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Is moving out at 18 too young?

LoXx 2008/07/16 22:04:31
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My boyfriend and I have considered moving in together for several months now. He lives in Humboldt County near the northern border of California and I live in Tulare county, just south of midstate. It's an 11 to 12 hour drive. All of my community college credits will be transferable to his college. My parents would help support me financially at least until I got a job up there. We've been close for going on 6 years now, though our actual relationship hasn't been more than 6 months. I turned18 in September and we are planning this move for next summer. I'll be almost 19 then and he will be 19. What do you think, SH? Is 18 too young to move out in this manner?

*My parents have a problem with it but they never did go to college and probably don't realize that's just how it works these days. They are only really concerned about me moving so far away.
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  • hi 2009/04/01 17:39:36
    Undecided
    hi
    it depends on the person ....
  • stacie 2009/03/09 22:51:56
    No, 18 is fine.
    stacie
    i believe that if u have thought through everything. u should be ok. the only thing that worrys me is if it doesnt work out. i am thinking about the same thing. just like the man said before dont sweat it. if u think about the things a little at a time itll be fine. its just like at home but have to pay bills that is all
  • gali 2009/03/03 09:03:23
    No, 18 is fine.
    gali
    18 isn't too young to move out - i'm 18 now, and moved out at 16. but you moving in with your boyfriend is totally different. I mean, what happens if you break up?
  • LttleMonster 2008/07/30 03:03:20
    No, 18 is fine.
    LttleMonster
    i think it helps in the development process. Most will eventually move back in with the parents but it helps them learn and if they are not ready they get to hear mom and dad say i told you so. To the rest it is probley for the better
  • Maria28 2008/07/26 17:17:44
    No, 18 is fine.
    Maria28
    I moved out when I was 16... But then ma parents demanded me to move home again after I dropped out of school.
  • lady bear 2008/07/25 19:27:24
    Undecided
    lady bear
    moving out and far away while trying to attend college will be extremely rough. With moving out you really should have a job to where you know if something happens you can support yourself. You say you too have known each other a long time but just recently became a couple, moving in together can be very difficult. IT is one thing to be dating, talking on the phone but when you add the pressures of college and paying bills it can really strain things. Trust me been there done that. when I got my 1st apartment I had a bean bag chair and a lamp for furniture, it took me about 3 months till I could afford to get a phone and I was in my 20's with a full time job. On the issue of moving in with your boyfriend be prepared for a lot of strain on the relationship. There is also the moral issue which I am sure is why your parents object. We went through the same thing this past Jan. with my son. We ended up moving her in with us she had the bedroom downstairs and he was up. The relationship didn't last 2 months. They are no longer even friends. They didn't have rent or utility bills yet either we were giving them a few months to get jobs before charging. Imagine it breaking down and their being locked into a years lease. If you break it most places hold you responsible till either they rent it back out or until the lease is up. I know you have a pretty level head so just really really think about what you are doing.
  • LoXx lady bear 2008/07/26 03:00:43
    LoXx
    +2
    Thanks for that advice. I'm still considering. It's really only up to me, after all.
  • Live Free Or Die 2008/07/25 14:47:26
    No, 18 is fine.
    Live Free Or Die
    Just be careful, it's a wild world out there. I'm probably going to sound like your mother when I say this. Don't get into cars with strangers, i.e. people you just met. Don't drink and drive and don't get into any cars with people who do. You sound like you come from a loving home. Never be afraid or think of yourself as less of a person for calling your parents and asking for help. I wish I did this more as a young person. I could have saved myself a lot of trouble. You have to grow up and spread your wings, but from your parents perspective, they will never stop caring about you or loving you no matter what. My grandmother was my staple in life and after she died, a piece of my heart went with her. You sound like a very mature person to be thinking of all the variables as you are.
  • LoXx Live Fr... 2008/07/26 03:01:51
    LoXx
    +1
    No those are good tips to know. I will probably call a lot actually. :P If I do go. Thanks for the compliment. I am trying to make the best decision for everyone and not just myself.
  • leeniepuma 2008/07/25 06:22:09
    No, 18 is fine.
    leeniepuma
    leave the nest. its time
  • Danny 2008/07/25 00:11:17
    Undecided
    Danny
    Not if you're going to college...
  • Wilson 2008/07/24 04:36:15
    None of the above
    Wilson
    +1
    It depends on the '18er'. For some it's a step they are ready for but maybe unwilling to take and need a little prodding. Some need to stay home and practice more at being adult. Most are probably chomping at the bit.
  • texana2008 2008/07/24 03:06:00
    None of the above
    texana2008
    +1
