    +2
    I didn't realize there was a time limit to grieve?
  • katy.isodo 2012/05/03 11:18:38
    Undecided
    katy.isodo
    +1
    I can see your point but saying "Happy Birthday" is no different than any of the others.. it's not for the person that's gone, it's for the person that remains. Sometimes remembering them on days like this - saying something like happy birthday can in fact be happy, remembering the good times - healing and coming to peace with the loss.
  • Deborah katy.isodo 2012/05/08 21:27:33
    Deborah
    Thank you
  • BlytheSpirit~bn0 2012/05/03 06:55:40
    None of the above
    BlytheSpirit~bn0
    People are still throwing birthday parties for Jesus Christ and he's been deceased for over 2000 years. How bad could it be?
  • Deborah BlytheS... 2012/05/08 21:28:29
    Deborah
    And which party would that be exactly?
  • katy.isodo Deborah 2012/05/09 22:50:02
    katy.isodo
    ... Christmas ring a bell?
  • shadow76 BlytheS... 2012/05/09 08:16:39
    shadow76
    +1
    Jesus lives!
  • BlytheS... shadow76 2012/05/10 00:09:57
    BlytheSpirit~bn0
    I know. He's right next door to the Tooth Fairy and Santa lives down the block.
  • shadow76 BlytheS... 2012/05/10 06:44:43
    shadow76
    There speaks the open minded lberal.
  • BlytheS... shadow76 2012/05/11 05:58:05
    BlytheSpirit~bn0
    From the lips of the closed minded follower.
  • Deborah shadow76 2012/05/11 20:34:20
    Deborah
    +1
    Yes he does.
  • shadow76 Deborah 2012/05/13 08:58:20
    shadow76
    +1
    you can almost predict what they are going to say.
  • boyd868b 2012/05/02 23:57:54
    I like Happy Birthday
    boyd868b
    +1
    i can't see anything wrong with it,at all
  • Deborah boyd868b 2012/05/03 05:30:08
    Deborah
    Thanks
  • firelooker 2012/05/02 21:14:36
    None of the above
    firelooker
    +1
    If you want to that's your business.
  • Deborah firelooker 2012/05/03 05:30:33
    Deborah
    Thanks
  • Dan 2012/05/02 20:40:43
    None of the above
    Dan
    +1
    I say it to myself.
  • Deborah Dan 2012/05/03 05:30:42
    Deborah
    Thanks
  • Adakin Valorem~PWCM~JLA 2012/05/02 17:22:02
    Remembering you on your day of birth
    Adakin Valorem~PWCM~JLA
    +1
    I can't see how it would be problem... no not inappropriate.
  • Deborah Adakin ... 2012/05/03 05:31:28
    Deborah
    Well it's not really a problem, just that they are not getting any older!
  • Adakin ... Deborah 2012/05/07 21:16:39
    Adakin Valorem~PWCM~JLA
    +1
    Ha! Good point!
  • jon 2012/05/02 17:03:12
    None of the above
    jon
    +1
    I think it is up to each individual to decide no right or wrong to this one, if you are offended ignore it go elsewhere, go see a shrink, get over your self.
  • Deborah jon 2012/05/03 05:32:45
    Deborah
    +1
    Stop reading more into what I said than is actually there, stop assuming.
  • jon Deborah 2012/05/03 16:06:23
    jon
    Broad statement in my general view point not aimed at you, sorry if I gotcha
  • TimothyBrianFoley 2012/05/02 16:43:50
    I like Happy Birthday
    TimothyBrianFoley
    +1
    like today JAMES BROWN would be 74 nothing wrong about celebrating dead peoples birthdays as long as they are remembered.
  • Deborah Timothy... 2012/05/03 05:33:17
    Deborah
    Thanks
  • Bill 2012/05/02 15:19:02
    Remembering you on your day of birth
    Bill
    +2
    I just remember them
  • Deborah Bill 2012/05/03 05:33:33
    Deborah
    Thank you
  • Pat 2012/05/02 11:55:34
    Remembering you on your day of birth
    Pat
    +3
    I don't see anything wrong with remembering the birthday of a deceased loved one. I mean, I wouldn't bake a cake but a thought on that day is pretty normal.
  • Deborah Pat 2012/05/03 05:33:55
    Deborah
    +1
    Thanks
  • Link 2012/05/02 11:22:20
    None of the above
    Link
    +2
    Not if you believe it's okay... some might feel it's inappropriate, but if you feel it's fine, then go for it... tell everyone else who doesn't agree where to go...
  • Deborah Link 2012/05/03 05:34:25
    Deborah
    Thanks
  • hasher 2012/05/02 10:28:53
    Undecided
    hasher
    +2
    i suppose its up to each person how they want to remember a loved ones birthday. when my mom or dads birthday comes up its sad for me because i try to remember how old they would have been if they were still living. but i dont celebrate it. same thing with my brother.
  • hasher hasher 2012/05/02 10:31:28
    hasher
    +2
    its funny you should bring this up because my moms birthday is coming up may 16. i will take that special day and just remember her and how much i loved her. and miss her.

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