    18 is not too young to move out of your parents house, but is too young to live with someone. Most people never end up with their high school sweethearts. Trust me. I made that mistake. You need to experiment and date different kinds of guys so that you can mature, and find the right traits for a partner for you.
  • Twocows texana2008 2008/07/26 06:52:04
    Twocows
    So the answer is to sleep around.
  • pookiegal 2008/07/24 02:50:34
    No, 18 is fine.
    pookiegal
    +1
    Although I stayed w/ my parents until I was 23- They had great amenities, and are great parents- so I did not want to leave. Paid my own way through college though!!
  • Abbs 2008/07/24 01:05:22
    No, 18 is fine.
    Abbs
    +1
    No It isn't 16 is to young you are an adult when u r 18 so...
  • Saintsfan 2008/07/24 00:26:51
    No, 18 is fine.
    Saintsfan
    +2
    I think you'll be ok, it's maturity that really counts. Remember the two rules 1) Don't sweat the small stuff and 2) It's all small stuff and you'll be ok.
  • LoXx Saintsfan 2008/07/25 04:45:32
    LoXx
    :)
    That advice is something I think I'll need to remember. Thank you for that.
  • sammeri 2008/07/24 00:02:12
    No, 18 is fine.
    sammeri
    +1
    thats when my mom got married
  • BoyOfTheEnders 2008/07/23 21:50:23
    No, 18 is fine.
    BoyOfTheEnders
    +1
    I left the "nest" at 17 people.
  • JoeMama 2008/07/23 21:27:52
    No, 18 is fine.
    JoeMama
    +1
    Everyone says your legal, go for it. Just don't get preggers if you don't want to.
  • HeR MaJestY... RoSe 2008/07/23 21:26:45
    No, 18 is fine.
    HeR MaJestY... RoSe
    +1
    I guess 18 is not THAT bad because mot teenagers at that age have to move out due to going out to college, etc. Its the beginning of a new life possibly which will help for future expectations.
  • coffee man 2008/07/23 21:10:22
    No, 18 is fine.
    coffee man
    +2
    I think it's great that you are considering your parents feelings and concerns in all of this. At least on the surface it seems that you have a strong enough relationship with them that they will support you in this. They are probably more worried about losing you and not ever hearing from you again. But you are right, these days it's different and it is common for people your age to leave for college. I left home at 18-19 and never really came back for any considerable length of time.
    I think your parents might just be having a hard time thinking of you not being home anymore.
  • LoXx coffee man 2008/07/25 04:46:55 (edited)
    LoXx
    That's probably true, especially since my family is so close. I'll be the first one who has EVER gone away to college so none of them realize just how common and pretty much necessary it is these days.
  • ChangaLOVE 2008/07/23 20:46:03
    Yes, 18 is too young!!
    ChangaLOVE
    +1
    Been There Done That...
  • Punkie Baybie, 2008/07/23 20:20:24
    No, 18 is fine.
    Punkie Baybie,
    +1
    18 isnt to young to move out dont woory about it 18 fine 18 young woory
  • pup 2008/07/23 20:20:11
    Undecided
    pup
    +1
    I dont know
  • ci ci 2008/07/23 19:22:32
    No, 18 is fine.
    ci ci
    +1
    it's fine because howu going ot be grown and still be living with your parents...that sounds so stupid
  • jackbaronguy 2008/07/23 19:16:07
    No, 18 is fine.
    jackbaronguy
    +1
    18 fine
    Of Course Not hehehe
  • Sassy C 2008/07/23 18:51:45
    No, 18 is fine.
    Sassy C
    +1
    18 is fine if you stay in school and don't get pregnant.
  • AlbanianGirl 2008/07/23 17:27:49
    No, 18 is fine.
    AlbanianGirl
    +1
    Hey wat's up
  • Pin Head 2008/07/23 17:26:08
    No, 18 is fine.
    Pin Head
    +1
    its fine for people who think their too old.
  • Mrs.Bieber 2008/07/23 17:18:09
    No, 18 is fine.
    Mrs.Bieber
    +2
    its only two years away from twenty.they should be going to colledge soon and being able to manage themselves.
  • meeka 2008/07/23 15:27:23
    No, 18 is fine.
    meeka
    +1
    although my brother didn't move out until he was 25!
  • xMs.Zombiex 2008/07/23 15:09:37
    No, 18 is fine.
    xMs.Zombiex
    +2
    nahh. go for it!! and good luck
  • 12345 2008/07/23 14:57:35
    No, 18 is fine.
    12345
    +1
    im 17 and I just moved out
  • Squint 2008/07/23 14:37:08
    No, 18 is fine.
    Squint
    +1
    No, 18 is OK for moving out. But you don't have a strong enough relationship with your BF to move in with him. What happens when you make this move and find out after a month that you two just can't live together. Will you have to bail out and move back with Mom and Dad (losing the college semester). I know you said you've known this guy for 6 years but you also implied it's only been a serious relationship for a short while. When you two are under the same roof things change, believe me.

    You may want to do home work at a time when he's tapping you on the shoulder asking you to give up to him, now! Sure, you'll say no because you haver to finish your homework, but 3 hours later, at 1:00 in the morning he'll still be ready but you have to get up at 6:00 - just trying to point out that there are sources of tension and disagreement when you're living together that are not there when you're just "dating". Good luck!
  • LoXx Squint 2008/07/23 18:53:12
    LoXx
    +2
    Hmm....
    this...this saddens me...because it would SO HAPPEN.
  • Squint LoXx 2008/07/23 19:02:18
    Squint
    +1
    Sorry for making you sad. But, you do have to look at ll the possible outcomes. You do seem like you have your head together!
  • LoXx Squint 2008/07/23 19:06:59
    LoXx
    +2
    Thank you. I did consider that but ahh...
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